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discodecepticon Since: Apr, 2022
Apr 26th 2022 at 7:46:29 PM •••

I'd like to see Bobby (AKA Ice Man) in the "Comic Books" section. Definitely a good fit. I know that we can't add EVERY example to any given trope, but Bobby is one of the highest profile characters who fit this trope.

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Mar 23rd 2021 at 7:36:04 AM •••

Linking to a past Trope Repair Shop thread that dealt with this page: Rename, started by DesertDragon on Oct 2nd 2010 at 8:05:15 PM

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Mar 20th 2021 at 10:23:17 AM •••

Previous Trope Repair Shop thread: Ambiguous Name, started by Solle on Feb 9th 2015 at 3:23:44 PM

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Mar 20th 2021 at 10:11:52 AM •••

Previous Trope Repair Shop thread: Not Tropeworthy, started by Zennistrad on Oct 13th 2015 at 6:41:04 AM

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Mar 20th 2021 at 9:47:23 AM •••

Previous Trope Repair Shop thread: Ambiguous Name, started by oshojabbe on Aug 26th 2016 at 2:24:18 AM

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Mar 20th 2021 at 9:44:47 AM •••

Previous Trope Repair Shop thread: Not Tropeworthy, started by MagBas on Oct 31st 2016 at 12:54:01 AM

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Mar 20th 2021 at 9:30:44 AM •••

Previous Trope Repair Shop thread: Not Tropeworthy, started by ChromaticWasp on Mar 23rd 2017 at 3:56:40 PM

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Mar 20th 2021 at 9:05:03 AM •••

Previous Trope Repair Shop thread: Not Tropeworthy, started by Pattermat on Jun 23rd 2017 at 9:17:36 PM

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Mar 20th 2021 at 8:12:35 AM •••

Previous Trope Repair Shop thread: Unclear Description, started by Betoniarz on Oct 4th 2020 at 10:55:25 PM

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Mareon Since: Aug, 2009
Jul 14th 2018 at 1:58:22 PM •••

So if this is Males only, what is the Female Counterpart? Ellie from The Last of Us was what I thought was a prime example only to now be forced to be lumpen into Butch Lesbian even though she isnt because she REALLY ISNT Lipstick Lesbian (growing up during the zombie apocalypse Will so that for you)

MonaNaito Since: Jun, 2011
Sep 23rd 2016 at 4:54:59 PM •••

Does this trope even need to exist? It just boils down to "person who does not fit the stereotype of their demographic." Think about it, People Exist Who Aren't Stereotypes might as well be People Sit On Chairs.

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WaterBlap Since: May, 2014
Jun 26th 2017 at 7:56:18 AM •••

Audiences expect a gay character to act like the kind of gay person who goes to Pride (i.e. Camp Gay). This trope notes examples that break from that expectation. It is thus a tropeworthy subject when it happens in media.

There are other tropes, such as Action Girl, that are also "people who aren't stereotypes," so you'd have to argue how those are PSOC also.

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Fortooate Since: Apr, 2010
Jul 27th 2017 at 8:57:55 PM •••

Nonsense. 'Breaking a stereotype' is not a trope in and of itself.

This trope isn't even being described well. Why does the page quote insist that all other gay men are 'nancies'? Why does the page description consist mostly of people making thinly-veiled claims that effeminate gay men are bitchy and predatory? WHY does this trope assume that a gay person who acts as described is more 'straight'?

Frankly I want this page deleted but regardless of what I want, it's a mess that needs a rehaul.

DeathsApprentice Jaded Techie Fox Since: Aug, 2011
Jaded Techie Fox
Oct 10th 2016 at 1:40:55 PM •••

I've noticed some lesbians/sapphic women listed in this page, which I find really confusing. I thought Straight Gay only applied to androsexual/romantic men, since it's supposed to be a counterpoint to Camp Gay, which also only applies to men. Or am I misunderstanding this trope?

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MonaNaito Since: Jun, 2011
Oct 30th 2016 at 3:25:20 PM •••

This trope is a mess, it's just become a dumping ground for any gay character who doesn't fit an obvious stereotype. And since "being gay" isn't a trope, IMHO this page should be dragged into TRS and maybe cut altogether.

Edited by MonaNaito
sazaika Since: Nov, 2009
Aug 14th 2013 at 10:31:13 PM •••

This tropes is getting abused a lot. People want to convey that a character is gay in their character page, and are basically flipping a coin over whether they label them as camp or straight. I agree with the above commentator that "straight" is being used as a substitute for "normal", as in the character does average things that maybe play lightly with gender expectations or be a little stereotypical, but as long as they're not camp they get called "straight gay". Check a character page of a straight gay character, it'll list information about the character's love life but NOT give any explanation about how their personality/interests/appearance make this trope apply to them.

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Solle Since: Feb, 2010
Mar 17th 2014 at 12:34:37 PM •••

I would be 100% in favour of renaming this trope to Gay And Not Camp. Because there's nothing "straight" about gay people who aren't camp. Right now the trope is open to a whole lotta abuse because of its awkward name.

MagBas Since: Jun, 2009
Mar 17th 2014 at 5:19:19 PM •••

The Camp Gay is not the only gay stereotype that exists. One of the gay stereotypes, the Manly Gay, actually, is the exact opposite of the Camp Gay.

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Nemothepandaelf Since: Jan, 2014
Jul 15th 2014 at 11:13:10 PM •••

I've always been under the impression that "straight" in straight gay just meant a gay guy that would seem heterosexual to people if he wasn't with his boyfriend. I'm kind of a living example of this trope where people won't know I have a thing for other guys unless if I say something. Until then I'm presumed straight. It is pretty confusing though and kind of tilted to making straight the "normal" standard. It should be renamed something else like Solle's Gay And Not Camp, or maybe The Gay Next Door, something that can drive in the point that this trope describes gay men that don't hit *any* stereotypes, Camp Gay or Manly Gay.

CaptainAmberg Since: Mar, 2013
May 2nd 2015 at 2:11:50 PM •••

I second the notion to rename this trope

thatguy1 Since: Aug, 2013
Aug 3rd 2013 at 7:53:27 AM •••

"something which many gay people apparently do not understand" Do I even have to say it? This whole paragraph is riddled with stereotypes and mean-spiritedness.

iAMthoseneighbours Since: Dec, 2010
Dec 6th 2010 at 4:50:33 AM •••

I'm new here, so please don't bite my head off if this has been bought up before, but I find the title quite insulting. The opposite of camp isn't 'straight' (I actually object to that being the antonym of 'gay' as well, but that's a different matter)- the opposite of camp is more along the lines of 'ineffeminate', which I admit doesn't roll off the tongue, but is less likely to cause offense.

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Gilgameshkun Since: Jan, 2001
Dec 7th 2010 at 1:03:42 AM •••

Well, from what I can tell "Straight Gay" is in reference to the unstereotypical majority of gay men who are "straight-acting" — that their behavior is indistinguishable from everyone else. I can see how it could potentially be insensitive to term it that way, since I couldn't straight-act for the life of me. I see how "straight" in such a case have be interpreted to mean "heteronormative", and thus have Unfortunate Implications. But it seems that "straight" can also simply mean "common; ordinary". Since the word is broad enough to run either extreme, it's possible that a rename could someday be truly necessary, but I don't know for now. If I had to think of an appropriate new name for this trope, it would be Inconspicuously Gay.

Anyway, non-straight-acting doesn't automatically mean effeminate either — Camp Gay tends to be effeminate, but Hard Gay tends to be very masculine, even macho (but still lights up Gaydar like a Christmas tree). But none of these are supposed to be 100% realistic — Straight Gay, Camp Gay and Hard Gay are more like stereotypical extremes. For instance, I'm somewhere inbetween this triangle of extremes, though I'm probably closest overall to Hard Gay.

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ThrobertMcGee Since: Dec, 1969
Feb 8th 2011 at 9:23:44 PM •••

Personally, I would've made an argument for the term "Stealth Gay," rather than "Straight Gay," to describe people whose homosexuality would seldom or never be suspected unless you actually witnessed them French-kissing a member of the same sex, or if they choose to mention "I'm gay".

Of course, there might be the problem that "stealth" would imply closetedness to some people, but some "Stealth Gays" are totally out of the closet. Hmmm, what about "Gaydar-Proof Gay" or "Gaydar-Invisible Gay"?

Edited by ThrobertMcGee
Gilgameshkun Since: Jan, 2001
Feb 8th 2011 at 9:29:24 PM •••

Well, stealth also implies being covert. Not all straight-acting gay people are actually acting, and in fact pretty much none of them are — they're just being themselves, and just happen to be superficially indistinguishable from average straight people.

Cameoflage Since: Jan, 2001
Jul 24th 2013 at 6:09:32 PM •••

I heard some complaints about the name of this trope today — people pointing out the Unfortunate Implications of using "straight" to mean "doesn't act like a gay stereotype" — and I was going to add it to the Trope Repair Shop but found myself unable to do that because of the cap, so for now I'll just put my thoughts here.

In addition to the Unfortunate Implications (it's basically saying "straight = normal"), the name Straight Gay is an oxymoron when taken at face value (unless you interpret "straight" as meaning something like "plain" or "vanilla" rather than "heterosexual" — it's a valid alternate meaning but that seems like an unlikely interpretation when the next word is "gay"). This could confuse newcomers.

I'd vote for Inconspicuously Gay in a name change, because it gets rid of the problems with the name Straight Gay while still straightforwardly illustrating that the character's homosexuality is inconspicuous. Stealth Gay sounds like the character's closeted rather than just being unobtrusively yet openly gay, because it sounds similar to the transgender use of "stealth": trans people who live as their chosen gender while hiding the fact that they're trans. Gaydar Invisible Gay just sounds sort of clunky and redundant.

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aaeyero aayero Since: Apr, 2011
aayero
Jul 15th 2013 at 6:23:07 PM •••

Can you really illustrate "not stereotypical" in a static image? I still had to read the article to get the trope, so it clearly does not fully illustrate the trope.

flaminghomer canadamerican Since: Feb, 2010
canadamerican
Apr 2nd 2013 at 7:55:26 PM •••

Maybe already discussed, but why is there no Real Life folder for Straight Gay? Lots of examples that don't really fit under Manly Gay.

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flaminghomer Since: Feb, 2010
Apr 4th 2013 at 4:52:26 PM •••

Nevermind!

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stuthehistoryguy Since: May, 2011
Jul 5th 2012 at 12:14:56 PM •••

Boxing champion Emile Griffith may count here; he's come out as at least bi. It does bear mentioning that welterweight challenger Benny Paret called Griffith a maricon (faggot) during a weigh-in. Griffith beat him to death in the ring.

Edited by stuthehistoryguy
GMANN Since: Apr, 2012
Apr 22nd 2012 at 3:33:24 PM •••

I think it's quite debatable whether Stephen Fry and Peter Mandelson should be on this list. While neither are overly effeminate they still fall into the more subtle end of the camp spectrum. When Mandelson was outed I don't think anyone was too surprised.

MagBas MagBas Since: Jun, 2009
MagBas
Dec 8th 2011 at 2:57:58 PM •••

    Genre 

The Bara Genre is a japanese genre. And the Manly Gay is a famous gay stereotype in Japan.

Tambov333 InformationWantsToBeFree Since: Aug, 2010
InformationWantsToBeFree
Oct 9th 2011 at 4:41:46 AM •••

Was Ernst Röhm this or Camp Gay? I'm not really sure.

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Sen Sen Since: Jan, 2001
Sen
Jun 20th 2011 at 7:03:16 AM •••

Und das ist auch gut so doesn't actually mean "And that's also good"?

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Tambov333 Since: Aug, 2010
Oct 9th 2011 at 4:40:48 AM •••

It means "and that's okay".

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SickBritKid Since: Jan, 2010
Aug 21st 2011 at 3:30:33 AM •••

"Most of his reputation probably stems from the time in the 80s where a male prostitution ring was operating out of his own house by Frank's then-lover, a male hooker named Steve Gobi. In Frank's defense, he said that he knew nothing of Gobi's activities. "

Obligatory Snark: Yeah, just like how he "knew nothing" of the disgusting financial activities of Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac...despite one of his lovers being appointed to a pretty high position(An assistant CFO, IIRC) in Freddie Mac while he had direct oversight of both firms...

/end snark

Sorry. Had to get that out of my system.

nkerklaan Since: Dec, 1969
Apr 18th 2011 at 7:36:23 PM •••

William Lee in the Naked Lunch movie is neither an Author Avatar (the movie was written by David Cronenberg, though based on the novel by William Burroughs in which "William Lee" is probably closer to a vague Self-Insert) nor a Straight Gay. While his sexuality is actually somewhat ambiguous (he has sex with two women and one man in the movie) his reason for having sex with a man (and the context in which he delivers the quote cited in the entry) is that he is ostensibly using homosexuality as a "cover" for his "secret agent mission". It seems to me that he is, at most, bisexual (the novel, and indeed the real life man, are a different story).

I'm new here so I'm not sure if it's my place to delete the entry or not but it definitely doesn't fit.

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etliay Since: Apr, 2009
Apr 16th 2011 at 6:26:49 AM •••

I'm confused. Why does the trope have female examples? Isn't Lipstick Lesbian for that?

What's the difference between a Straight Gay lesbian and a Lipstick Lesbian?

Duckay Since: Jan, 2001
Jun 13th 2010 at 2:40:52 AM •••

There seems to be a bit of a dispute over the page image. I don't have a particular problem with the current one, but I see the point that it's really ambiguous. I don't intend to just take it down without question, but to solve the issue of wanting a page image but not one that is potentially Just A Face And A Caption, like a Straight Gay couple? The difficulty in getting across that they're Straight Gay is going to be present, but maybe a picture of Omar and one of his boyfriends from The Wire (like a screencap from this scene - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hiW7foqBJLI), or Apollo and Midnighter from The Authority or something? What does everyone else think? (I know those aren't the best examples, but this is just me brainstorming.)

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GamerAmI Since: Feb, 2010
Jun 13th 2010 at 5:41:43 PM •••

I think the main issue of Just A Face And A Caption is that it assumes that everyone is familiar with the face being shown and won't need any explanation, while there is nothing about the picture to demonstrate the trope. In the case of this page, I think the lack of obvious stereotypically gay aspects of the guy in the current picture, as well as the fact that he is wearing a football uniform, makes the picture sufficient, especially considering that this trope is mostly visual in nature.

124.179.60.56 Since: Dec, 1969
Jun 14th 2010 at 12:43:20 AM •••

No, the current picture IS Just A Face And A Caption. Yes, he looks very non-stereotypically gay, but there's also no hint that he is Straight Gay. For all most people know, he's just some straight guy.

173.79.237.78 Since: Dec, 1969
Jun 14th 2010 at 7:47:16 PM •••

I agree with this. I think Smithers should be put back there, because everyone knows who Smithers is and how gay he is.

Duckay Since: Jan, 2001
Jun 14th 2010 at 11:48:03 PM •••

Smithers is way better known than whoever this guy is (some guy from Degrassi is the best I can do), but I'm still not convinced that it's the ideal page image. (Mind you, I can't think of much better, either.) Anyone else got any ideas?

TwinBird Since: Oct, 2009
Jun 14th 2010 at 8:00:36 PM •••

?

My posts make considerably more sense read in the voice of John Ratzenberger.
94.0.125.166 Since: Dec, 1969
Apr 12th 2010 at 2:19:06 PM •••

Deleted:

  • Although technically Ho Yay and not actually gay, Salem and Rios from Army Of Two are either this trope played straight or completely averted, depending on one's point of view.

You are fucking joking right?

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Gilgameshkun Since: Jan, 2001
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