History Main / VirginShaming

Due to a DoubleStandard that emphasizes male promiscuity and female chastity, this trope more commonly applies to males than females. Virginity is seen as something silly that men need to get past as soon as possible, while it is often shown as desirable in women. This trope is not gender-restricted, however. Female characters are shamed in this way occasionally, especially in high school settings.

* This is a trope that comes up a lot in ''Manga/KaguyaSamaLoveIsWar'', but interestingly, this trope is mostly subverted. The only person who shames Shirogane for being a virgin is Shirogane himself. Most of the characters he interacts with have never had sex either, and those who have don't have any reason to care about Shirogane and Kaguya's sex life. [[spoiler: Heck, Kaguya's friends are actually more worried about their relationship moving too ''quickly'' since Kaguya used tongue during their first kiss.]] In one of the biggest instances of the series using DramaticIrony, Shirogane assumed that Kaguya would mock him for never having any sexual experience with a girl, whereas it's all too clear to the readers that Kaguya would take it ''very'' poorly if she thought he had his first time with a girl ''other'' than herself. She's a little overly paranoid about this, but considering Shirogane has got a ''long'' line of potential suitors, it isn't ''too'' unwarranted.

* This is a trope that comes up a lot in ''Manga/KaguyaSamaLoveIsWar'', but interestingly, this trope is mostly subverted. The only person who shames Shirogane for being a virgin is Shirogane himself. Most of the characters he interacts with have never had sex either, and those that have don't have any reason to care about Shirogane and Kaguya's sex life. [[spoiler: Heck, Kaguya's friends are actually more worried about their relationship moving too ''quickly'' since Kaguya used tongue during their first kiss.]]

* ''WebVideo/SwordArtOnlineAbridged'' has Rosalia do this to Kirito as her last words, and [[spoiler:it takes him five episodes to manage a comeback]].

* [[HornyScientist Miu Iruma]] from ''VisualNovel/DanganronpaV3KillingHarmony'' is known to do this a lot to her classmates, even though it is not confirmed if some of the students really are virgins or not. Funnily enough, when Miu gets virgin-shamed herself, she gets defensive, and this is one sign that Miu is very likely a virgin herself and is guilty of HypocriticalHumor. All that said, Miu freely admits in one of her ''Love Across the Universe'' date events that she is actually more fond of virgins than she lets on. She just… expresses it in her own Miu way, like giving a box of fap material (of which some of the contents feature herself) to Shuichi, who is one of her frequent virgin-shaming targets. In one of her ''Ultimate Talent Development Plan'' events, Miu made pink orgasm-inducing Christmas lights as a present for, as she put it, "all the lonely bastards who got no one to spend the holidays with".

* In a ''Literature/TheShipWho Sang'', whenever [[MissionControl Niall]] is annoyed with [[SapientShip Helva]] he calls her a "tin-plated virgin". When she was a few months old, her stunted, paralyzed human body was [[ManInTheMachine sealed into a life-support shell that can't be breached without killing her]], so of ''course'' she's a virgin and CantHaveSexEver. Niall is in love with her. When Helva elects not to have her mind transferred into a healthy adult human body - she's a WetwareCPU and sees her ship as her real body, and doesn't miss what she's never had - he refers to said ship as a "titanium chastity belt"

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* In ''Webcomic/ElGoonishShive'', fear of this is implied to be the reason so many guys who dated Diane lied about how far they went -- which led to her getting [[SlutShaming slut-shamed]] even though she ''is'' a virgin.

* The ''WebOriginal/VirginVsChad'' meme, where the contemptible "virgin" is contrasted with the over-the-top "Chad". Parodied with [[https://knowyourmeme.com/photos/1287391-virgin-vs-chad "The Virgin Chad"]], who is worthy of admiration precisely because his religious principles have him save his virginity until marriage.

* [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7DzDicQyxB0&ab_channel=Jehtt This parodic video]] from Jehtt, taken from of a cutscene of ''VideoGame/SonicRiders'', hilariously inverts this. When racing against Jet, Sonic shames him for not having sex as a classic teen joke, but the green bird isn't bothered by it:

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-->-- '''Magistrate Higgins''' to [[HighClassCallGirl Inara Serra]], [[Recap/FireflyE07Jaynestown "Jaynestown"]], ''Series/{{Firefly}}''

* A variation in ''Down Among the Dead Men'' Creator/WilliamTenn. Humanity is outnumbered in a BugWar, so all female soldiers have been removed from [[BridgeBunnies administrative duties]] so they can [[BabyFactory breed more soldiers]], and [[NightOfTheLivingMooks 'zombie' soldiers]] are created from recycled human protoplasm. However these soldiers think they're not real men because they can't have children. Their commanding officer [[CommonalityConnection breaks the ice with them]] by revealing that he's sterile from the radiation of a nuclear explosion.

* A variation in ''Down Among the Dead Men'' Creator/WilliamTenn. Humanity is outnumbered in a BugWar, so all female soldiers have been removed from [[BridgeBunnies administrative duties]] so they can breed more soldiers, and [[NightOfTheLivingMooks 'zombie' soldiers]] are created from recycled human protoplasm. However these soldiers think they're not real men because they can't have children. Their commanding officer [[CommonalityConnection breaks the ice with them]] by revealing that he's sterile from the radiation of a nuclear explosion.

->''"I brought you here to bed my son, not throw him a tea party. [...] My son is 26-years-old and he ain't yet a man. Twenty-six. And since he can't find a willin' woman himself..."''

** In the episode ''The 42-Year-Old Virgin'' everyone shames Stan for lying about killing anyone, comparing it to someone not losing their virginity.

* [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7DzDicQyxB0&ab_channel=Jehtt This parodic video]] of a cutscene from ''VideoGame/SonicRiders'' hilariously inverts this. When racing against Jet, Sonic shames him for being a virgin as a classic virgin joke, but the green bird isn't bothered by it:
--> "You're right, [[UnexpectedVirgin I haven't lost my virginity]]... [[InsultBackfire because I never lose]]!"

* ''LightNovel/{{Baccano}}'': Claire, despite being a virgin himself, does put some stock in this trope. Upon discovering that Firo's been living with a woman for over a year and hasn't gotten even as far as first base, he starts doubting that Firo's even human. [[spoiler:The 2002 books show that Firo manages to remain a virgin ''into his nineties'', much to the amusement of the rest of the Martillo family.]]

* ''LightNovel/FullMetalPanic'': Sousuke. Despite being through many horrible wars, being a military man, and being at the age where he ''should'' be going through puberty, Sousuke has as much understanding about sex as a 5-year-old. It's pretty safe to assume he's a virgin when he thinks that condoms are for storing water, "kissing" is a synonym for CPR, and "flirting" is trapping girls in cages and holding them captive at gunpoint. Seriously, you don't get [[ChasteHero chaster]] than him. As a matter of fact, Kurz even mocks him for it, insulting him by calling him a "gutless virgin." Being raised in the Afghan mujahideen may have had something to do with it.

-->'''Cher''': I just don't think you [and the guy you like] ... mesh well.
-->'''Tai''': (incredulous) You... don't think WE mesh well? So like, what am I even doing listening to you anyway? You're a VIRGIN who CAN'T DRIVE.

* {{Downplayed}} in ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles: Literature/WhiteNight''. The young and talented Carlos Ramirez, who behaves like a self-styled [[TheCasanova Casanova]], is identified as a virgin by sex vampire Lara Raith. Harry spends the entire climactic fight scene teasing him about it.

* {{Inverted}} in ''Literature/RascalDoesNotDreamOfBunnyGirlSenpai''. After Tomoe refuses to go out with a bit character, he starts [[SlutShaming spreading rumors of her promiscuity]] in revenge, particularly about her and main character Sakuta. Sakuta shuts him down permanently with a very loud and public announcement that not only are he and Tomoe ''not'' sleeping together, he's a virgin.

* ''Series/GeneralHospital''. After Jagger dumped Brenda for Karen, Brenda took great pleasure in taunting Karen about the fact that she was a virgin and not ready to have sex, suggesting that it was only a matter of time before Jagger dumped Karen to come back to her. She had a serious HeelRealization months later upon learning that Karen's sexual fears stemmed from having been molested as a child.

* ''Fanfic/ASongOfIceFireAndHeart'': Roxas tends to be mildly teased by his male friends for his utter lack of sexual or romantic knowledge in spite of the many, ''many'' girls throwing themselves at him, gaining the nickname of "maiden boy". It becomes a hint creepy when one remembers he's mentally two years old and physically fifteen, but is currently adventuring in the medieval Westeros in which nobody bats an eyelash over twelve-years-old having sex.

* ''LightNovel/{{Baccano}}'': Claire, despite being a virgin himself, does put some stock in this trope. Upon discovering that Firo's been [[InnocentCohabitation living with a woman for over a year and hasn't gotten even as far as first base]], he starts doubting that Firo's even human. [[spoiler:The 2002 books show that Firo manages to remain a virgin ''into his nineties'', much to the amusement of the rest of the Martillo family.]]

Though that was rather harsh, in context it's somewhat justified insofar as Cher is not only a virgin but also hasn't really dated to speak of, and the dates she has had have been disasters, so maybe she shouldn't be acting like she's a relationship expert, and "Cher shouldn't be acting like she's a relationship expert when she's not" is a very major point of the overall plot. Overall Cher's virginity isn't treated particularly positively or negatively, it's more her attitude that needs an adjustment.

* [=YouTube=] personality [[WebVideo/DrNerdLove [=DrNerdLove=]]] comments about it in his video "The Virginity Paradox" regarding male virginity.

* Referenced in ''WebVideo/TheNostalgiaChick'' and ''WebVideo/TheNostalgiaCritic'' in their review of ''Film/HocusPocus'', where they wonder why the characters feel like it's so weird for a ''15-year-old boy'' to be called out on as being a virgin.

* ''WebVideo/SwordArtOnlineAbridged'' has Rosalia do this to Kirito as her last words, and [[spoiler:it takes him five episodes to manage a comeback]].
-->'''Kirito''': I'm gettin' ''real'' tired of your first-year psych student bullshit.\\
'''Rosalia''': Enjoy this while you can; it's the deepest you'll ever ''be'' in a woman. ''(dies)''\\
'''Kirito''': [[LameComeback Yeah, well, you're dead, so...]] ...DAMNIT!

* Subverted and partially deconstructed on ''Series/LegendsOfTomorrow''. When John Constantine needed a virgin for a spell, they used the nebbish ButtMonkey Gary. At first it seems like another joke at Gary's expense, but it turns out Gary isn't sexually inexperienced, he's bisexual and the spell was based on a heteronormative definition of sex.

* In {{Film}}/MeanGirls, the burn book described a classmate "Dawn Schweitzer" as a "fat virgin."

* ''Film/OnceBitten'': Not only is Mark a virgin, but so are his two best friends, not for lack of trying. The bookseller makes fun of Mark, saying that if he's an 18-year-old virgin, a vampire trying to get him should be the least of his worries.