"Anita" sounds like "I need a" or "in need of." And she could marry anyone with any last name, for example "Wang" or "Johnson."
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The Master
"To all men, the correct answer when your betrothed ask you this is always: 'What do you want?'"
Why is this the "correct" answer? I can see where it is coming from, but many men would be offended by a woman not wanting to take his name, not because they are sexist but because it is tradition and they view it as an important symbolic part of the marriage.
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I would say it's because some traditions are inherently sexist (the assumption that the man's name is the proper one) and as people come to realize this, the option to defy tradition in favor of a more egalitarian relationship becomes more socially acceptable.
The only problem I have with that is that it acts like the woman's opinion is more important than the man's. A marriage takes two people, ya know.
Don't know why something as silly as a last name would spark a debate, though. Or why you'd turn to TV Tropes for the "correct answer".
Actually a girl.
A woman's opinion is more important than her fiancee's when it comes to changing the woman's name. If this debate was about whether a husband should change his last name to match his fiancee's name the husbands opinion would be more important. That being said if a man has an opinion about whether his fiancee should keep her own name, hyphenate, or take his last name, and his wife asks for it, I wouldn't say he shouldn't share his preference, so long as he acknowledges that its her choice. The husband could think people would assume they are not married if they have different last names, or think a hyphen would complicate things, or he could not want to have to change the name he refers to her with. If the man nags his fiancee, refuses to marry her if she doesn't change her name, or believes he's making a tremendous sacrifice in letting her choose her name then he is wrong.
I can't recall what happened on 'Bones'...have we heard Angela's full name since she married Jack?
Fly High, Seek Peace
A person's name is a part of their identity (that's why we have tropes like Meaningful Rename), changing your name changes your identity, even a little. Saying that a man can force his wife to change her name implies that he can rule over her identity.
Wow, that sounded more Hippie/"Angry Feminist" than I intended.
You know, before you start something like this, it would be nice to do some research for the Anime section.
Japan has, and has had for centuries an occasionally invoked tradition of adopting the husband into the wife's family. He takes her name and the line continues from them. This is hardly unknown in Anime (the Orange road example, and most likely the Eva one, also Tobimaro and Asuka's dad from Urusei Yatsura). Or from real world history, Isoroku Yamamoto of Pearl Harbor.. infamy.
In my experience, people seem to vastly overestimate any confusion or difficulties caused by a wife keeping her name.
I think someone once asked me, "Are your parents divorced?" to which I answered, "Nope, my mother kept her name," to which he replied "Oh. cool."
People assumed I'd get tired of spelling out a hyphenated last name and drop one, but it's been the opposite really. Spelling out my name doesn't annoy me in the least, but random figures of authority deciding for me which half of my last name they'll use sure does. Luckily, people don't seem to do it as often, now that I'm an adult.