History Main / StayInTheKitchen

* The [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0URc-caQhDc Dar Williams song, "The Babysitter's Here"]], is about a young girl and her hippie babysitter, who has a boyfriend named Tom with this attitude. The girl asks Tom if they'll get married and he replies, "Not if she's going to college, we won't." Later in the song, the teary-eyed babysitter asks the girl to never date a guy who would make her choose, revealing that she broke up with Tom and is going away to college.

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** In a comic story from the 1940s, Robin imagines what would happen if Batman were to marry Kathy Kane, the original Batwoman. Robin, insecure about his place with Bruce, imagines Batman believing in this trope to make himself feel better.

* This is the attitude of Kang the Conqueror's soldiers from the far-advanced future in Marvel Comics.

* ''ComicBook/LegionOfSuperHeroes'' has a couple of notorious '60s stories in which Brainiac 5 tries to tell Saturn Girl that the mission of the day is "too dangerous for a girl." The first time she goes along with it; the second time she insists on taking her chances along with everybody else, and the subject never comes up again.

* In ''ComicStrip/{{Blondie}}'', Dagwood at first objected furiously to Blondie starting her own catering business, as he was opposed to her working; he changed his mind quickly once she told him her predicted profit margin and realized he could [[BigEater help inspect what she made]] for her inventory.

** In her earliest stories, [[Characters/MarvelComicsCarolDanvers Carol Danvers]] got this treatment from [[Franchise/SpiderMan J. Jonah Jameson]], who, as her boss, was something of a strawman misogynist.

* ''LetsPlay/PiratesSMP'': Eloise was subjected to this treatment in her hometown, where "they won't let women have any of the cool jobs" such as journalism. As a result of this, she's had to [[SweetPollyOliver dress up as a boy]] to get her first job as a newspaper seller and work her way up; even then, she's remained unsatisfied and has since [[IntrepidReporter sailed out to sea herself to get the scoop of her dreams]].

This attitude is prevalent in [[RealLife the real world]]. UsefulNotes/TheUnitedStates military, for example, officially barred women from direct combat until 2013 with TheDulcineaEffect as their reasoning, believing that male troops would be too distracted protecting their female squad members or turn into [[RoaringRampageOfRevenge loose cannon killers]] if they got hurt, destroying their cohesiveness as a fighting force; they didn't allow women in combat zones ''at all'' until the 1990s. Women currently require roughly half of the physical requirements of men, but combat pushes even those men past their ability to contend with. In the Middle East, the male squadmates often must carry the females' packs on long patrols. Current and former female Marines and soldiers seem to approve of the military's consideration of possibly requiring female infantry to pass the male physical requirements.

* In ''VisualNovel/DanganronpaTriggerHappyHavoc'', this is largely {{inverted|Trope}}, with the girls and other guys generally encouraging the men to handle more physical stuff. When Kirigiri wants [[spoiler:someone to examine Fujisaki's dead body so they'll realize that she's a he]], Asahina tells Ohgami that she should let one of the guys do it when she offers. Kirigiri also has Naegi do things like [[spoiler:pry a scrap of paper out of Ishimaru's death grip]] and later claims he can handle [[spoiler:receiving a TapToTheHead from the Mastermind when checking out the secret room in the bathroom]] since "he's a guy", something Naegi {{lampshade|Hanging}}s.
** [[PlayingWithATrope Played straight]] in regards to Ohwada, who, in a attempt to comfort Fujisaki over being weak, tells her that girls are just naturally weak, [[spoiler:[[InnocentlyInsensitive not knowing]] ''he's'' [[InnocentlyInsensitive actually a]] WholesomeCrossdresser]], and in one of his Free Time Events, he's adamant about not fighting Ohgami because [[WouldntHitAGirl he can't hit a girl]], despite her being the [[WorldsBestWarrior Ultimate Martial Artist]]. He's also quick to assume that the first killer is a guy and threatens to beat the crap out of them, and is left in a StunnedSilence [[ArmorPiercingResponse when Naegi brings up the possibility of the culprit being a girl.]]

* Played for drama in the ''ComicBook/AstroCity'' story, "Her Dark Plastic Roots". The robot Beautie discovers that she was invented by [[spoiler:a prodigy daughter of a GadgeteerGenius. However, he denounces Beautie because he thinks engineering and mathematics are not proper fields for girls; this causes the daughter to angrily renounce Beautie, ordering her to go away and [[ExactWords "FORGET FOREVER!"]] ]]

* Mans1ay3r's ''Gamer Poop'' series has a few jokes about this, most notably the sketch from ''[[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qsIS17jJH7A Oblivion]]'' with a scam artist.

* ''WebAnimation/MoniRobo'': [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dgRIFBHYNdg Shinobu]] holds outdated views about motherhood and marriage and always chastises her daughter-in-law Kyouko Saitou for being a working woman.

* ''WebAnimation/TanabataManga'': [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KmsfLqLlMgQ A father and son pair]] force their spouses to do chores around the house. The son eventually crosses the line by forcing his 5-year old daughter Yuki to pick up the laundry in the middle of rain. One day, the son forces his daughter Yuki to make tea in front of a company president and threatens to hit her if she doesn't do what he said, causing the president to call him and his father out. The president also terminates his contract with their company and their spouses also divorce them for their trouble.

* One of the bigger problems of ''Fanfic/UndocumentedFeatures'' is that, regardless of their status in their canon series, women are almost always pushed into secondary roles while the men do all the fighting. "Justice and Mercy", in particular, is notorious for opening with ''[[LightNovel/DirtyPair Kei]]'' and ''[[Anime/ProjectAKo Eiko]]'' being practically '50s sitcom wives.

* One of the reasons Anthony's marriage to Therese in ''ComicStrip/ForBetterOrForWorse'' failed is that he somehow expected her to do this trope and give up her highly successful career in finance after the birth of their daughter...and is completely shocked that she went back to her career. This being For Better or For Worse, though, [[WriterOnBoard we're supposed to see Therese as the bad guy]]. (What makes it worse is that Anthony promised to be the HouseHusband when he convinced Therese to get pregnant, and more or less went back on his word after her birth to chase after [[StrangledByTheRedString Liz]].)

* Portrayed semi-sympathetically while being deconstructed in ''WesternAnimation/TheIncredibles'', just before the final battle with the Omnidroid. Mr. Incredible's reason isn't that he thinks his wife can't fight, but that ''he'' isn't strong enough... to lose her or the kids again (as he thought they'd been killed earlier in the film). Violet and Helen still fight anyway.

* ''Film/Prey2022'': {{Downplayed}}. Naru's mother tells her father he gave her his weapon so she could cut vegetables and doesn't see why Naru wants so badly to prove herself as a hunter, citing Naru's talents as an herbalist and potential medicine woman. The young Comanche hunters aren't too thrilled with Naru not gathering roots and herbs or preparing meals with the other women in their tribe as she was in the start of the film and regularly insult her, demean her, and question her worth. They also rough up, sucker punch her in the head from behind, and tie Naru's hands together when she tries to warn them of the monster which killed the bear and is spooking the animals. However, though their actions fit the trope very well otherwise, none of the hunters ever explicitly demean her for her gender, but rather because [[JerkassHasAPoint she]] ''[[JerkassHasAPoint is]]'' [[JerkassHasAPoint an inexperienced hunter]]. It helps Naru's case that [[BigBrotherInstinct Taabe]] is their leader and actively praises her talents in tracking, observation, and healing, which is implied to be whyy they even tolerate her tagging along.

* ''WebAnimation/TanabataManga'': [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KmsfLqLlMgQ A pair of father and son]] force their spouses to do chores around the house. The son eventually crosses the line by forcing his 5-year old daughter Yuki to pick up the laundry in the middle of rain. One day, the son forces his daughter Yuki to make tea in front of a company president and threatens to hit her if she doesn't do what he said, causing the president to call him and his father out, the the president also terminates his contract with their company and their spouses also divorce them for their trouble.

* Congolese preacher [[https://youtu.be/Lgo2xeh_5Jg Purviance Mavoungou]] caused a MemeticMutation in the Francophone world in 2020 with his infamous "Woman's place is in the kitchen!" speech. Most likely due to how [[LargeHam hammy]] it is.

-->-- ''Film/JurassicPark''

* In ''Fanfic/XMen1970'', [[Characters/MarvelComicsCyclops Scott]] believes he can get his wife to stay at home while he takes cares of an emergency, but [[Characters/MarvelComicsJeanGrey Jean]] disabuses him from that notion very, very quickly (and loudly).

* Turns up in ''Film/JurassicPark'' when John Hammond tries to argue that he should go on a dangerous mission to turn the power back on instead of Dr. Sattler. Especially ridiculous as Hammond is an 80-year-old fragile old man, while Sattler is a young, fit woman who lives in the Montana badlands digging up dinosaur bones with Dr. Grant. This is also more a case of Hammond having a bit of ValuesDissonance than him being an asshole, [[AdaptationalHeroism at least in the movie]] (the greedy, amoral Hammond of [[Literature/JurassicPark the book]] wouldn't even make the offer). WebVideo/TheNostalgiaCritic review had Doug Walker point out how it's funny that Hammond is confusing strength with gender when [[HypocriticalHumor most of the creatures on the island trying to kill him have a vagina]] (since the park bred the dinosaurs as female to avoid breeding).

** Subverted with Magus, who at a couple of points makes comments suggesting this, but it turns out to be more complicated -- his home dimension has strict gender roles, but also widly used and accepted GenderBender magic. He doesn't think women should stay in the kitchen, exactly, he thinks that if they ''don't'', they should be men!