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* ''VisualNovel/SchoolDays'' has a tragic case. Kotonoha is dating Makoto and is convinced he loves her over Sekai. However, Makoto kind of flip flops between many lovers unbeknownst to her and [[DanceOfRomance dances with Sekai at a bonfire dance]]. Taisuke comes across Kotonoha and says Makoto doesn't consider her his girlfriend anymore. This leaves Kotonoha emotionally vulnerable and then Taisuke approaches her, hugs her intimately, and confesses he loves her while Kotonoha thinks "Makoto..." to herself in despair. Worse still, Taisuke rapes her soon after that and then she finds Makoto dancing with Sekai before she [[DespairEventHorizon collapses into despair]].

* To further Dio and Jonathan's BelligirentSexualTension in the first part of Manga/JojosBizarreAdventure, Dio decides to come on to and take the SacredFirstKiss of Erina who is the beloved of Jonathan. He does this to drive the two away from each other, and get at Jonathan, and Erina understandably can only express how disgusting she thinks Dio is for thinking he could come between them.

* Somewhat implied but not confirmed with Griffith in ''Manga/{{Berserk}}'' who is believed by a few people to have some manner of feelings towards his best warrior/friend in his army, Guts. When the latter leaves to find his own dream Griffith immediately seeks out sex with Princess Charlotte to make himself feel better about the loss of Guts, even thinking about only him during sex with her.

* The fanfic Discontinuity for ''Manga/{{Berserk}}'' features Griffith seeking out Charlotte as in canon after Guts leaves. He has sex with her while imagining she is Guts and goes as far as to tie a strip of cloth around her mouth so her voice does not distract him from his fantasy. He can not escape his depression though as he realizes he is unable to believe he is having sex with Guts and not Charlotte because he knows Guts would never be so submissive and allow him to have sex with him.

* ''Anime/RevolutionaryGirlUtena'' has a partial example. There's a sex scene between Akio and Utena in episode 33, confirmed by the shot of her naked shoulder and their hands intertwined on a bed. However, she's fourteen years old and he's way older than her, and then there's the topic of discussion. You won't be thinking of sandwiches the same way again for a good while afterwards. All the more nightmarish when you see her gasping in pain and kanji reading afterwards [[MadnessMantra "Stop it...stop it...stop it..."]]. It's like she's desperately trying to retain her composure and get her mind off of the dubious situation with Akio by talking about what she should make for lunch tomorrow or trying to deflect Akio's attention and ministrations on her by mentioning Anthy and how she needs to leave to make lunch. It also so happens that she and Anthy end up as the OfficialCouple by the series(or at least the film) end, hence her focus on Anthy during the sex scene. Also, more G-rated versions arise when we see plenty of guys, like Touga and Akio, get her involved in a romantic scene with them but all she can think of and worry about is Anthy.

* Manga/SayILoveYou: Aiko's early spotlight showed that she long obsessed over what Yamato meant to her and her poor self-esteem, to the extent that she would imagine that she was having sex with Yamato when she was sleeping with other people. Part of her development was learning to let go of that mental image she had of him.

* ''Series/InterviewWithTheVampire2022'': In "[[Recap/InterviewWithTheVampire2022S1E6LikeAngelsPutInHellByGod Like Angels Put in Hell by God]]", a nude Louis and Lestat are having sex in their bed. However, Louis is distracted from Lestat's lovemaking because he's concentrating on his telepathic discussion with Claudia (who's inside her coffin in a different room). Lestat, who had been showering Louis' neck and chest with kisses, notices that his boyfriend isn't in the moment, so he stops and speaks Louis' name to try to regain his attention. Louis then kisses Lestat on the mouth, but once Lestat resumes his amorous exploration of his lover's body, Louis remains visibly dissociated from the intimate act even after Claudia ends their psychic communication. Louis clearly isn't in the mood, but considering that Lestat had [[DomesticAbuse brutally pummeled him]] for not loving him enough, Louis is now scared to reject Lestat's sexual advances.

* ''Series/{{Friends}}'': Chandler once goes out with a woman after she mistakenly calls his apartment, thinking her ex-boyfriend lives there. Chandler thinks their sex was great...until she calls again, to tell said-ex that it was a disaster, and she had to stop herself from calling his name.

* ''VisualNovel/SchoolDays'' has a tragic case. Kotonoha is dating Makoto and is convinced he loves her over Sekai. However, Makoto kind of [[AnythingThatMoves flip flops]] between many lovers unbeknownst to her and [[DanceOfRomance dances with Sekai at a bonfire dance]]. Taisuke comes across Kotonoha and says Makoto doesn't consider her his girlfriend anymore. This leaves Kotonoha emotionally vulnerable and then Taisuke approaches her, hugs her intimately, and confesses he loves her while Kotonoha thinks "Makoto..." to herself in despair. Worse still, Taisuke rapes her soon after that and then she finds Makoto dancing with Sekai before she [[DespairEventHorizon collapses into despair]].

Compare and contrast CoitusUninterruptus, where someone nonchalantly multitasks (or deals with incoming matters) during sex.

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* ''Anime/VisionOfEscaflowne'': Hitomi is in the middle of a LoveTriangle between Van and Allen and when she is having romantic moments with Allen her mind always seems to go back to Van, after she falls for Van of course. She also thinks of her crush on Earth who looks just like Allen when in his presence.

* ''LightNovel/StrawberryPanic'': Shizuma comes on to Nagisa and feels her up. Before she can go further, she suddenly has a flashback to her [[TheLostLenore deceased girlfriend]] saying her name and stops.

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* ''Series/InterviewWithTheVampire2022'': In the sixth episode, a nude Louis and Lestat are having sex in their bed. However, Louis is distracted from Lestat's lovemaking because he's concentrating on his telepathic discussion with Claudia (who's inside her coffin in a different room). Lestat, who had been showering Louis' neck and chest with kisses, notices that his boyfriend isn't in the moment, so he stops and speaks Louis' name to try to regain his attention. Louis then kisses Lestat on the mouth, but once Lestat resumes his amorous exploration of his lover's body, Louis remains visibly dissociated from the intimate act even after Claudia ends their psychic communication. Louis clearly isn't in the mood, but considering that Lestat had [[DomesticAbuse brutally pummeled him]] for not loving him enough, Louis is now scared to reject Lestat's sexual advances.

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* ''Series/InterviewWithTheVampire2022'': In the sixth episode, a nude Louis and Lestat are having sex in their bed. However, Louis is distracted from Lestat's lovemaking because he's concentrating on his telepathic discussion with Claudia (who's inside her coffin in a different room). Lestat, who had been showering Louis' neck and chest with kisses, notices that his boyfriend isn't in the moment, so he stops and speaks Louis' name to try to regain the latter's attention. Louis then kisses Lestat on the mouth, but once Lestat resumes his amorous exploration of his lover's body, Louis remains visibly dissociated from the intimate act even after Claudia ends their psychic communication. Louis clearly isn't in the mood, but considering that Lestat had [[DomesticAbuse brutally pummeled him]] for not loving him enough, Louis is now scared to reject Lestat's sexual advances.

* The ''Franchise/HarryPotter'' {{fanfiction}} ''Fanfic/TheShoeboxProject'' has a G-rated example when Sirius is making out with his hot [[EveryoneLooksSexierIfFrench French]] girlfriend Sophie but murmurs [[UnresolvedSexualTension Remus's]] name instead. She is ''very'' displeased, and immediately responds "That is so funny. I was just thinking the same thing."

* In the ''Manga/MobPsycho100'' fanfic ''[[https://archiveofourown.org/works/18118466 Apparitions Gone Awry]]'' Serizawa is amazed when Reigen is in the moment when they make love. This is because he's only been with Suzuki before that and Suzuki was always very clinical and detached, not even caring what Serizawa enjoyed.

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* ''Film/{{Munich}}'': After experiencing the horrors throughout the film's plot, Avner stares off into the distance while having sex. He has a hundred-yard-stare and doesn't blink, as dramatic MelismaticVocals play in the background.
* In ''Film/TheNotebook'' Allie is torn on choosing between her fiance Lon, and Noah the man she had a summer-long passionate relationship with. She got engaged to Lon as she did fall for him but that was also partially because she thought Noah wasn't interested in her anymore. As it turns out, Noah had sent her love letters every day for a year but her mother intercepted them. The truth comes out and they rekindle their passionate relationship. When Lon finds out he is heartbroken as he loves Allie and wants to be with her. As he explains it to her, he knows she is madly in love with Noah, and that he has to let her go. Lon knows she will never stop thinking about Noah even if she and him did continue with their original plans and get married. Which is what he meant when he told her he doesn't want to have to convince his fiance that she should be with him and that whatever he does it won't win him her hand.

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* ''Series/{{Awkward}}'': When having sex with Matty one day, Jenna ends up seeing him as [[spoiler:her crush, Collin]]. She's so startled that she and Matty fall off the bed.

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* In ''VideoGame/DragonAgeOrigins'' if [[spoiler:Logain]] is selected to do [[spoiler:Morrigan's]] ritual, he says that he'd rather think of his dead wife than her. Rather insulted, she notes that he'd just expressed a desire to have sex with a corpse.

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* In one episode of ''WesternAnimation/FamilyGuy,'' Lois sleeps with Bill Clinton, and tries to "even the score" by letting Peter have sex with another woman. (She's a bit stunned when Peter picks [[LoveFatherLoveSon her mom]].) Peter winds up reneging at the last minute, though.

* {{Played For Laughs}} when ''WesternAnimation/AmericanDad'' did a similar plot: Francine used to [[ReallyGetsAround Really Get Around]], while Stan has only had sex with her, so she lets him sleep with another woman. Stan meets someone who's seemingly perfect for him, they're about to have sex, but then he hesitates, thinking about Francine...and then has sex with the woman anyway. (Five times!)
* ''WesternAnimation/HeyArnold'': In a G-rated version, Helga considers her true love to be Arnold, after an act of kindness done by him to her. Thus, she pines after and thinks about him all the time even though she also has a few guys pining after her at various points (i.e. Stinky and Brainy).

* A sad example in ''WesternAnimation/AvatarTheLastAirbender:'' When Sokka and Suki meet again in season two, they're about to kiss in the moonlight...but seeing the moon makes Sokka pull away. His other main LoveInterest, Yue, [[spoiler:[[HeroicSacrifice sacrificed herself]] to [[DeityOfHumanOrigin become the new Moon Spirit]]]]. He and Suki do become [[OfficialCouple official]] by the end of the series, though.

* when the two are engaging in sexual intimacy or romantic moments we see them having flashbacks/thoughts of another character. They may even have literally imagined their current partner as that one specific character. If a character suffered personal heartbreak over a relationship of any kind with someone and this trope occurs it can sometimes mean that said character is OnTheRebound. It could also mean that they are still holding feelings for that one character but may be trying to forget them to avoid further pain.

* ''Manga/BlackButler'': It is shown that Alois has [[HoYay feelings for his butler Claude]] and longs for him through his trials. When he has flashbacks to seducing [[DirtyOldMan Lord Trancy]] and being molested by him he reveals how he would think of Claude to help keep his sanity during this. It is really Trancy who thinks the moment is meant to be romantic and sensual, disturbingly, considering Alois is quite young, and he considered Alois's attempt at seduction to be genuine.
* To further Dio and Jonathan's FoeYay in the first part of Manga/JojosBizarreAdventure, Dio decides to come on to and take the SacredFirstKiss of Erina who is the beloved of Jonathan. He does this to drive the two away from each other, and get at Jonathan, and Erina understandably can only express how disgusting she thinks Dio is for thinking he could come between them.

* ''Film/{{Munich}}'': After experiencing the horrors through the film, Avner stares off into the distance while having sex. He has a hundred-yard-stare and doesn't blink, as dramatic MelismaticVocals play in the background.