The Amazing Spider-Man: In Amazing Spider-Man #12, Peter battles Doctor Octopus while weakened by a cold to save J. Jonah Jameson and Betty Brant. He is beaten and unmasked, but everyone refuses to believe he was really Spider-Man because of the poor fight he put up, thinking he just disguised himself as Spider-Man to save his boss and girlfriend. While Flash Thompson thought Peter was being dumb, Liz Allan was impressed with Peter's bravery. When Liz asks if Peter can go to a party she's having, Peter rejects her for Betty, saying she can take Flash while insulting their intelligence, saying they both deserve each other. While Flash gets angry as Peter walks away, Liz admits they both deserve that for the way they treated Peter.
Turned around just before the beginning of the One More Day storyline in Amazing Spider-Man. Spidey breaks INTO jail to showdown with the Kingpin after he sent a sniper to kill him and hit Aunt May instead. Kingpin is all suited up and ready to fight when Spidey shows up back in the black costume. He proceeds to humiliate Kingpin in a fist fight in front of all the other inmates, pointing out that for all his influence and power, Spider-Man could crush him like an insect because while he's physically just an impressive specimen of normal humanity, Spider-Man is SUPERhuman.
Peter Parker: You forgot something, Fisk. Something you should have remembered before you decided to put a bullet through someone too old and frail to get out of the way. And it's this: For all your money, for all your cruelty, for all your big talk... you don't have any real power. You can't fly, can't stick to walls, can't turn into living flame or stretch out across a twenty-foot room. At the end of the day, you're just a fat man with an attitude... a balloon just waiting for someone to stick a needle in it. And me? I'm the needle.
Also in One More Day, Mephisto in the form of Peter's future daughter calls out Peter on his selfish behavior and that he doesn't always take responsibility for his own actions.
Peter and MJ's Future Daughter: You know what your problem is? You're selfish! You're selfish and you're self-involved and you always put your pain at the center of the universe! As long as you can go to sleep with a clear conscience, you don't care who has to pay the price for that good night's sleep! The whole world has to answer for your pain, and you know why? Because making the pain big makes you big, makes your revenge big, makes you feel big!
Peter: (furiously stands up and hurls the drinks table over) You selfish- inconsiderate- MORONS! You think it's so blasted funny to step all over a guy whose only crime has been a fear of people? You think it's a million laughs to make another human being feel like dirt, to hurt him, to ruin the little bit of trust he's got left?! Well, I think it STINKS! And you can all go flush yourselves down the nearest toilet, for all I care! (the partygoers stand in ashamed silence) Mia Carrera:Y'know guys... he's right.
Versus Fusion, who held Spidey responsible for the death of his son. Spidey delivers the first part of his speech after Fusion made him think he'd broken his neck.
Spidey: Keep talking... maybe it'll drown out the sound of your own guilt. (later, after realizing Fusion's powers of persuasion) You're just a poor man's Mysterio, and I just got you figured out.
In Grim Hunt, when Spider-Man learns that all spider-based heroes are being hunted by the Kravinoffs, Peter is confronted by his clone, Kaine, who informs Peter that he literally has no chance at stopping the Kravinoffs' plan or saving their prisoners, and the only way for him to 'win' is to run away and leave the likes of Madame Webb, Mattie Franklin and Julia Carpenter to their fate. In response, Peter punches Kaine and delivers the following;
Spidey: I know you've had a crappy life, and done bad things, I get it... but I never realized what a piece of garbage you were until this moment. How can you share my DNA and be so damn selfish? We've all been hurt! We've all suffered! But the real difference between us is that I never used it as a crutch. You call it "guilt"... I call it responsibility. And by God, even if it means walking into the lion's den and not coming out... I'm not going to stand by and let people die to save myself.
Spider-Man points out to Angelo that even with the symbiote, he is still a pathetic loser.
Spidey: You're a real disappointment, you know that, Angelo? A hundred million dollars on an alien suit and you're STILL a freakin' loser. Your dad must be proud.
In Superior Spider Man, Otto Octavius (who's switched bodies with Spider-Man) gives one of these to the ghostly version of Peter Parker dwelling in his subconscious. He says Peter doesn't deserve to be Spider-Man, because he's inefficient, childish, and pathetic; his moral code has led him to go easy on criminals like The Vulture and Massacre, who only go on to do increasingly terrible things. He also points out that Peter nearly stopped him from saving a girl's life because he was afraid of being found out by the technology SpOck was presumably going to acquire afterwards. Of course, as it later turns out, even Otto admits that he was wrong.
In Amazing Spider-Man #289, Jason Macendale, the fourth Hobgoblin, received a devastating one from The Kingpin:
Hobgoblin IV: Macendale is dead! Kingpin: That would be an insignificant loss. A pathetic little man who, when beaten by a superior foe, runs like a whipped puppy to someone else to get his dirty work done. Who then obtains the equipment of his deceased enemy, makes some useless modifications, and uses this power to dispatch hapless underlings. Whom are you trying to impress? Certainly not me.
Last Remains: Kindred to Peter and Norman to Kindred in issue #55.
Kindred mocks Peter for having so many people with spider-themed names and suggests that he allows it out of guilt for his own failings and to have a family.
Norman mocks Kindred for still being the weak little boy he's been and failing to do anything to prove himself better.
In The Spectacular Spider-man #1000, Coach Flash Thompson kicks a student named Craig Williams off the football team after he learned about how he's been bullying another student to a point where he almost tried to shoot Craig with a gun until Peter Parker talked him out of it. Craig angrily told his coach that he's the victim, but Flash points out that if he wasn't such a jerk that he could do whatever he wants and that nobody has called him out up until this point, none of this wouldn't have happened. He tells Craig that he won't tolerate his bullying attitude and that he won't change his mind about cutting him of the team.
Coach Flash Thompson: And WHY did he do that Craig? Because YOU tormented him, made his life miserable. And why did you do that? Because you could... and no one called you on it. Including me. I won't turn a blind eye anymore. Craig. My decision stands.
In issue 3 of Spider-Man’s Tangled Web, Peter breaks out of being captured by his old school bully Carl King who has become the monstrous villain the Thousand. He then beats him back along with an epic "The Reason You Suck" Speech:
Spider-Man: I remember you, Carl. (punches him in the face) Not quite the same way you do. (punches him in the stomach) You think the kids at school liked you? You think they liked that you picked on kids like me? You were pathetic, Carl! You didn't know how to make friends! You were terrified of girls! All you knew was cruelty and fear, and making people nervous to get your attention! And look how far you've come, Carl! (kicks him in the chin) You're just the same old sadist you always were!
Spider-Gwen Vol. 2 #32 sees Gwen realize that Kingpin's attempts to corrupt her were entirely because he wanted to prove anyone is corruptible, and takes him to task over it.
Gwen: You think you’re cursed. Burdened by this great power. No one is as free as you. Last week you’re a crime boss. This week you’re a ninja. Your whole life is dress-up. You’re so bored and empty that you have to wear other people’s pain like a costume. And the only justice of it is that if you listen close with that magic ear of yours... you know that every word I’m saying is true. [...] You needed the thrill of being caught. You’ve been begging for someone to stop you.
Superman vs. the Amazing Spider-Man: Jameson yells at Peter that he is a horrible employee, and Peter replies that Jameson is a terrible boss.
Jameson: Do you know why I never gave you a vacation? Peter: No, Sir. Jameson: Because you're NOT hard-working -— NOT diligent -— AND there are TIMES, Peter old boy —- when I'm not even sure you're a photographer! Peter: Oh, yeah? Oh, yeah! I've had it with you, Jameson! One minute you're Mr. Glad-Hand, the working boy's friend -— the next, you put the knife in! Well, maybe that's okay for the rest of your staff -— but it isn't for me! NOT ANYMORE! I'm through being stepped on! You want me, Jameson -— find me!
Peter Parker: The Spectacular Spider-Man #6: Spider-Man gets frustrated with Jonah's vendetta and reminds him on how he has tried to kill the wall crawler on multiple occasions. He then goes on about how he went from running the Daily Bugle to making a blog that nobody reads.
Spider-Man: You... IDIOT! Keep me in line?! You've tried to kill me! Multiple times! Your vendetta is sick! In trying to MURDER ME, you created the Spider-Slayer! The Scorpion! You think I've lived without consequences?! Friends have DIED! Family have DIED! But I've saved more people than I can count! And you? You're just a pathetic old man who's wasting his life trying to stop me from helping others! And now, Instead of using a newspaper, you're holed up in your apartment on a BLOG! A blog with no comments and no readers. Jonah: I'm... I'm helping! Helping the city. Spider-Man: How?!
An early story arc subverts this hilariously. Spidey is face-to-face with the Kingpin, having taken what he needs to finally put the man in prison for murder. Being faced quietly with the first major criminal element he's seen in his short career, Peter takes out a piece of paper with a speech written specifically for the Kingpin.... The speech is a long series of You Are Fat jokes that send Kingpin into a fit of unstoppable rage.
Double subverted later that same scene, where he calls out the Kingpin for his arrogance and vindictiveness.
The Kingpin gets one a long while down the line. After teaming up with a group of other heroes to bring him down, Spidey is betrayed and captured and the Kingpin proceeds to explain to him that he knew about their plan all along and doesn't care, and goes on to tell him that he owns the rights to his image, meaning every act of heroism Spider-Man performs is indirectly funding his criminal empire. Then he lets him go, so he can make more money out of him.
Another humorous example happens after Spidey and Wolverine have had their minds forcefully swapped as punishment for Wolverine hitting on Jean. Enraged at being dragged into their petty squabble and their rather glib attitude to the utterly shitty time he'd had because of it, he lays into the X-Men. Jean herself is rather shaken, realizing her attempt to teach Logan a lesson had thoughtlessly inflicted misery and suffering on an innocent party who didn't deserve it:
Spidey: God! You know why people hate you? It's not because you're mutants!! It's because you're all a bunch of @#$@#$ $@$%@ ##@$!! That's why!! (rattles off a longer list of expletives before storming off)
The events of Peter's death has two:
The first was by Captain America to Peter, saying War Is Hell he didn't think Peter took being a hero seriously or understood life and death due to Peter penchant for quips. He came to regret this, both in the tie-in series New Ultimates Vs. Avengers, where Peter ended up Taking the Bullet the Punisher fired at Steve and later when Peter died to save his family. He later felt guilt about this and confessed at Peter's funeral to May, which is where the second one comes in.
Naturally, May didn't take too kindly to finding out to what Steve told Peter in the hours before he died and slaps him across the face the second he's done confessing before entering into a rant of her own where she tore the Ultimates a new one for their treatment of Peter and failure to help him like they'd promised — in full view of the people present to mourn Peter.
