History Main / VirginShaming

Though that was rather harsh, in context it's somewhat justified insofar as Cher is not only a virgin but also hasn't really dated to speak of, and the dates she has had have been disasters, so maybe she shouldn't be acting like she's a relationship expert, and "Cher shouldn't be acting like she's a relationship expert when she's not" is a very major point of the overall plot.

* This classic example in ''Film/Clueless'':

* ''Manga/FruitsBasket'': Tohru's class puts on a performance of Cinderella. Kyo plays the prince and is extremely mopey and uninterested in the ball being held. During the performance, Arisa (who is playing his "best friend") tells him to cheer up and "it's no wonder you're still a virgin". Kyo freaks out at this and yells at her not to say stuff like that.

* ''VideoGame/Drakengard3'': Zero despises her sister Four for being a virgin, and claims she can't deal with virgins in general. In Four's case, it's justified: Intoners have an enormous sex drive, and Four's repression of her own to [[InferioritySuperiorityComplex feel superior to her siblings]] has left her a psychological wreck that has turned her into a murderous, hateful {{Jerkass}}.

* [[HornyScientist Miu Iruma]] from ''VisualNovel/DanganronpaV3KillingHarmony'' is known to do this a lot to her classmates, even though it is not confirmed if some of the students really are virgins or not. Funnily enough, when Miu gets virgin-shamed herself, she gets defensive, implying that Miu is very likely a virgin herself and is guilty of HypocriticalHumor.

* ''Manga/GunsmithCats'': In both the Manga and Anime OVA, May Hopkins always teases and shames [[GirlsWithGuns Rally Vincent]] about being a virgin, because of how obsessed she is with guns instead of traditional female interest and how she [[ObliviousToLove doesn't seem to notice]] when men are attracted to her. Hopkins, on the other hand, has [[SexGod lots of sex and is proud of it.]]

* In ''Manga/MadBull34'', weak-willed rookie cop Eddie Daizaburo is pretty embarrassed about the fact that he's a virgin -- especially considering the fact that his partner, "Sleepy" John Estes, is a DirtyCop running a prostitution racket and a well-known lothario. Sleepy tries to get a bunch of his girls to show Eddie a good time, but he's not having it because it's just not what he's looking for. Thereafter, Sleepy occasionally broaches the subject to annoy Eddie.

* ''Fanfic/ADifferentLesson'': Subverted with Tai Lung. He is indeed initially mocked (by Mantis and Monkey) for being a virgin, but this does not lessen his badass nature one bit. Eventually he does lose his virginity...but this has no bearing on his fighting ability since he in fact loses a major battle right after doing so. When he does finally defeat the BigBad later, it's as part of a team, and again his virginity or lack thereof isn't brought up nor does it have anything to do with his victory. So even when he ultimately does have sex, the attitude behind this trope still gets subverted.

* In ''Film/TheGraduate'', it could be interpreted that Ben, the protagonist, is a virgin before he sleeps with Mrs. Robinson. At the very least, he sleeps with Mrs Robinson because she challenges him on his inexperience. He acts so horribly awkward she outright asks him, and he unsuccessfully tries to deny it, so she basically dares him to prove himself. "Just because you happen to be inadequate in one way..." To his...credit?...Dustin Hoffman, 30 years old at the time, does a great job of playing a nervous, shy virgin.

* In ''Film/TenToMidnight'', Detective Paul Kessler asks SerialKiller Warren Stacy as to when was the last time he had sex with a woman and then says 'Never" because [[EstrogenBrigade girls and women]] don't want anything to with him.
* At the end of ''Film/WeekendAtBernies II'', Richard's life is saved from poisoning by a potion made with the blood of a virgin. That virgin [[UnexpectedVirgin just happened to be Larry]]. He teased Larry about it at the very end.

->''"I brought you here to bed my son, not throw him a tea party. [...] My son is 26 years old and he ain't yet a man. Twenty-six. And since he can't find a willin' woman himself..."''

* In ''Manga/MadBull34'', weak-willed rookie cop Eddie Daizaburo is pretty embarrassed about the fact that he's a virgin - especially considering the fact that his partner, "Sleepy" John Estes, is a DirtyCop running a prostitution racket and a well-known lothario. Sleepy tries to get a bunch of his girls to show Eddie a good time, but he's not having it because it's just not what he's looking for. Thereafter, Sleepy occasionally broaches the subject to annoy Eddie.

* In ''Anime/GreatPretender,'' one of Abbie's favorite insults for Makoto is to call him a virgin. He swears up and down that he isn't, but she doesn't believe him.

* This trope gets roundly mocked in ''Film/NotAnotherTeenMovie'' with Mitch, Ox, and Bruce, who go on a similar quest to lose their virginities (duly ignoring the ''Sex Club'' at school), with Ox finding love [[spoiler: with [[MyGirlIsASlut Catherine Wyler]]]], and Mitch confessing his love to Amanda Becker through a note, who responds with...
-->'''Amanda''': I don't screw every pathetic guy that gives me a letter! [[spoiler: [[NoExceptYes I give them handjobs]].]]

* In ''Film/TheFortyYearOldVirgin'', after Andy inadvertently outs himself as a virgin, his [[WithFriendsLikeThese "friends"]] and coworkers go out of their way to remind him how they think it's so weird for him never to have had sex at his age.
* Brian fears this treatment in ''Film/TheBreakfastClub'' after Bender jokingly calls him a cherry. This leads to a massive misunderstanding with Claire, forcing Brian to confirm that he is, in fact, a virgin. It's subverted when Claire says "it's okay for a guy to be a virgin", but it's brought up again later when the whole group hounds her until she admits that she is also one, hinting that even she thinks there's a double-standard at work.
* In ''Film/TenToMidnight'', Detective Paul Kessler asks SerialKiller Warren Stacy as to when was the last time he had sex with a woman and then says 'Never" because [[EstrogenBrigade girls and women]] don't want anything to with him.
* ''Film/OnceBitten'': Not only is Mark a virgin, but so are his two best friends, not for lack of trying. The bookseller makes fun of Mark, saying that if he's an 18-year old virgin, a vampire trying to get him should be the least of his worries.

* {{Deconstruct|ion}}ed in ''Literature/YouthInSexualEcstasy'': The protagonist, at first, justifies this trope and his lifestyle by saying that men should acquire experience and dexterity in order to satisfy their future partners and that only a fool would want to arrive as a virgin to marriage, then he gets rebutted by the sex therapist of the story who says that most of his male patients who suffer from sex problems during their marriage had very active sex lives in their youth, and as consequence, the experiences accumulated and they de-sensitiviced and mechanized the act, when, according to him, [[DontThinkFeel sex is not about technique and experience -- it's about feeling]].
* In Richard Wright's famous autobiography ''Black Boy,'' he recalls a co-worker who had a bad case of gonorrhea, and actually acts ''proud'' of it because it's proof he's had sex, and is therefore a real man. Richard doubts he's as proud of it as he acts, however, when he sees him urinate one day, with his teeth clenched, tears streaming out of his eyes and with a hand on the beam above him to keep from falling over in agony.
* ''Literature/TrappedOnDraconica'': Justified here. According to Leondian law, no one can take part in combat unless they have at least one child. Being a virgin means being a non-combatant which means being deadweight. In short, being a virgin is a festering spearhead in Kalak's self-confidence. [[spoiler: [[TheirFirstTime He gets over it shortly after meeting Daniar.]]]]
* Lord Straff Venture in ''Literature/MistbornTheOriginalTrilogy'' definitely subscribed to this view, and forced his son and heir, Elend Venture, to sleep with a whore when Elend was 13. This is one of the first signs of how completely screwed-up Straff is. He had his reasons though, [[spoiler: the more progeny, the bigger chance for a magic-empowered Allomancer among them]].

* Implied in Aleksis Kivi's ''Literature/SevenBrothers'' in one line, where the drunken Lauri tells Simeoni that he would weep if he saw something that girls don't show to the likes of him.

* ''Series/TheYoungOnes'', episode "Time," includes a long fight occasioned by Vyvyan mocking Rick's virginity. Another episode of the same show, "Nasty", shows the whole cast reluctant to confess virginity in the face of a vampire who drinks virgin blood.
-->'''Rick:''' What, me? Rick? A virgin? Ha, ha, ha! Just try telling that to [[BlatantLies some of the foxy chicks who owe me favours]]!\\
'''Neil:''' Well if Rick's not a virgin, then I'm not either!\\
'''Vyvyan''' Well, we'll soon find out, 'cos the vampire's gonna know! And anyone he attacks, we'll know is a sissy virgin! ''(To himself)'' God, I hope snogging with SPG[[note]]His hamster.[[/note]] counts...
* Referenced, and somewhat lampshaded, in the first episode of the first series of ''Series/{{Skins}}''.
-->'''Tony''': It's embarrassing.\\
'''Sid''': It's common and quite normal for someone of sixteen--\\
'''Tony''': --No. It's ''embarrassing'', Sid.\\
'''Sid''': ...Shit.

* ''Series/{{Smallville}}'': For the first several seasons Clark was the epitome of the innocent male virgin, to the point that it'd become somewhat of an in-joke amongst fans, who coined the term "Supervirgin." In one episode, a witch who needs the hair of two virgins for a spell successfully uses Clark's, just in case there was any doubt. Subverted in that it was later revealed Clark was worried that [[ManOfSteelWomanOfKleenex in the throes of passion, he would lose control of his powers and harm his partner]]. When he lost his powers at the beginning of season 5, he had sex with Lana the very next episode.
* Constantly used for humor on ''Series/MarriedWithChildren''. [[JadedWashout Al Bundy]] was the BigManOnCampus in high school not only because he was a football hero, but because he made it with every hot girl in his class...at least before he got married and his life went down the crapper. His son Bud has the opposite problem, constantly trying (and failing) to score with women, something for which the rest of his family teases him mercilessly.
* Atia on ''Series/{{Rome}}'' is very determined her son becomes a man. Which she emphasises with this comment:
-->'''Atia''': You will penetrate someone today or I shall burn your wretched books in the yard.
** Somewhat TruthInTelevision and less about sex for sex's sake than ticking off the boxes for things a Proper Roman Male needs to be known to do to BE a man--Octavian was at/approaching legal age, he needed to demonstrate it. (Also, note that the point is less sexual intercourse than penetration--man or woman, so long as Octavian is on top, it would "count". For Romans, male sexuality was not about the gender of the partner/target but very much about who was on top.)
* In an episode of ''Series/QuantumLeap'' the boy Sam is there to rescue (as his mother) is teased by his so-called friends for being a virgin, despite one of the friends secretly being a virgin himself.

* In the second season of ''Series/{{Galavant}}'', a potion to save Galavant's life requires a gray hair from the beard of a middle-aged virgin. King Richard initially insists that such a thing would be impossible to find, before relenting and admitting that he's a virgin (despite being fifty, a king, and ''married'').

* In an episode of ''Series/TheFreshPrinceOfBelAir'' when Carlton plays poker with Will and his friends, they reminisce about their first times. When Carlton reveals he's a virgin, Jazz keeps making fun of him.
** A variation is discussed in an earlier episode when a girl claims that she had Carlton's baby, Carlton goes along with it. When Will tracks down Carlton to the chapel where they're going to elope, he tells Will that he knew she was lying about the baby being his but didn't refute it because he didn't want people to know he's still a virgin.
* ''Series/Charmed2018'': {{Zigzagged}} in the third episode. There's some jokes at Cam's expense, but it's because he's an incel, not a virgin. Macy also finds her own virginity a bit pathetic, but her sisters reassure her it's nothing to be ashamed of, which makes this show a perfect example of the DoubleStandard that often accompanies this trope.

* ''Series/{{Burnistoun}}'': The Doberman was heavily bullied and forced to hump a pole as a teen due to being a virgin. As an adult superhero, he's still very sensitive about it.

* ''Series/{{iCarly}}'' did a G-rated version: Sam finds out that Freddie has never kissed anyone, and announces it on the web show. Cue Freddie staying home from school for two weeks due to merciless teasing. Sam eventually puts it right by calling out the bullies, since most of them have never kissed anyone either... [[{{Hypocrite}} and publicly admits that neither has she]].

* Played straight in ''VideoGame/{{Xenogears}}''. A naive Fei-Fong Wong is teased about sex by the village prostitute at the beginning of the game. By the climax of the game [[spoiler: Fei-Fong Wong and Elly begin a sexual relationship.]]

* [[HornyScientist Miu Iruma]] from ''VisualNovel/DanganronpaV3KillingHarmony'' is known to do this a lot to her classmates, even though it is not confirmed if some of the students really are virgins or not. Funnily enough, when Miu gets virgin-shamed herself, she gets defensive, implying that Miu is very likely a virgin herself and is guilty of HypocriticalHumor.

* Referenced in ''WebVideo/TheNostalgiaChick'' and ''WebVideo/TheNostalgiaCritic'' in their review of ''Film/HocusPocus'', where they wonder why the characters feel like it's so weird for a ''fifteen-year-old boy'' to be called out on as being a virgin.
* The ''WebOriginal/VirginVsChad'' meme, where the contemptible "virgin" is contrasted with the over-the-top "Chad". Parodied with [[https://knowyourmeme.com/photos/1287391-virgin-vs-chad "The Virgin Chad"]], who is worthy of admiration precisely because his religious principles have him save his virginity until marriage.
* [=YouTube=] personality [[WebVideo/DrNerdLove [=DrNerdLove=]]] comments about it in his video "The Virginity Paradox" regarding male virginity.

* "[[https://knowyourmeme.com/photos/998113-30-year-old-virgin-wizard The Official Virgin Age Meter]]" meme states that the perfect age for a man to lose his virginity is 16, while someone who is still a virgin at 20 (shown as a [[NerdsAreVirgins fat nerd]]) is "beyond saving". (Of course, this being the internet, it's hard to tell how seriously is it taken by people who post it.) However, not losing one's virginity until 30 makes one a wizard of unparalleled power.

Related to NatureAbhorsAVirgin, in which a character disclosing their virginity insures events will conspire to cure them of their shameful condition. The opposite is NatureAdoresAVirgin, where virginity is seen as special and highly admirable. Contrast SlutShaming, where characters (usually female) are derided for promiscuity rather than virginity. See also UnexpectedVirgin if a character's virginity elicits surprise. For the "logical" extreme of this trope, see EunuchsAreEvil. Closely related to SexAsRiteOfPassage.

* Subverted and partially deconstructed on ''Series/LegendsOfTomorrow''. When John Constantine needed a virgin for a spell, they used the nebbish ButtMonkey Gary. At first it seems like another joke at Gary's expense, but it turns out Gary isn't sexually inexperienced, he's gay and the spell was based on a heteronormative definition of sex.

* Film/{{Grease}}: Rare female example. [[TheIngenue Sandy]] gets this a ''lot'' over the story, especially from [[GoodBadGirl Rizzo]]. There's even a whole song dedicated to it, called "Look At Me, I'm Sandra Dee." [[spoiler:This eventually leads to her deciding to BeAWhoreToGetYourMan]].

* In ''10 To Midnight'', Detective Paul Kessler asks SerialKiller Warren Stacy as to when was the last time he had sex with a woman and then says 'Never" because [[EstrogenBrigade girls and women]] don't want anything to with him.

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* ''WebVideo/SwordArtOnlineAbridged'' has Rosalia do this to Kirito as her FamousLastWords, and [[spoiler:it takes him five episodes to manage a comeback]].

* This is a trope that comes up a lot in ''Manga/KaguyaSamaLoveIsWar'', but interestingly, this trope is mostly subverted. The only person who shames Shirogane for being a virgin is Shirogane himself. Most of the characters he interacts with never had sex either, and those that have don't have any reason to care about Shirogane and Kaguya's sex life. [[spoiler: Heck, Kaguya's friends were actually more worried about their relationship moving too ''quickly'' since Kaguya used tongue during their first kiss.]]

Contrast SlutShaming, where characters (usually female) are derided for promiscuity rather than virginity. See also UnexpectedVirgin if a character's virginity elicits surprise. For the "logical" extreme of this trope, see EunuchsAreEvil. Closely related to SexAsRiteOfPassage.

* The [[https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/virgin-vs-chad "Virgin Vs. Chad"]] meme, where the contemptible "virgin" is contrasted with the over-the-top "Chad". Parodied with [[https://knowyourmeme.com/photos/1287391-virgin-vs-chad "The Virgin Chad"]], who is worthy of admiration precisely because his religious principles have him save his virginity until marriage.

* ''WesternAnimation/SouthPark'': In "Butters' Bottom Bitch", Cartman and the other boys ridicule Butters for never having kissed a girl, which is equated to being a virgin. He ends up losing his "kiss virginity" to a girl who is selling kisses at school.

* ''Webcomic/AxisPowersHetalia'' fanfic ''[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/11886910/1/Gankona-Unnachgiebig-Unità Gankona, Unnachgiebig, Unità]]'': The homophobe does this to Italy in addition to mocking [[{{Keet}} his mannerisms]].