History Main / MyGirlIsNotASlut

For the last few hundred or more years, sexually active men have often been admired for their virility and sexual "conquests" (unless he is a cad, or [[UnusualEuphemism picking only low hanging fruit]])[[note]]It's not like things have always been that way for everyone. Culture in [[UsefulNotes/DynastiesFromShangToQing Ming Dynasty China]], for instance, held that a man was manly either by being a chaste warrior or an incredibly promiscuous and scholarly/cultured [[{{bishounen}} pretty-boy]]. One's life expectancy was supposed to be ''radically'' shorter if one was in the latter category, in part because medical science speculated that male ejaculation entailed transferring some of one's finite store of (male) life force to the receiver (which is why male masturbation was avoided by anyone with good sense), but largely because of all the jealous lovers and husbands, not to mention [=STIs=].[[/note]] while a sexually active woman is more likely to be seen as being a trashy whore. For a man, the loss of his virginity is an achievement. For a woman, it is a surrender or, if outside of marriage, [[DefiledForever a filthy defilement]]. Before birth control became readily available, this DoubleStandard probably had something to do with how a man can have hundreds of partners without any discernible consequence (barring [=STDs=]), whereas a woman in the same position would most likely be irreversibly changed into a mother forever.

This means that the leading lady will be in a monogamous "meaningful relationship", usually with the leading man, while the leading man will have a varied and adventurous sex life. Anyone knocking the chastity of the hero's girl is even more likely to get punched out than anyone calling the hero [[VirginShaming a virgin]]. It could sometimes look like TheHero can womanize happily to his heart's (or other organs') content, but [[IWillWaitForYou his best girl will still wait for him]]. This is why NatureAdoresAVirgin.

This is OlderThanFeudalism, due to the historical sexual DoubleStandard.

* ''Literature/TheHanSoloTrilogy'': Han is very upset when he finds Bria is the (apparent) concubine of a Moff, saying he never imagined she'd be so "cheap". Later he learns the truth (Bria was just {{the beard}} to the Moff as cover for spying on behalf of the Corellian Resistance). In fact, she hasn't even ''been'' with any men after Han, but he's had about four different girlfriends since her.

* Deconstructed in ''Webcomic/ElGoonishShive'': Diane discovers she has [[SlutShaming a reputation]] because guys have been lying about her since AManIsNotAVirgin. When she reveals the truth (that she ''is'' a virgin), several of the guys who lied (and some who didn't) admit they're also virgins ... and one girl admits she ''isn't''.

-->'''Crowd''': You Christian slut! I bet you had sex with your priest!\\
''Jerry's Narration''': I knew deep down that Annabeth was not a slut. Although she was a prostitute when she was under the controls of the false gods Zeus and Venus since she had converted to Christianity she had stayed clean.

* Bollywood movie - ''Patiala House''. The heroine takes care of a boy and everyone assumes that the boy is her son. They have a scene that is introduced for the sole purpose of telling the viewer that the boy is not her son, and yes, the heroine is a virgin.

* OlderThanFeudalism: Odysseus of Creator/{{Homer}}'s ''Literature/TheOdyssey'' slept with both Circe and later Calypso (although it may not have been voluntary, as he is described as trying to fight her desire, she "compelled him") without any criticism from other characters, the gods, or the narrators. Back at home, Odysseus's wife Penelope remained faithful for 20 years, which was sort of the minimum acceptable behavior for a woman -- the unfaithful women in the story, Helen and Clytemnaestra, are viewed as responsible for some pretty major tragedies. After Odysseus returns, he goes as far as killing all of the '''maids''' who slept with the suitors even though they just worked for him. Plus, you have three virgin goddesses (Hestia, Athena, Artemis) but ''definitely'' no virgin gods. Calypso even complains about this double standard -- male gods take human lovers all the time, but they object when a goddess does the same.

* Invoked in the {{josei}} manga ''Manga/ParadiseKiss''. It is revealed two boys and a girl ([[spoiler:Arashi, Tokumori, and Miwako]]) were in a LoveTriangle in the past. Around the same time, we also find out the guy who got the girl, [[spoiler:Arashi]], forced her to lose her virginity with him. This is a source of many issues for the couple, because along with the (''understandable'') massive guilt he feels for the act itself, he thinks by raping her he stole her chances to change her mind and get together with [[spoiler: Tokumori]] instead (it's even hinted he did it as a desperate measure to force her to stay with him in the first place). Then again, this series loves [[{{Deconstruction}} deconstructing]] shojo clichés.

* A strange case happened in ''Manga/TheComicArtistAndHisAssistants''. While it does not involve any LoveInterest, but being a {{moe}} enthusiast, Aito has that kind of sentiment towards the girls he created in his manga. In one skit he actually had a HeroicBSOD just because by drawing the [[SeriousBusiness wrong type of]] PantyShot, he inadvertently portrayed them as sluts[[note]]Specifically, he found out {{otaku}} actually see showing the ''entire'' pair of panties no different from deliberately flashing.[[/note]].

* A strange case happened in ''Manga/TheComicArtistAndHisAssistants''. While it does not involve any LoveInterest, but being a {{moe}} enthusiast, Aito has that kind of sentiment towards the girls he created in his manga. In one skit he actually had a HeroicBSOD just because by drawing the [[SeriousBusiness wrong type of]] panty shot, he inadvertently portrayed them as sluts[[note]]Specifically, he found out {{otaku}} actually see showing the ''entire'' pair of panties no different from deliberately flashing.[[/note]].

* A strange case happened in ''Manga/TheComicArtistAndHisAssistants''. While it does not involve any LoveInterest, but being a {{moe}} enthusiast, Aito has that kind of sentiment towards the girls he created in his manga. In one skit he actually had a HeroicBSOD just because by drawing the [[SeriousBusiness wrong type of]] PantyShot, he inadvertently portrayed them as sluts[[note]]Specifically, he found out {{otaku}} actually see showing the ''entire'' pair of panties no different from deliberately flashing.[[/note]].

** The whole Parker storyline certainly looks like a pretty hefty critique of promiscuous men. Parker makes a habit of bedding as many women as possible, and ends up being insulted immeasurable times, punched once, nearly burned to death, and knocked out with a branch twice before being promptly PutOnABus. Meanwhile, Buffy, who was one of Parker's brief flings, is told firmly by Xander that she is ''not'' a slut and is supported through the painful experience by all of her friends.
*** Parker isn't bashed for sleeping with lots of women, just for the way he treats them.

* Creator/RoseMcGowan invoked this trope when it came to her character Paige on ''Series/{{Charmed|1998}}'' specifically in season 5. Paige was often seen with a different guy every episode, including one that only appeared in a brief raunchy scene on the couch with her. She claims to have gone to the writers and said "Paige isn't a ho". All of Paige's love interests from then on are fairly long term.
** Similarly Phoebe gets the word "slut" hurled at her by many fans due to a combination of the many guys she had in the show's run and the skimpy outfits she always wore. While the outfits were understandable, all of the guys she had were steady boyfriends that lasted several episodes at least. While it's true she had a lot more love interests than any of her sisters it's always more out of a desire for love than anything else.

** However, on the episode "The Naked Man," Robin sleeps with a guy on the first date and Marshall shames her for being a slut, saying the only reason anyone should have sex is for love. Robin goes on another date with the guy, despite having nothing in common, to prove she's not a slut. By the end of the episode, Marshall takes back what he said because Lily made a list of 50 reasons to have sex other than love.

* Averted in the Harry Potter fanfic ''Say you don't want it''. Emma was definitely not a virgin before deciding to add Remus to her list. She became monogamous when she was in a stable relationship, though.
* This trope is why Anthony was pissed upon finding out Elizabeth wasn't a virgin in ''FanFic/TheNewRetcons'', driving Elizabeth out of the wedding suite [[spoiler:and right into Warren Blackwood's arms, [[ChocolateBaby leading directly to James Allen's conception]].]]

* Piercing Gaze's opinion of The Great And Powerful Trixie in Fanfic/ALongNightAtTheHippodrome. Fully [[JustifiedTrope justified]], as Trixie was a virgin when he [[ButLiquorIsQuicker semi-accidentally]] seduced her, and as she is either [[{{Asexuality}} semi-asexual]] or has a ParalyzingFearOfSexuality (it's not obvious which), promiscuity is not one of Trixie's (many) [[AntiHero character flaws]].
* Averted and downplayed in FanFic/Gensokyo20XX with Ran. She isn't a virgin, as she has had sex before in 20XXI, that having been her first and only at the time, but her fiance later husband Ren knows and doesn't mind, as she was honest about it and has long moved on from that previous one and neither is she considered slutty or a whore.

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