History Main / TurnedOffByTheJerkass

** More generally speaking, several stories in the collection have Marinette/Ladybug rejecting Adrien/Chat Noir for acting [[EntitledToHaveYou entitled to her]], as he refuses to take no for an answer. ''Masked Hearts'' stands out as he spends two years dating Kagami there, only to '''immediately''' reveal his identity to Ladybug and ask her out after Hawkmoth is defeated ''in front of his girlfriend''. Both girls are disgusted by his behavior, with Kagami dumping him then and there.

** ''A Price to Pay'' also has Marinette make clear to Adrien that he has absolutely ''no chance'' of rebuilding ''any'' kind of positive relationship with her after his [[FaceHeelTurn betrayal]] and how he helped his father [[TheBadGuyWins make that Wish]] in the first place.
** More generally speaking, several stories in the collection have Marinette/Ladybug rejecting Adrien/Chat Noir for acting [[EntitledToHaveYou entitled to her]], as he refuses to take no for an answer. ''Masked Hearts'' stands out as he spends two years dating Kagami there, only to '''immediately''' reveal his identity to Ladybug and ask her out after Hawkmoth is defeated, in front of his girlfriend.

* ''Fanfic/MiraculousLadybugSaltShots'': In ''A Price to Pay'', Emelie is revived by Gabriel making a [[RealityWarpingIsNotAToy reality-rewriting]] Wish. As part of the price, Tom Dupain-Cheng is [[BalancingDeathsBooks killed in a car accident]] which her husband caused. Gabriel [[ScrewTheRulesIHaveMoney bribes his way]] to being found "innocent" in court; when the verdict is handed down, he [[EvilGloating bursts out laughing]], convinced that he's just pulled a KarmaHoudini. Emelie is so disgusted by his LackOfEmpathy that she divorces him, [[IHaveNoSon disowning Adrien]] as well for [[PunishedForSympathy defending his father]] and claiming he hadn't done anything wrong.
-->'''Emilie:''' You ''paid'' for them to be in your favor. For you to win the case. Even though the evidence clearly showed that it was your fault. I will ''never'' be with a man like that. You had the audacity to laugh when it was over. I realized you weren't the same person that I married that day.

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* ''Manga/FruitsBasket'': Kakeru Manabe [[spoiler:calls Tohru whiny and disgusting for openly grieving during her mother's funeral and tells her that she's not the only one who lost a parent in the accident. His girlfriend Komaki Nakao (who lost her father in the same accident that killed Tohru's mother) is utterly furious with him and rejects his claims that he was doing it on her behalf, almost breaking up with him as a result and forcing him to apologize to Tohru]].

* In ''WesternAnimation/TheLoudHouse'' fanfic ''Diary of a Loud'' (now taken down but covered on Episode 7 of ''Fanfic/PeekingThroughTheFourthWall''), Ronnie Anne breaks up with Lincoln after he [[EyeScream punches his little sister Lola in the eye]], [[TheToothHurts knocks out two of her teeth]], and [[StaircaseTumble knocks her downstairs]] because she shared his diary with her classmates.
* ''[[Fanfic/MiraculousLadybugSaltShots A Price to Pay]]'': Emilie is brought back to life with a Wish [[BalancingDeathsBooks at the cost of Tom Dupain-Cheng's life]], which her husband Gabriel caused from a car accident. Revulsed by Gabriel [[ScrewTheRulesIHaveMoney bribing his way out a conviction]] and ''[[EvilGloating laughing]]'' about it, she divorces him. She also [[IHaveNoSon disowns Adrien]] because he defended Gabriel.

* ''WesternAnimation/RudolphTheRedNosedReindeer1998'': Zoey breaks up with [[TheBully Arrow]] after he makes Rudolph disqualified from Reindeer Games by his cheating.

* ''Film/YouveGotMail'': Played with:
** Downplayed with Joe and Patricia. When they get stuck in an elevator with two other people, first, Patricia yells at Juan the service guy over the elevator emergency phone. Then, when the other two passengers are genuinely worried about their safety and discussing deep, meaningful things they would do for their loved ones if they ever got out of the elevator, Patricia is wholly focused on shallow, self-centered concerns. Joe breaks up with her offscreen and moves out of her place.
** Subverted with Kathleen and Frank. While they get into a fight after Frank calls Kathleen's family friend Birdie crazy for [[ItMakesSenseInContext falling in love with Generalissimo Franco]] as a young woman, Frank ends up relenting and apologizing to her, confessing he's not in love with Kathleen and has fallen in love with someone else. Kathleen, who is also not in love with Frank, forgives him and they break up amicably.

* ''{{Literature/Animorphs}}'': Early in the series, Cassie and Rachel have crushes on a [[TeenIdol teenaged heartthrob]] that go away pretty quickly once they find out [[LesCollaborateurs he's willing to work with the Sharing]] (the organization used by the Yeerks to find and make more Controllers).

* ''Literature/SherlockHolmes'':
** In the short story, "The Adventure of the Norwood Builder", Mrs [=McFarlane=] was once engaged to the titular character, Jonas Oldacre, but broke up with him after being appalled at his cruelty in setting a cat loose in an aviary. [[spoiler:He wickedly plotted revenge for this, and retaliated years later by faking his own death and trying to frame her only son for his "murder", but fortunately Holmes put a stop to this.]]
** In "The Norwood Builder", Holmes learns that the titular VictimOfTheWeek was once a suitor of the accused's mother, who broke off with him after learning he'd set a cat loose in an aviary, among other things. It rankled to the point where [[spoiler:years later, he faked his death to escape his debts while arranging for her son to hang for the crime.]]

** In the episode, "The Why of Fry", Leela is on a date with The Mayor's Aide (as he loves to remind everyone). He [[ScrewTheRulesIHaveConnections shows off by using his status (dubiously)]], culminating in booking the entire ice rink so he and Leela can skate alone. Unfortunately, the children of the local Orphanarium were planning to go skating and look on sadly. Leela suggests they let them skate, which he scoffs at, shouting at them to get connections. This goes over as well as you'd expect.

* ''WesternAnimation/SpongebobSquarepants'': The episode "Love that Squid" has Spongebob trying to help Squidward get ready for a date. After numerous disasters, Squidward finally snaps at Spongebob, [[RightBehindMe not realizing his date is right behind him as he is doing so]]. Seeing her disapproving look, Squidward asks if she's now turned off by seeing his brutish behavior. [[spoiler:It ends up being subverted as she actually likes Squidward even more after seeing that as she appreciates a man who doesn't suffer fools, much to his delight]].

* In ''WesternAnimation/TheLoudHouse'' fanfic ''Diary of a Loud'' (now taken down, but covered on Episode 7 of ''Fanfic/PeekingThroughTheFourthWall''), Ronnie Anne breaks up with Lincoln after he [[EyeScream punches his little sister Lola in the eye]], [[TheToothHurts knocks out two of her teeth]], and [[StaircaseTumble knocks her downstairs]] because she shared his diary with her classmates.

* ''Literature/PrideAndPrejudice'': ZigZaggedTrope. Elizabeth's main reasons for rejecting Darcy's first proposal are his meddling in the courtship of her sister Jane with Mr. Bingley, and the way she believes he withheld George Wickham's inheritance from Darcy's father for selfish reasons. However, she realizes JerkassHasAPoint when Mr. Darcy sends her a letter explaining his behavior. On the first count, he genuinely believed Jane [[GoldDigger only wanted Bingley for his money]] because Jane is so passive in expressing her feelings and her mother was raving in public about Bingley's fortune. On the second count, George Wickham lied about the circumstances behind the inheritance issue -- he ''did'' receive the money, but wasted it, and then preyed on Darcy's little sister to get at ''her'' fortune. Because of this and some character development on both their parts, they eventually do get together.

** Dash, [[WastedBeauty despite being]] a handsome, [[BigJerkOnCampus popular]] high school [[JerkJock quarterback]], ends up repulsing a lot of the girls he hits on partly because of being an obnoxious [[TheBully bully]] who [[AttemptedHomewrecker tries to steal other guy's girlfriends]].
** Danny doesn't hesitate to cancel his dates with [[WesternAnimation/CodenameKidsNextDoor Cree]] and [[WesternAnimation/TheFairlyOddParents Vicky]] after learning that they're [[WouldHurtAChild child abusers]]. He gives them a score of ''zero'', something he did for no other girl, simply because [[ChildAbuseIsASpecialKindOfEvil he found their abuse of children that reprehensible]].

* ''Film/RunFatboyRun'': Dennis' ex-girlfriend is quite okay with her new boyfriend Wint, who is TheAce (at least comparatively to Dennis), and Dennis can see that he is a jerk but cannot convince her of it. But she ditches him the very second he becomes irritated about her son changing channels on the TV of the hospital room where he is staying after a minor accident on a marathon and yells at the kid "choose one channel and stick to it, [[PrecisionFStrike you little shit]]!"

* ''WesternAnimation/TheProudFamily'': In the Episode [[Recap/TheProudFamilyS1E16ILoveYouPennyProud I Love You Penny Proud,]] Penny dates a wheelchair-using boy named Johnny, who seems angelic at first but during her family's ski, trip he turns out to be very [[BitchInSheepsClothing rude and obnoxious.]] When Penny breaks up with him, she makes it clear that it's not because he's in a wheelchair, it's because he's not a [[JerkAss nice person.]]
* ''WesternAnimation/SpongebobSquarepants'': The episode "Love that Squid" has Spongebob trying to help Squidward get ready for a date. After numerous disasters, Squidward finally snaps at Spongebob, [[RightBehindMe not realizing his date is right behind him as he is doing so]]. Seeing her disapproving look, Squidward asks if she's now turned off by seeing his brutish behavior. [[spoiler:It ends up being subverted as she actually likes Squidward even more after seeing that as she appreciates a man who doesn't suffer fools]].

The cruel act itself could manifest itself in different ways; someone who believes in being NiceToTheWaiter would naturally be repulsed by anyone who is rude to those beneath them in social standing. Someone who is protective of their friends and/or family won't be pleased to learn that they are being abused or insulted and won't be in a hurry to get/stay with anyone who does so. If the person discovers that their crush/partner treated their previous partners poorly, then they would dump them for not only being an awful person but also out of a sense of self-preservation. If a crush/partner is AWolfInSheepsClothing, their admirer/partner will end up losing interest/dumping them once the [[BitchInSheepsClothing crush/partner's]] true nature is revealed. If the Jerkass is a [[PoliticallyIncorrectVillain bigot]], the person will be disgusted even if they aren't part of a group the Jerkass is prejudiced towards.

The cruel act itself could manifest itself in different ways; someone who believes in being NiceToTheWaiter would naturally be repulsed by anyone who is rude to those beneath them in social standing. Someone who is protective of their friends and/or family won't be pleased to learn that they are being abused or insulted and won't be in a hurry to get/stay with anyone who does so. If the person discovers that their crush/partner treated their previous partners poorly, then they would dump them for not only being an awful person but also out of a sense of self-preservation. If a crush/partner is AWolfInSheepsClothing, their admirer/partner will end up losing interest/dumping them once the [[BitchInSheepsClothing crush/partner's]] true nature is revealed.

* ''WesternAnimation/WallaceAndGromit'': ''WesternAnimation/TheCurseOfTheWereRabbit'': [[AnimalLover Lady Tottington]] disapproves of her fiancé Victor Quatermain's love of hunting, but not strongly enough to break off their engagement, and even reluctantly authorises him to shoot the titular Were-Rabbit when Wallace's effects prove futile. When she learns, however, that [[spoiler:Victor knew all along that the Were-Rabbit was Wallace and is perfectly content to kill him]], she dumps him almost immediately.

* ''Literature/PrideAndPrejudice'': ZigZaggedTrope. Elizabeth's main reasons for rejecting Darcy's first proposal are his meddling in the courtship of her sister Jane with Mr. Bingley, and the way she believes he withheld George Wickham's inheritance from Darcy's father for selfish reasons. However, she realizes JerkassHasAPoint when Mr. Darcy sends her a letter explaining his behavior. On the first count, he genuinely believed [[GoldDigger Jane only wanted Bingley for his money]] because Jane is so passive in expressing her feelings and her mother was raving in public about Bingley's fortune. On the second count, George Wickham lied about the circumstances behind the inheritance issue -- he ''did'' receive the money, but wasted it, and then preyed on Darcy's little sister to get at ''her'' fortune. Because of this and some character development on both their parts, they eventually do get together.

* ''{{Literature/Animorphs}}'': Early in the series, Cassie and Rachel have crushes on a teenaged heartthrob that go away pretty quickly once they find out he's willing to work with the Sharing (the organization used by the Yeerks to find and make more Controllers).

* ''Literature/PrideAndPrejudice'': ZigZaggedTrope. Elizabeth's main reasons for rejecting Darcy's first proposal are his meddling in the courtship of her sister Jane with Mr. Bingley, and the way she believes he withheld George Wickham's inheritance from Darcy's father for selfish reasons. However, she realizes JerkassHasAPoint when Mr. Darcy sends her a letter explaining his behavior. On the first count, he genuinely believed Jane only wanted Bingley for his money because Jane is so passive in expressing her feelings and her mother was raving in public about Bingley's fortune. On the second count, George Wickham lied about the circumstances behind the inheritance issue -- he ''did'' receive the money, but wasted it, and then preyed on Darcy's little sister to get at ''her'' fortune. Because of this and some character development on both their parts, they eventually do get together.

* ''WesternAnimation/MyLifeAsATeenageRobot'': Sheldon attempts to enforce this with Silver Shell, whom Jenny is madly in love with. He built Silver Shell (which he pilots) to be so big of a jerk that Jenny rejects him and other male robots so that he could have her himself. Despite this, she frequently goes back to being interested in Silver Shell, despite Sheldon's best efforts to convince Jenny to ditch him.

The cruel act itself could manifest itself in different ways; someone who believes in being NiceToTheWaiter would naturally be repulsed by anyone who is rude to those beneath them in social standing. Someone who is protective of their friends and/or family won't be pleased to learn that they are being abused or insulted and won't be in a hurry to get/stay with anyone who does so. If the person discovers that their crush/partner treated their previous partners poorly, then they would dump them for not only being an awful person, but also out of a sense of self-preservation. If a crush/partner is AWolfInSheepsClothing, their admirer/partner will end up losing interest/dumping them once the [[BitchInSheepsClothing crush/partner's]] true nature is revealed.

SisterTrope to SingleWomanSeeksGoodMan, which this trope tends to overlap with LoveTriangle stories. Overlaps with WastedBeauty if someone is turned off by an attractive person's rotten behavior. Contrast AllGirlsWantBadBoys, where treating others badly is a turn-on rather than a turn-off and LoveForgivesAllButLust, where someone tolerates any sort of bad behavior except for infidelity. Opposite of SamaritanRelationshipStarter, where a person starts a relationship with someone because of their kindness towards others (and it occasionally goes hand-in-hand with this trope if used to contrast a character's love interests).

* ''Manga/FruitsBasket'': Kakeru Manabe [[spoiler:calls Tohru whiny and disgusting for openly grieving during her mother's funeral and tells her that she's not the only one who lost a parent in the accident. His girlfriend, Komaki Nakao (who lost her father in the same accident that killed Tohru's mother), is utterly furious with him and rejects his claims that he was doing it on her behalf, almost breaking up with him as a result and forcing him to apologize to Tohru]].

** Dash, [[WastedBeauty despite being]] a handsome, [[BigJerkOnCampus popular]], highschool [[JerkJock quarterback]], ends up repulsing a lot of the girls he hits on partly because of being an obnoxious [[TheBully bully]] who [[AttemptedHomewrecker tries to steal other guy's girlfriends]].

* In ''Literature/LolaRose'', Nikki insists she loves her husband Jay and sticks by him even though he is frequently physically and verbally abusive towards her, including never telling on him even when his abuse lands her in hospital. However, when he hits their daughter Jayni for calling him out on his abuse, Nikki leaves him that very night and takes their kids with her, saying she won't stand for him beating Jayni and believes that once he's started on her he won't stop. [[spoiler:Nikki later takes Jay back in a MomentOfWeakness, as she's lonely, physically frail and terrified due to a recent breast cancer diagnosis, but she ditches him for good after he tries to hit her again and attempts to attack her sister for defending her (emphasis on ''[[CurbStompBattle attempts]]'')]].

* ''Series/AvataroSentaiDonbrothers'': Downplayed with Tsubasa. While he's firmly on the side of good, his fugitive lifestyle has robbed him of the patience and empathy needed to really be there for people. He spends the entire show effectively trying to get the mentally-despondent, homicidally-sensitive Tsuyoshi into "getting over" [[spoiler:his body-duplicating wife Miho running off on him after her cover is blown]]. This mindset persists even after Tsubasa finally finds Natsumi and the three meet up to hash the martial issue out. This causes Natsumi to forsake Tsubasa when [[spoiler:he expects her to join him on the run during an encounter with inquisitive cops]]. His unwillingness to [[EntitledToHaveYou tell her what happened the past year because he knows her well enough]] is simply the last straw. Natsumi finds herself repulsed by both his LackOfEmpathy and his secrecy. Not only does she break things off, but [[spoiler:gets together with Tsuyoshi; whom she grew fond of thanks to knowing him through Miho's link to her]].

* In one episode of live-action adaptation of ''{{ComicStrip/Zbeng}} '', the class is taken hostage by a terrorist. [[SoapboxSadie Sigal]] is very much smitten with him, especially as he describes with tears what jerkasses surrounded him that he had to get rid of them. Then Gal, displeased at his girlfriend being intetested in another, manages to access the criminal's background and finds out that in addition to all the murders, [[ArsonMurderAndJaywalking he also has a background]] of [[BadPeopleAbuseAnimals puppy abuse]]. Of course for Sigal, [[SkewedPriorities nothing can ever justify]] ''that''.

* ''WesternAnimation/FostersHomeForImaginaryFriends'': In "Frankie My Dear", Mac and Bloo find out that Frankie is going out on a date with somebody and try to ruin the date, mistaking two other guys for her date who get dragged into the mess. When they meet her actual date named Dylan, he outright tells them that he owns Frankie and that no girl would be interested in them at all. This gets Frankie, who is right behind him, to respond by beating him to a pulp for insulting her friends and acting like he owns her.

** In the episode, "The Why of Fry", Leela is on a date with The Mayor's Aide (as he loves to remind everyone). He shows off by using his status (dubiously), culminating in booking the entire ice rink so he and Leela can skate alone. Unfortunately, the children of the local Orphanarium were planning to go skating, and look on sadly. Leela suggests they let them skate, which he scoffs at, shouting at them to get connections. This goes over as well as you'd expect.
* ''WesternAnimation/MyLifeAsATeenageRobot'': Sheldon attempts to enforce this with Silver Shell, who Jenny is madly in love with. He built Silver Shell (which he pilots) to be so big of a jerk that Jenny rejects him and other male robots so that he could have her himself. Despite this, she frequently goes back to being interested in Silver Shell, despite Sheldon's best efforts to convince Jenny to ditch him.

** [[https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=dljVIx_AhBw&pp=ygUbRXRyYSBjaGFuIHNhdyBpdCBndWVzdCBsaXN0 Akane]] divorced her husband Akamatsu and canceled the wedding because of a [[{{Manchild}} childish]] prank he pulled on Yuri as [[DisproportionateRetribution revenge]] for [[NotGoodWithRejection rejecting him]] in highschool.

* ''WesternAnimation/WallaceAndGromit'': WesternAnimation/TheCurseOfTheWereRabbit'': [[AnimalLover Lady Tottington]] disapproves of her fiancé Victor Quatermain's love of hunting, but not strongly enough to break off their engagement, and even reluctantly authorises him to shoot the titular Were-Rabbit when Wallace's effects prove futile. When she learns, however, that [[spoiler:Victor knew all along that the Were-Rabbit was Wallace and is perfectly content to kill him]], she dumps him almost immediately.

* ''Film/RunFatboyRun'': Dennis' ex-girlfriend is quite okay with her new boyfriend Wint, who is TheAce (at least comparatively to Dennis) and Dennis can see that he is a jerk but cannot convince her of it, but she ditches him the very second he is irritated about her son changing channels on the TV of the hospital room he is staying at after a minor accident on a marathon and yells at the kid "choose one channel and stick to it, [[PrecisionFStrike you little shit]]!"
* ''Film/YouveGotMail'': Played with.
** Downplayed with Joe and Patricia. When they get stuck in an elevator with two other people, first, Patricia yells at Juan the service guy over the elevator emergency phone. Then, when the other two passengers are genuinely worried about their safety and discussing deep, meaningful things they would do for their loved ones if they ever got out of the elevator, Patricia is wholly focused on shallow, self-centered things. Joe breaks up with her offscreen and moves out of her place.

* ''{{Literature/Animorphs}}'': Early in the series, Cassie and Rachel have crushes on a teenaged heartthrob that goes away pretty quickly once they find out he's willing to work with the Sharing (the organization used by the Yeerks to find and make more Controllers).

SisterTrope to SingleWomanSeeksGoodMan, which this trope tends to overlap with LoveTriangle stories. Overlaps with WastedBeauty if someone is turned off by an attractive person's rotten behavior. Contrast AllGirlsWantBadBoys, where treating others badly is a turn-on rather than a turn-off and LoveForgivesAllButLust, were someone tolerates any sort of bad behavior except for infidelity. Opposite of SamaritanRelationshipStarter, where a person starts a relationship with someone because of their kindness towards others (and it occasionally goes hand-in-hand with this trope if used to contrast a character's love interests).

* One episode of ''Series/{{Friends}}'' has Phoebe waking up in bed with her boyfriend Gary, who she'd just moved in with...only to see him casually shoot a bird that was singing on the window. Needless to say, this ends their relationship there and then.

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* ''Manga/FruitsBasket'': Kakeru Manabe [[spoiler:called Tohru whiny and disgusting for openly grieving during her mother's funeral and tells her that she's not the only one who lost a parent in the accident. His girlfriend, Komaki Nakao (who lost her father in the same accident that killed Tohru's mother), is utterly furious with him and rejects his claims that he was doing it on her behalf, almost breaking up with him as a result and forcing him to apologize to Tohru]].

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* ''Series/AvataroSentaiDonbrothers'': Downplayed with Tsubasa. While he's firmly on the side of good, his fugitive lifestyle has robbed him of the patience and empathy needed to really be there for people. He spends the entire show effectively trying to get the mentally-despondent, homicidally-sensitive Tsuyoshi into "getting over" [[spoiler: his body-duplicating wife Miho running off on him after her cover is blown]]. This mindset persists even after Tsubasa finally finds Natsumi and the three meet up to hash the martial issue out. This causes Natsumi to forsake Tsubasa when [[spoiler: he expects her to join him on the run during an encounter with inquisitive cops]]. His unwillingness to [[EntitledToHaveYou tell her what happened the past year because he knows her well enough]] is simply the last straw. Natsumi finds herself repulsed by both his LackOfEmpathy and his secrecy. Not only does she break things off, but [[spoiler: gets together with Tsuyoshi; whom she grew fond of thanks to knowing him through Miho's link to her]].

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'''Indices'''
* TheJerkIndex
* IndexOfHatedCharacters
* RejectionIndex
* LoveTropes
* ThisIndexBrokeUp

* ''WesternAnimation/WallaceAndGromit'': WesternAnimation/TheCurseOfTheWereRabbit'': [[FriendToAllAnimals Lady Tottington]] disapproves of her fiancé Victor Quatermain's love of hunting, but not strongly enough to break off their engagement, and even reluctantly authorises him to shoot the titular Were-Rabbit when Wallace's effects prove futile. When she learns, however, that [[spoiler:Victor knew all along that the Were-Rabbit was Wallace and is perfectly content to kill him]], she dumps him almost immediately.

** In "How Hermes Requisitioned His Groove Back", Fry and Morgan's forbidden affair is going well until Bender catches them and threatens to spread gossip about them. Morgan coldly responds by [[DeathOfPersonality downloading Bender's brain, reverting him to his factory settings]], and shipping it to Central Filing. Fry is outraged, and breaks up with her the very next time they meet.
** In "The Cyber House Rules", Leela has a second eye grafted onto her face and begins dating Adlai, the surgeon responsible. When they decide to adopt an orphan, Leela favours one with a mutation like her own, but Adlai refuses unless he can surgically fix her mutation too. Realising how shallow Adlai is, Leela not only dumps him but forces him to [[StatusQuoIsGod revert her own surgery]].