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* ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire'': Jamie Lannister is not married (because he legally cannot for various reasons), but has been committed to Cersei for his entire life despite being a ChickMagnet whose handsomeness is renowned through the Seven Kingdoms. He notes wryly that--despite the "immorality" of their [[{{Twincest}} relationship]]--this makes him one of the only faithful men in Westeros. [[spoiler:He is rather disillusioned by learning that Cersei doesn't reciprocate.]]

* ''[[Literature/JediAcademyTrilogy I, Jedi]]'': crime boss Leonia Tavira tries to seduce Corran Horn, who's gone undercover in her SpacePirate gang to find his wife Mirax. He ''is'' massively tempted, briefly tries to rationalize it, then decides it's the Dark Side of the Force talking. But Tavira's made it clear she wants him as her boytoy and won't take "no" for an answer long-term (despite his cover story including a committed relationship), so Corran accelerates his plans to break up her pirate alliance.

** During ''ComicBook/JMSSpiderMan'' run on ''Amazing Spider-Man'', Spider-Man was being flown to Las Vegas via the private jet of a crime boss, Mr. Forelli. When a scantily clad stewardess started making veiled offers to Spider-Man, he sealed his seat away from the rest of the passenger compartment with curtains made out of his webbing, muttering, "Just slide the food through the webs and no one gets hurt."

* ''Comicbook/DarkVictory'' plays with this, regarding Two-Face. Harvey Dent still regards himself as married to Gilda, but his Two-Face identity ''isn't'', so he invokes and ignores this trope whenever it's convenient. For example, he fights off Poison Ivy's pheromones by remembering his love for Gilda. He also has an affair with another woman, [[spoiler:the new DA, Janice Porter]], but when he decides he no longer needs her:

* A close variant in ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles: Literature/BloodRites''. A White Court vampire's power to induce lust won't work on anyone who is truly in love (e.g. Harry Dresden, who is in love with Susan Rodriguez), and attempting to press the issue physically actually burns them.

* {{Subverted}} in ''Literature/TheHandmaidsTale.'' The protagonist, [[OnlyKnownByTheirNickname Offred]], was married before the dystopia started, but reasons that being a Handmaid isn't adultery, since it's necessary for survival. However, consensual sex with the family's attractive servant ''is'' definitely adultery, so she rejects him despite being extremely tempted. Later she has to have sex with him for the chance of surviving... but winds up doing it many more times, anyway. (For what it's worth, she was "the other woman" while her husband was married to somebody else.)

* In one WhatIf comic, ComicBook/JimmyOlsen and ComicBook/{{Supergirl}} (Kara Zor-El) get married while Kara/Linda Lee Danvers has temporarily lost her powers and her memory of being Kryptonian to Red Kryptonite. When the effect wears off, she concocts a plan to minimize the shock to her new husband: she will get him to fall in love with her as Supergirl and then tell him she and Linda are the same person. The plan flops because Jimmy, while attracted to Supergirl, stays determined to remain faithful to Linda. Luckily, he tells her about it, letting her know he really doesn't dislike her alter-ego, and the story ends with Jimmy [[UnderstandingBoyfriend happily accepting that his wife is a superheroine.]]

* ''Series/{{CSINY}}'': Danny at least once. His old partner ribs him about the pretty nurse in the hospital when Danny visits him and Danny replies that he's married... and has a kid.

* ''Series/EverybodyLovesRaymond'': This causes Ray Barone serious angst. first when he loses his wedding ring and a woman comes onto him at the airport; second when he (mistakenly) thinks Peggy the Cookie Nazi has made a pass at him. Both times he stays faithful to Debra. ([[TheUnfairSex Even though she always acts like he didn't.]])

* Played straight with [[spoiler: Jerin]] in ''Literature/ABrothersPrice''. As is the custom of his people he marries a group of sisters, to whom he is faithful ever after the engagement, even though a mysterious woman tries to seduce him. [[spoiler: She turns out to be one of his wives.]]

* Invoked by John of Rhodes in the ''Literature/BelisariusSeries'' when he says he is not really such a [[TheCasanova Casanova]] as rumored because he looks carefully to see who is seduceable and Antonia is completely unseducable, being HappilyMarried to [[FourStarBadass Belisarius]].
* Played with in ''[[Literature/IslandInTheSeaOfTime Against the Tide of Years]]'', when Marian Alston and Swindapa, a married lesbian couple, visit a war chief and are offered a woman as part of the SacredHospitality. Alston, who takes marriage very seriously, has absolutely no interest in the girl, but Swindapa, who comes from a culture in which polygamy is the norm, is intrigued, even though she doesn't take advantage. This is somewhat par for the course in their relationship; throughout the book, Swindapa is rather shameless about her wandering eye, even though she never does anything more than look and occasionally enthuse.
-->"I promised to be monogamous, not blind."
* ''Literature/TheWheelOfTime'':
** Mat Cauthon is a ladies' man bordering on {{Pornomancer}} territory. Late in the series, he becomes married to the Seanchan empress BecauseDestinySaysSo. Even though it's effectively an ArrangedMarriage that looks like it will be completely {{sexless|Marriage}}, he is scrupulous about honoring his vows, turning down several opportunities to get some on the side. (Fortunately for him, TheyDo eventually, though with hilarious DoYouWantToCopulate overtones on her part.)
** Perrin is able to shrug off powerful mind control that should make him utterly loyal to a particular villainess, by remembering that he loves his wife.
* In ''[[Literature/JediAcademyTrilogy I, Jedi]]'', crime boss Leonia Tavira tries to seduce Corran Horn, who's gone undercover in her SpacePirate gang to find his wife Mirax. He ''is'' massively tempted, briefly tries to rationalize it, then decides it's the Dark Side of the Force talking. But Tavira's made it clear she wants him as her boytoy and won't take "no" for an answer long-term (despite his cover story including a committed relationship), so Corran accelerates his plans to break up her pirate alliance.
* In ''Literature/{{Twilight}},'' the bond between vampire mates is totally permanent, so much so that even the Volturi's MindControl powers can't break it apart.

* In Creator/MikhailAkhmanov's ''[[Literature/ArrivalsFromTheDark Trevelyan's Mission]]'' series, the titular character loves the ladies, and his job as an AlienAmongUs in primitive humanoid cultures typically requires him to use any means of achieving his goals, which, to his delight, often involves sex. Later in the series, however, he meets an AmazonianBeauty and proposes marriage by the end of the novel ([[FourthDateMarriage after knowing her for a few days]]). Being from a conservative planet, she insists on an exclusive marriage, and he agrees, even promising to avoid sex when on a mission. In the following novel, a female from a race of beautiful HumanAliens with far more relaxed views on relationships and love tries to seduce him, not comprehending why he refuses her. He understands that she has no way of knowing about human marriages but still punishes her for her actions. Instead of stopping completely, she then shifts her focus to his wife, suggesting a polygamous relationship, pointing out that it's not uncommon on Earth - only to receive a reply that, as a woman of T'har, she has old-fashioned views on marriage.
* In ''Literature/CaptainFrenchOrTheQuestForParadise'', the titular character has been married many times over his extremely long life (all of humanity is TheAgeless). While no one expects "until death do us part" to still hold up, given that people no longer have a natural end to their lives, French still obeys the vows he gives in each marriage until it ends. At one point, a woman tries to seduce French at a party using an aphrodisiac perfume. He nearly succumbs to it and to the fact that her BuxomIsBetter breasts literally pop out of her blouse, but manages to snap out in time and use his cigar to keep the woman at bay. He then take his wife to their hotel and "relieves the pressure" from the aphrodisiac to the point where she half-jokingly calls him an animal in the morning. He also teaches a man, who asks him for advice in seducing French's wife, while offering to introduce him to several local girls, by giving him the exact wrong advice and watching his wife angrily hit the guy. Sure, he understands that the guy didn't think he was doing anything wrong by the mores of this planet, but still...

* In ''Literature/IfLifeIsABowlOfCherriesWhatAmIDoingInThePits'', Erma remarks early in the book that some women are "born married" and act accordingly regardless. Such a woman gives herself away with multiple signs, such as responding by ComicallyMissingThePoint to flirtation at parties, answering [[BrutalHonesty bluntly]] about a pantyhose problem when a handsome stranger asks for a dance, eating onion-laden food when asked out by a Creator/RobertRedford lookalike, and bringing her husband when a single man asks her to spend some time and bring a friend. She also considers "Semper Fidelis" her and her husband's "song"
* {{Literature/Spenser}} is often propositioned, but he is committed to Susan (despite being "not exactly married").
* Jamie Lannister in ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire'' is not married (because he legally cannot for various reasons), but has been committed to Cersei for his entire life despite being a ChickMagnet whose handsomeness is renowned through the Seven Kingdoms. He notes wryly that, despite the "immorality" of their [[{{Twincest}} relationship]], this makes him one of the only faithful men in Westeros. [[spoiler:He is rather disillusioned by learning that Cersei doesn't reciprocate.]]
* In ''Literature/FiftyShadesOfGrey'', Ana repeatedly feels jealous when other women flirt with or even check out Christian, but he's so in love with Ana that he scarcely notices the mere existence of these women. Christian feels the same way about virtually every man who has ever been in Ana's presence, but she is equally devoted to him.
* ''Literature/FullDisclosure:'' Bannerman passes up an opportunity to cheat on his wife of thirty-three years with Buffie, albeit in a haughty manner.

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* In ''[[Literature/IfLifeIsABowlOfCherriesWhatAmIDoingInThePits If Life is a Bowl of Cherries -- What Am I Doing in the Pits?]]'', Erma remarks early in the book that some women are "born married" and act accordingly regardless. Such a woman gives herself away with multiple signs, such as responding by ComicallyMissingThePoint to flirtation at parties, answering [[BrutalHonesty bluntly]] about a pantyhose problem when a handsome stranger asks for a dance, eating onion-laden food when asked out by a Creator/RobertRedford lookalike, and bringing her husband when a single man asks her to spend some time and bring a friend. She also considers "Semper Fidelis" her and her husband's "song"

* Jamie Lannister in ''Literature/ASongOfIceAndFire'' is not married (because he legally cannot for various reasons), but has been committed to Cersei for his entire life despite being a ChickMagnet whose handsomeness is renowned through the Seven Kingdoms. He notes wryly that, despite the 'immorality' of their [[{{Twincest}} relationship]], this makes him one of the only faithful men in Westeros. [[spoiler:He is rather disillusioned by learning that Cersei doesn't reciprocate.]]

* ''Series/TheAddamsFamily'': In "[[Recap/TheAddamsFamilyS1E34TheWinningOfMorticiaAddams The Winning of Morticia Addams]]", Dr. Chalon tries to put the moves on Morticia, but when she realizes what he's doing goes beyond friendliness, she sharply reminds him that she's married.
* ''Series/{{Firefly}}'': In "[[Recap/FireflyE06OurMrsReynolds Our Mrs. Reynolds]]", Wash resists Saffron's advances due to this. Saffron just loses her temper and clocks him on the head. His wife is suitably impressed and pleased. (In the previous scene, the unmarried Mal didn't stand a chance, and Inara only avoided being ensnared because she has the same training as Saffron and recognized the approach.)

* Hank Moody from ''Series/{{Californication}}'' cites this at times to girls that come on to him/coworkers who set him up while he's trying to repair his relationship with his long-term domestic partner (his wife in everything but name).
* ''Franchise/StarTrek'':
** In an episode of ''Series/StarTrekTheOriginalSeries'', Kirk is infected by alien tears that cause men to be madly in love with the woman who shed them. Doctor [=McCoy=] looks for a cure, but in the end notes that the Captain had his own cure; he was in essence already married to the ''Enterprise''.
** ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'':
*** {{Parodied}} in "[[Recap/StarTrekDeepSpaceNineS04E01E02TheWayOfTheWarrior The Way of the Warrior]]" by way of PopCulturalOsmosisFailure. Jadzia and Kira were playing a Myth/KingArthur holodeck program when Kira, playing Guinevere, was kissed by Sir Lancelot and decked him.
---->'''Jadzia:''' He's ''supposed'' to kiss you!\\
'''Kira:''' But I was playing a married woman!
*** When O'Brien goes undercover in the Orion Syndicate in "[[Recap/StarTrekDeepSpaceNineS06E15HonorAmongThieves Honor Among Thieves]]" the local boss offers him a prostitute as a gesture of SacredHospitality. He claims to be engaged (rather than married), and the boss, [[FamilyValuesVillain who turns out to be big on family]], is impressed by his refusal.
*** O'Brien, in fact, has several opportunities to cheat on Keiko throughout the show. He refuses every one.
*** The episode "[[Recap/StarTrekDeepSpaceNineS03E10Fascination Fascination]]" indicates that the feeling is mutual. While the rest of the station is going [[LoveIsInTheAir loopy with love]], letting latent attractions come to the surface, Miles and Keiko never show any attraction to anyone other than each other. Lampshaded at the end of the episode when Miles tells Keiko that he wasn't among the affected.
---->'''Keiko''': (''teasing'') So you're saying you don't have any latent attraction for me?\\
'''Miles''': Believe me, there's nothing latent about it. Weren't you paying attention last night?
* Frequently used by Marshall in ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'' whenever the gang gets into strip clubs or gay bars. He is still flattered by the attention of gays, though.

* Danny on ''Series/{{CSINY}}'' at least once. His old partner ribs him about the pretty nurse in the hospital when Danny visits him and Danny replies that he's married...and has a kid.
* Early in ''Series/TheMentalist'' Patrick Jane is faithful to his wife, declines all offers of seduction, and constantly wears his wedding ring - but he's technically not married, since his wife was murdered years before the series started. Later in the series he starts dating occasionally again, and even briefly takes a TV psychic for a girlfriend. [[spoiler:He finally marries Lisbon in the series finale.]]
* In ''Series/TheGoldenGirls'' episode "Ladies of the Evening", the girls are arrested on charges of prostitution. Dorothy offers (sincerely) to explain things to the officer in private, but he takes it for a come on and says he's happily married.

* The ''Series/{{Friends}}'' episode "The One with Christmas in Tulsa" shows Chandler as completely untempted when a sexy co-worker attempts to seduce him.
* ''Series/EverybodyLovesRaymond'': This causes Ray Barone serious angst. first when he loses his wedding ring and a woman comes onto him at the airport; second when he (mistakenly) thinks Peggy the Cookie Nazi has made a pass at him. Both times he stays faithful to Debra. ([[TheUnfairSex Even though she always acts like he didn't]])
* The ''Series/BlueBloods'' episode "After Hours" has a key witness in Danny Reagan's Case of the Week, a hot nightclub owner named Sabrina, get the hots for Danny. He indulges her a little bit (one dance) to get her to open up, but firmly rejects her trying to take it further because he's HappilyMarried.
* In ''Series/MarriedWithChildren'', even though Al is very unhappy in his marriage and leers at every attractive woman, when he gets an actual chance to cheat on his wife, he always stays faithful.
** The only time he's seriously tempted is when the woman is Peggy in disguise.

* In ''Series/WhiteCollar'', Peter Burke and his wife Elizabeth are HappilyMarried, to the point that, when Peter has to go undercover and flirt with a mark, he worries that Elizabeth will be jealous--and she usually laughs merrily at the thought of him cheating. Yeah, they're that tight. She even gives him seduction pointers a few times, considering he's a bit rusty in that department.
* On ''Series/MalcolmInTheMiddle'', for all of Hal and Lois's flaws, they're crazy in love and fiercely loyal to each other. Hal's deeply and genuinely offended at the suggested that he's even ''looked'' at another woman since he and Lois met.
* In ''Series/{{Billions}}'' Bobby Axelrod turns down a seduction by an attractive singer, saying that his marriage is "the real thing." Given that he is a billionaire hedge-fund manager who engages in various illegal practices and admits to having poor impulse control in other areas, it is particularly remarkable, especially compared to the extremely macho, hedonistic lifestyle of many of his colleagues.
* Burt and Virginia on ''Series/RaisingHope''. Although Burt ''does'' flirt with his customers to get things like lemonade, he really only wants to be with Virginia. His HappyPlace is even an island where he has a harem of the hottest women in the world...and they're all Virginia, and he states that if she were to die, he wouldn't remarry or even hook up with anyone else. And while he ''does'' spend time at a local gay bar, he just likes the atmosphere, and the one person he leaves with is [[spoiler: Virginia in disguise.]] For her part, Virginia is always loyal and faithful to him as well.
* In ''Series/{{The Office|US}}'', while on a business trip in Florida, Jim does everything he can to fight off the advances of interested new coworker Cathy, even going as far to call her out on her not at all subtle behavior, ultimately rejecting her because he's happily married. However, she is so persistent that he needs to [[GodzillaThreshold use Dwight]] to finally scare her off.
* In ''Series/TheMiddle'', Mike is trying to be more outgoing and strikes up a conversation with a female neighbor at a party. When he realizes she's reading way too much into his friendliness, he shuts it down fast.
* A RunningGag on ''Series/ParksAndRecreation'' is how Ron's ex-wife [[TheVamp Tammy 2]] can turn him into a spineless sex freak whenever she visits. Once Ron starts going out with [[BirdsOfAFeather Diane]], though, he becomes completely immune to her "charms", and the marriage just seals the deal.
* In ''Series/DowntonAbbey'', Branson is a seduction-proof widower after Sybil's death, not wanting any of what saucy maid Edna is blatantly offering. It's heavily implied that they do sleep together after she gets him drunk, after which he is consumed with regret and unwilling to have anything more to do with her.

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TruthInTelevision: Even in this era of more relaxed sexual morals, a lot of people still take marriage vows seriously and will rebuff any attempts by third parties to seduce them. Equally, someone who is genuinely happily married will likely be getting adequate quantities of reasonable sex[[note]]or ''lack of'' sex, if one or more partners is repulsed by sexual activity and this is being respected by their partners[[/note]], which helps to blunt the effectiveness of seduction attempts; they won't be desperate.

Similar to CelibateHero, as the character certainly recognizes the hints, but simply feels no urge to reciprocate due to being in a relationship. SisterTrope to SorryImGay. Often overlaps with OneTrueLove. Someone using a WeddingRingDefense is trying to invoke this trope. Contrast ImAManICantHelpIt and AllMenArePerverts.

* {{Franchise/Shrek}}'': Shrek and Fiona love each other dearly and have no interest in anyone else. This is especially shown in ''WesternAnimation/Shrek2''. When beautiful women hit on Shrek when turns into a handsome human, he informs them he already has a true love. With Fiona, her father learns this after attempting to force Fiona to be with Charming and has a HeelFaceTurn, realizing he can't force Fiona to fall in love with Prince Charming so he decides to go back on his promise to Fairy Godmother.

* Shrek and Fiona. This is especially shown in ''WesternAnimation/Shrek2''. Both clearly love each other dearly and have no interest in anyone else. When beautiful women hit on Shrek when turns into a handsome human, he informs them he already has a true love. With Fiona, her father learns this after attempting to force Fiona to be with Charming and has a HeelFaceTurn, realizing he can't force Fiona to fall in love with Prince Charming so he decides to go back on his promise to Fairy Godmother.

* In ''WesternAnimation/TheIncredibles'', Bob and Helen have been married for 15 years and have three children but are clearly still in love and only attracted to each other. Even though things have become tense due to their clearly differing attitude on the SuperRegistrationAct, they are still loving and supportive of each other. After Bob secretly takes a job doing freelance superhero work, he has a much happier outlook and they reinvigorate their romantic relationship. After Helen finds [[AffairHair blonde hair]] on Bob's tuxedo, she fears he may have been actually [[MistakenForChearing cheating on her]]. Bob was faithful the whole time though and simply wanted to be a superhero again, still in love with his wife. Bob even calls Helen "the perfect woman".

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* Danny on ''Series/{{CSINY}}'' at least once. His old partner ribs him about the pretty nurse in the hospital when Danny visits him and this is Danny's reply.

* In ''Series/DowntonAbbey'', Branson is a seduction-proof widower after Sybil's death, not wanting any of what saucy maid Edna is blatantly offering. It's heavily implied that they did sleep together after she got him drunk, after which he is consumed with regret and unwilling to have anything more to do with her.

* In ''Literature/FiftyShadesOfGrey'', Ana repeatedly feels jealous when other women flirt with or even check out Christian, but he's so in love with Ana that he scarcely notices the mere existence of these women.

* In ''Series/{{The Office|US}}'', while on a business trip in Florida, Jim does everything he can to fight off the advances of interested new coworker Kathy, even going as far to call her out on her not at all subtle behavior, ultimately rejecting her because he's happily married. However, she is so persistent that he needs to [[GodzillaThreshold use Dwight]] to finally scare her off.

Similar to CelibateHero, as the character certainly recognizes the hints, but simply feels no urge to reciprocate due to being in a relationship. SisterTrope to SorryImGay. Often overlaps with OneTrueLove. Someone using a WeddingRingDefense is trying to invoke this trope. Contrast ImAManICantHelpIt, AllMenArePerverts, and YourCheatingHeart.

* In ''Literature/FiftyShadesOfGrey'', Ana repeatedly feels jealous when other women flirt or even check out Christian, but he's so in love with Ana that he scarcely notices the mere existence of these women.

* In ''Series/FiftyShadesOfGrey'', Ana repeatedly feels jealous when other women flirt or even check out Christian, but he's so in love with Ana that he scarcely notices the mere existence of these women.

* In the Music/PaulaAbdul song ''[[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAAVdUlnshA Forever your girl]]'', the type of relationship is never decisively stated, but the singer is quite adamant that though the boy rumored to be trying to seduce her away from her boyfriend, and that even if the interloper may "Promise the moon, even the stars above" she'll always be forever his girl.