History Main / SexAsRiteOfPassage

* The TransformationSequence of ''Manga/{{Pretear}}'' uses this trope as symbolism.

* The universe of the anime and manga ''{{Manga/Loveless}}'' has a unique aspect in that all virgins have cat ears and a tail until they first have sexual intercourse, and this is utilized in various ways to show a character's personal life. It's also [[SubvertedTrope subverted]] and questioned, especially with Soubi [[spoiler:who loses his ears as a result of sexual abuse by his teacher in a traumatic experience]]. What makes it more twisted is that [[spoiler:Soubi was raped by Ritsu because Ritsu resented Soubi's mother for marrying someone else]].
* In the ''Manga/{{Kodocha}}'' manga, Sana proposes to Akito to have sex [[spoiler:as a way in which both could see each other as adults, before he went overseas. When he agrees to do it, the mood gets ruined at the very moment that Sana proves to be too ticklish. Fortunately, both Sana's mother and her manger barge in before anything else can happen and Sana receives an earful from [[AuthorAvatar her mother]] about what a bad idea this was.]]

* All over the place in ''Anime/RevolutionaryGirlUtena'', as the difficulty and implications of growing up are one of its main themes. It's best exemplified in Akio, who represents the corruption of the adult world, who by the end of the series is basically a SexGod, and who repeatedly tempts the duelists by giving them a vision of 'something eternal' by taking them a drive in his car in sequences heavily suggestive that he's having sex with them. It's also possibly the reason behind the incestuous themes, exploring the tension between characters wanting to return to their carefree childhoods with their siblings but increasingly unable to access that world except through 'adult' means.
* ''Manga/DomesticGirlfriend'': The manga starts with Rui and Natsuo having sex just for the experience of it. They quickly realize it hasn't actually made them any more mature, and decide to move on. Multiple other characters, both virgins and non-virgins, do subscribe to this mentality, but they're portrayed as immature for obsessing over something that is ultimately unimportant.

* ''Literature/ClanOfTheCaveBear'' series, in a rare female example in Jondalar's Cro-Magnon culture a girl's first time happens shortly after her first menses and is called First Rites. They can pick whichever eligible and consenting man they want to perform the ceremony. Boys get special training so that they will ensure the girl has a good time. A man's first time isn't really as specially celebrated although men who are frequently asked to perform First Rites are considered quite the stud. This is contrasted with the Neanderthal culture that raised Ayla, where sex is something men demand whenever they want, of any woman, who will immediately assume the...position. A young man who hated Ayla raped her repeatedly this way in order to flaunt his power over her and punish her for being herself, even though there was no sexual stigma.

* Another female example would be Winona Ryder's character Charlotte in ''Film/{{Mermaids}}''. This is somewhat of an inversion, however, in that Ryder's (Jewish) character embraces strict Catholicism, and even hopes to become a nun, precisely to ''avoid'' having to deal with [[SexisEvilAndIAmHorny her newly awakened sexual urges]]. [[spoiler:She ends up doing it in the end, however.]]

* ''Anime/GunXSword'' appears to play this trope straight at one point, with [[EvilIsSexy Fasalina]] promising to turn the newest member of the Original Seven into a man through sex. However, this is later [[SubvertedTrope subverted]], as the narrator explicitly states that Van (a virgin) is a man, while [[spoiler:Michael]], despite his initiation into adult sexuality, is just a boy.

* {{Inverted}} in ''Literature/{{Homecoming}}'', where the rite by which a boy becomes a man requires that he demonstrate his self-control by spending an entire night alone with the girl he loves and ''not'' having sex with her.

* ''Film/{{Blockers}}'' is about three 18-year-old girls who make a pact to have sex for the first on prom night. In the end, only one of them goes through with it, and the others describe her as "a woman among girls".

* Music/{{Madness}}' "House of Fun" is about a sixteen-year-old celebrating their birthday by going to a brothel (a "house of fun", if you will), but is embarrassed about asking on contraception to the woman behind the counter in the pharmacy, so uses euphemisms like "balloons". HilarityEnsues when the woman behind the counter doesn't understand any of it and recommends that the sixteen-year-old should go The House of Fun, implied to be the name of a store for kids' parties, because "This is a chemist, not a joke shop!"

* [[SubvertedTrope Subverted]] in ''Series/BabylonFive'': the ranger Marcus Cole admits to Ivanova that he is a virgin, and is saving himself for the right woman (i.e. Ivanova). He seems completely at peace with this; Ivanova feels sympathy for him, but he neither needs nor desires her sympathy.

* The ''{{Series/Firefly}}'' episode "Jaynestown" dances back and forth between playing this straight and [[SubvertedTrope subverting]] it. Inara, the show's HookerWithAHeartOfGold, is hired by a rich snob to "make his son a man." The son has much more confidence afterwards, but it's not clear how much was meant to be attributed to the sex and how much to Inara's pep talks before and after. Inara herself doesn't believe in this, saying that her having sex with him "means something to your father, but it doesn't make you a man. You do that yourself."
* On ''Series/MarriedWithChildren'', much of the humor of the Bud Bundy character centers around his pathetic and increasingly desperate attempts to have sex, and his sister Kelly repeatedly teasing him for it.

* On the HBO series ''Series/{{Rome}}'', Atia hires war-hero Titus Pullo to make her son Octavian (the future Emperor Augustus) into a man. Naturally, one of Pullo's efforts is to take young Octavian to a Roman whorehouse. (Note that he looks to be about twelve when this is going on.)

* With the exception of Harry, this occurs to the aliens on ''Series/ThirdRockFromTheSun''. Harry was implied to have had sex in an early episode and it was presented as a joke that someone that clueless actually "got some", but the other three Solomons lost their virginity with great fanfare.
* Loss of virginity is a big aim of all the main characters in ''Series/TheInbetweeners''.
** Which leads to a hilarious reveal in the final episode with [[spoiler:Neil]].
* Sid of ''Series/{{Skins}}'' is under pressure from his best friend Tony to lose his virginity, as Tony is embarrassed to be friends with a virgin. JJ in the third season is also miserable about being a virgin, especially when his two best friends manage to be very sexually successful but eventually, his lesbian friend Emily sleeps with him out of pity.
* In a flashback ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'' showed us how Barney losing his virginity to Rhonda "The Man-Maker" French turned him into TheCasanova we know today.
* In ''Series/{{Glee}}'', Finn loses his virginity to Santana, believing in this trope. but was incredibly regretful about it immediately afterwards and the following Monday denies he lost it yet.
* On ''Series/BoyMeetsWorld'', Cory and Shawn say that their prom night will be "the night we leave as boys and come back as men", and both try to persuade their respective girlfriends to have sex for the first time. Cory and Topanga almost go through with it, but [[LetsWaitAWhile decide not to in the end]], and Shawn and Angela, well... the episode ends [[DidTheyOrDidntThey without resolving that plotline]] and it's not mentioned in the subsequent episodes.
* [[SubvertedTrope Subverted]] in an episode in ''{{Series/MASH}}'' with a wounded soldier who is taunted by his for waiting to have sex until marriage. He finally has enough when they deal him a hand of pornographic cards just to tease him for being flustered and claims to be volunteering for a dangerous mission, even going so far as to request the necessary paperwork to do so. He is ultimately convinced by Potter that he shouldn't do anything he is uncomfortable with, be it sex or putting his life at even greater risk, in order to prove himself as a man to anyone.
** Also subverted a couple of times with Radar, most notably in the "Fallen Idol" episode.
* ''Series/GameOfThrones'':
** Slightly parodied. Tyrion and Bronn set this up for Podrick (with three high-priced prostitutes). When he comes back, as awkward and boyish as ever, still carrying all the money they assume he refused to go through with it. Apparently he [[SexGod impressed them so much they forgot to ask for the money]]. Not only that, upon hearing he still has the money, "Sit down Podrick," Tyrion says. "We're going to need details. Copious details." What they hear apparently impresses them so much that they are still talking about it the next episode. A much later episode showcasing his singing talent led to the fandom joke that he sang to them instead.
** Arya sleeps with Gendry in the final season, but as she doesn't seem any different afterwards the fandom suspects Gendry inherited his father's lovemaking skills, i.e. none at all.
* Used as the main focus of an episode of ''Series/NewGirl''
* On ''Series/PeakyBlinders'', on his cousin Michael's 18th birthday, Arthur suggests -- not very seriously -- that they get him a prostitute. Their mother/aunt shuts down the idea right away.
-->'''Arthur:''' Eighteen years old. You're a man today! Give him a drink, John boy. And after that, we'll go find you a lady of the night.
* ''Series/HarryEnfieldAndChums'' has a comically [[ExaggeratedTrope exaggerated]] example in the last regular episode, when Kevin the Teenager, an extreme stereotype of the horrible teenage boy, finally loses his virginity. The next morning he has been transformed into a charming, polite, and helpful young man, to his parents' incredulous delight (and his friend Perry's disappointment). Though the transformation (but not the sex itself) was [[{{Retcon}} retconned]] in a subsequent Christmas special, turning out to have been just a beautiful dream of his mother's.
* An episode of ''Series/{{Hotel|1983}}'' has a man try to get his son to lose his virginity to a hooker friend of his. The son privately admits to one of the main characters that he's not a virgin anymore but respects the girl's privacy too much to tell his father. When the son runs out on the hooker, she suggests someone more his age and calls another call girl. The son finally gives in and approaches the woman he assumes is the other hooker. Except the woman he approaches turns out to be [[DirtyHarriet an undercover cop]] and busts him for soliciting sex.

** Uninspiringly enough, despite being a one-handed-stud, Bud still suffers from the HollywoodDateless trope.

** Slightly parodied. Tyrion and Bronn set this up for Podrick (with three high-priced prostitutes). When he comes back, as awkward and boyish as ever, still carrying all the money they assume he refused to go through with it. Apparently he [[SexGod impressed them so much they forgot to ask for the money]]. Not only that, upon hearing he still has the money, "Sit down Podrick," Tyrion says. "We're going to need details. Copious details." What they hear apparently impresses them so much that they are still talking about it the next episode. A much later episode showcasing his singing talent le to the fandom joke that he sang to them instead.

* In ''Fanfic/TheEarthAdventuresOfMonStar'', it is Butterfly tradition that queens and future queens of Mewni remain virgins until they have chosen those whom they wish to marry. Because Star lost her virginity to Marco, this means that he is now betrothed to her or must face execution.