History Main / NerdsAreVirgins

* The Comic Book Guy in ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'' lost his virginity to Agnes Skinner when he was in his forties. Principal Skinner, who is pretty square himself, apparently lost his to Mrs. Krabappel when he was in his early 40s (though this was heavily implied to be a lie to get the townsfolk off their backs).

* The ''Franchise/StarTrek'' episode of ''WesternAnimation/{{Futurama}}'' mentions that in Earth's past, Trekkies, after the show became a worldwide religion, were executed by being thrown into a volcano because it was "the manner best befitting virgins." Considering how many of the show's staff are themselves Trekkies, nerds or holders of advanced degrees there was a definite TakeThatUs vibe to the scene.

'''Geek #2''': You can't level up, you ate a poison mushroom in the enchanted forrest.\\

* ''Series/TheBigBangTheory'' averts this. Aside from Sheldon justifying it with his {{asexuality}}, no one else in the group is a virgin, even if Raj has trouble with women (as a result of a personality issue completely unrelated to being a nerd, and it didn't stop him from sleeping with at least two girls in the series). Played straighter with Amy. [[spoiler:As of season 9, both Sheldon and Amy have both lost their virginity to each other, making this trope fully averted.]]

* Averted in ''Series/{{Bones}}'', where the show's extensive and exotic gallery of nerds and geeks all do have sex, usually satisfactory and often perverse (and do they brag about it!). Played with in the case of Zach Addy, whom everyone initially assumes is a virgin. He tells them quite frankly that he has, and does, in fact, have sex. At one point, he asks the psychologist Sweets why everyone thinks/assumes he is a virgin.

** Averted with Abed, in that the group automatically assumes he's never had sex and doesn't know how to approach women (all with some justification) and so attempt to set him up. In turns out he does just fine due to a supreme confidence in himself.
* Also averted in ''Series/CovertAffairs''. Auggie is a genius with an affinity for anything technological. He's also ''quite'' the ladies man.
* Averted in ''Series/{{CSI}}'', when the HollywoodHomely assistant coroner displays some particularly nerdy knowledge and Nick quips "you need a girlfriend, man." The coroner replies "I'm engaged".

Now, this does have some [[Main/TruthInTelevision real life basis]], in that some nerds and geeks do lack some social skills, and take up unusual interests as a way to fill the gap in their lives (or, more unfortunately, fail to develop social skills ''because'' of said interests), or simply find them more interesting than exercising social skills. Though some might just be [[{{Asexuality}} asexual]].

* ''Series/TheBigBangTheory'' averts this. Aside from Sheldon justifying it with his {{Asexuality}}, no one else in the group is a virgin, even if Raj has trouble with women (as a result of a personality issue completely unrelated to being a nerd, and it didn't stop him from sleeping with at least two girls in the series). Played straighter with Amy. [[spoiler:As of season 9, both Sheldon and Amy have both lost their virginity to each other, making this trope fully averted.]]

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* In ''Literature/TheKingkillerChronicle'', [[TricksterMentor Elodin]] gives his students the assignment of telling him a fact they consider interesting. One of the students presents an obscure piece of mathematics. Elodin flatly tells him that his ''next'' assignment is to have sex.

* ''Series/{{Seinfeld}}'' inverts the trope and implies Virgins are Nerds. When men don't have sex, or stop having sex for a significant amount of time, the [[AllMenArePerverts 99% of their brains that are always thinking about sex]] will start to function normally and boost their intelligence and thirst for knowledge significantly (George, for example, becomes an OmnidisciplinaryScientist and learns Portugese in a matter of days). Women however, [[AManIsAlwaysEager can get sex so easily]] they take it for granted to the point where they require it to function normally, and during a dry spell start to act like someone who hasn't had their morning coffee.

If you are a nerd, then as far as fictional media are concerned, you have ''never'' gotten laid, very likely haven't gotten to first base, may have never ever stepped up to bat — and quite possibly have never so much as wandered within a mile of the ballpark.

There is also a general perception that a nerd's level of nerdiness is inversely proportionate to their chances of losing their virginity, which is a big reason that EvenNerdsHaveStandards. It also means that some nerds will [[ClosetGeek deny at least some aspects of their nerdiness]]. The reverse belief also exists. Instead of believing that nerdy hobbies prevent you from having sex, some people believe that the only reason people take up nerdy hobbies in the first place is because they can't get sex and seek a form of escapism from that fact.

** ''WebVideo/AskThatGuyWithTheGlasses'' had this answer to the ''Franchise/StarWars'' special editions and the famous TheDogShotFirst scene.

* ''Series/GoodOmens2019'': Very nerdy Newton had yet to ''kiss'' a woman before meeting Anathema, let alone have sex, when he was in his 30s.

* ''Series/GoodOmens'': Very nerdy Newton had yet to ''kiss'' a woman before meeting Anathema, let alone have sex, when he was in his 30s.

Now, this does have some [[Main/TruthInTelevision real life basis]], in that some nerds and geeks do lack some social skills, and take up unusual interests as a way to fill the gap in their lives (or, more unfortunately, fail to develop social skills ''because'' of said interests), or simply find them more interesting than exercising social skills. Some might just be [[{{Asexuality}} asexual]].

* Female example in ''Series/DerryGirls''. In one episode Clare, who's a geeky bookworm, says something to the effect of "What's the big deal about him having sex? We're all going to have sex some day." To which her friends Ashley and Erin respond, in unison, "You won't."

* An issue of the Creator/MarvelComics' ComicBook/CaptainMarVell during the Genis-Vell run used this trope when an evil sorcerer needed to sacrifice virgins to summon a demon [[TakeThatAudience and tried to use a comic book store's customers for that purpose.]] Marlow pointed out that rather than going to the time and effort of setting up a comic book store [[TakeThat he could have just gone to the nearby]] [[Franchise/StarTrek Star Trek convention]].

* Suverted in ''Literature/ShoshanYLaDamaOscura''. Almost all of the adults on the book are nerds on their own way (Except Kadiri and her nuns, Sasuke, Placida and Kokoa) but it's implied that all of those nerds have also an active sex life.

* Similarly, ''Series/ThirtyRock''[='s=] Liz Lemon is not a virgin, but merely has a terrible sex life, partly due to her bad social skills and partly due to the fact that, aside from [[StraightMan Floyd]], all the men (and one woman) she has dated turned out to be either insane or wildly unsuitable in some way.

* In ''Series/{{Community}}'', Jeff Winger jokes that the math club has improved so dramatically at paintball that they must have been practicing... while everyone else was having sex.

* Gary from ''Webcomic/MenageA3'', [[spoiler:although he did get laid eventually. A few times, even. And he later gained a reputation as an [[SexGod master of cunnilingus]], so he has women literally lined up outside his door mos of the time. Unfortunately most of them just want to use him like a glorified vibrator so he doesn't get much out of this reputation other than a sore jaw, and he's too much of an ExtremeDoormat to say no]].

* Marigold in ''Webcomic/QuestionableContent'' is a [[VideoGame/WorldOfWarcraft World of Warcraft-playing]] YaoiFangirl with zero boyfriends to her name, who admits that she has "never seen a dick". She later manages to find a sort-of boyfriend or two ... at least one of whom, Dale, [[http://questionablecontent.net/view.php?comic=2567 is himself a rather nerdy [=WoW-playing=] virgin.]] The trope is averted as of [[http://questionablecontent.net/view.php?comic=2639 this strip]], where[[spoiler: Marigold and Dale hook up]].

* Ruby in ''Webcomic/StickyDillyBuns'' is something of a nerd and clearly a virgin. Admittedly, she has [[FreudianExcuse significant issues]] in addition to her relatively subtle nerdiness.

-->'''Fred''': Wait. You don't want teenagers havin' sex but you don't want 'em playin' ''TableTopGames/DungeonsAndDragons'' either? Isn't that like sayin' you don't want 'em to get sick [[HilariousInHindsight but you'd hate to see them get vaccinations]]?

* Like its Creator/SethMacFarlane companions, ''WesternAnimation/AmericanDad'' has this in effect with Steve, Barry, Snots, and Toshi. Many episodes have a subplot involving either Steve or Steve and his friends trying to overcome their nerdiness and get some.

-->'''Chandler''': Didn't you read ''Literature/LordOfTheRings'' in high school?\\

** [[WebVideo/BumReviews Chester A. Bum]] noted this in his review of the new ''Film/StarTrek''.

->'''Hardison''': Looks like an ordinary cell phone, right? It's not, man. It's a metal detector. See, it uses pulse-induction technology that sends out a current that generates a magnetic field, and then... are you even listening?\\
'''Eliot''': Yeah.\\
'''Hardison''': Well, what'd I say?\\
'''Eliot''': You were explaining how you're still a virgin?

If you are a nerd, then as far as fictional media are concerned, you have ''never'' gotten laid, very likely haven't gotten to first base, may have never ever stepped up to bat -- and quite possibly have never so much as wandered within a mile of the ballpark.

Now, this does have some [[Main/TruthInTelevision real life basis,]] in that some nerds and geeks do lack some social skills, and take up unusual interests as a way to fill the gap in their lives (or, more unfortunately, fail to develop social skills ''because'' of said interests), or simply find them more interesting than exercising social skills. Some might just be [[{{Asexuality}} asexual]].

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* ''Film/RevengeOfTheNerds'' plays with this in varying degrees. Clearly some of the nerds are out of their depth sexually, but Gilbert seems fine at attracting nerdy girls, Lewis comes off as a sexual maestro, and Booger clearly has enough experience to take an illegitimate child scare seriously in the fourth movie.

* In ''Film/TheBreakfastClub'', Brian Johnson (the "brain") is a virgin... but so are Claire (the princess) and Alison (the basket case). However, Alison and Claire both get together with Bender and Andy at the end, while Brian is left alone and single.
* Implied in ''Film/DeadPoetsSociety'':
-->'''[[TheSmartGuy Meeks]]''': I'll try anything once!\\
'''[[JerkWithAHeartOfGold Charlie]]''': Except sex!

* Averted in ''Film/MeanGirls''. There, the school has the sexually active band geeks.

* Referenced in ''Film/{{Transformers}}'' when Glenn is being held for interrogation by the FBI.
-->'''Glenn''': I have done NOTHING bad my entire life! Hey man, I'm still a virgin.

* ''Enforced'' by WebVideo/TheAngryVideoGameNerd in ''Film/AngryVideoGameNerdTheMovie'', who tells his protégé Cooper that true nerdhood means forsaking the pursuit of social interaction -- especially dating and sex -- for the pursuit of your chosen hobbies. Or, to summarize: "[[BrosBeforeHoes Nerds before birds]]". [[spoiler:He's fine with Cooper hooking up with Mandy at the end of the movie, though]].

* Suverted in ''Literature/ShoshanYLaDamaOscura''. Almost all of the adults on the book are nerds on their own way (Except Kadiri and her nuns, Sasuke, Placida and Kokoa) but it's implied that all of those nerds have also an active sex life.

* Similarly, ''Series/ThirtyRock''[='s=] Liz Lemon is not a virgin, but merely has a terrible sex life, partly due to her bad social skills and partly due to the fact that, aside from [[StraightMan Floyd]], all the men (and one woman) she has dated turned out to be either insane or wildly unsuitable in some way.

* ''Series/{{Supernatural}}'':
** Sam has been [[FreakyFridayFlip body-swapped]] with a teenage boy and is looking through the kid's stuff.
--->'''Sam''': ''[checking out his new face]'' Who ''are'' you? ''[finds Advanced Physics and Chemistry textbooks]'' Smart kid. ''[finds [[Franchise/StarWars Darth Vader]] T-shirt]'' Virgin. ''[finds porn magazine]'' Frustrated Virgin.
** Subverted with Charlie, a semi-recurring character who {{LARP}}s and loves Franchise/HarryPotter among other nerdy endeavours, and is a lesbian [[ThePornomancer Pornomancer]] that can bed pretty much any woman she looks at, even once crossing the species boundary and making out with a [[FairySexy fairy]]. She probably also banged Dorothy from ''Literature/TheWizardOfOz'', but that's not confirmed.
** Also both brothers are both a little bit nerdy, Dean constantly [[ShoutOut dropping references]] and Sam being a former law student, and seem to have no trouble getting laid. It probably helps that they [[MrFanservice don't look remotely nerdy]].
** In one episode, Sam and Bobby both make fun of Dean for not having heard of Creator/HPLovecraft or any of his works. Dean then shoots back, "Sorry, I guess I was too busy having ''sex'' with '''''women'''''." Of course, EvenNerdsHaveStandards, and later in the same episode, Bobby is talking to a guy who [[CollectorOfTheStrange collects Lovecraft's private correspondence letters]] and snarks, "You must be catnip to the ladies".
* On ''Series/TheOC'', HollywoodNerd Seth is stated to be a virgin at the beginning of the series, but it doesn't stay that way.
** Of course, so are Summer and Marissa.
* Averted in ''Series/{{Bones}}'', where the show's extensive and exotic gallery of nerds and geeks all do have sex, usually satisfactory and often perverse (and do they brag about it!). Played with in the case of Zach Addy, whom everyone initially assumes is a virgin. He tells them quite frankly that he has, and does, in fact, have sex. At one point, he asks the psychologist Sweets why everyone thinks/assumes he is a virgin.

* ''Series/{{Seinfeld}}'' inverts the trope and implies Virgins are Nerds. When men don't have sex, or stop having sex for a significant amount of time, the [[AllMenArePerverts 99% of their brains that are always thinking about sex]] will start to function normally and boost their intelligence and thirst for knowledge significantly (George, for example, becomes an OmnidisciplinaryScientist and learns Portugese in a matter of days). Women however, [[AManIsAlwaysEager can get sex so easily]] they take it for granted to the point where they require it to function normally, and during a dry spell start to act like someone who hasn't had their morning coffee.
* Averted in ''Series/{{CSI}}'', when the HollywoodHomely assistant coroner displays some particularly nerdy knowledge and Nick quips "you need a girlfriend, man." The coroner replies "I'm engaged".
* {{Subverted}} in ''Film/{{Clueless}}:'' the main characters are doing a school assignment with a nerdy girl who keeps running off to throw up. At first they assume she has an eating disorder; instead, it turns out that [[MorningSickness she's likely pregnant]], which they get a test to confirm. (Note that all three of the [[LovableAlphaBitch popular protagonists]] are virgins up until about the last episode.) The girl's boyfriend, though [[TheUnseen unseen]], is apparently a massive dork himself.
* ''[[Series/LateNight Late Night With Conan O'Brien]]'' made this joke a lot. It went so far that, one year, at Comic Con Triumph The Insult Comic Dog went around interviewing the attendees and seeing how much they really knew about sex, including Triumph holding a picture of a vagina and asking the men in attendance to identify it. [[spoiler: No one did.]]

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* The Comic Book Guy in ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'' lost his virginity to Agnes Skinner when he was in his forties. Principal Skinner, who is pretty square himself, apparently lost his to Mrs. Krabappel when he was in his early 40s.

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* In a podcast, writer David S. Goyer asked, "How many people in the audience have heard of Martian Manhunter?" After some reaction from the audience, he asked, "How many people that raised their hands have ever been laid?" (That one of the architects of the DCCinematicUniverse expressed this view of the franchise's core audience [[http://www.themarysue.com/david-goyer-calls-she-hulk-sex-fantasy/ did not go over well]].)

** Averted with most of the TGWTG crew though. Creator/DougWalker is married, his brother is married, and Linkara, Spoony, & Lindsay have all been in long-term relationships.