History Main / HaveIMentionedIAmGay

* Kay from ''Series/MarryMe''. Other than mentioning that she's gay and a token "boy, I sure do love women" comment every episode, her romantic life is rarely shown. It's not until the eighth episode that any specifics are given and she talks about an ex and apparently hooks up with her, but their interactions past eye contact occur almost entirely off-screen. It's not until the twelfth episode that she's actually shown interacting with a romantic interest.

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* ''Webcomic/{{Roommates|2009}}'' takes this to amusing lengths. One of the two main characters, [[Franchise/SuperMarioBros Bowser Koopa, Jr.]], is blatantly openly gay and makes no secret of it. But most of the people he knows in college (like track teammates [[Franchise/{{Pokemon}} Olly]] and [[Franchise/{{Digimon}} Mondo]]) continually presume that all his flirtations and homoerotic innuendo are GayBravado, [[CassandraTruth never actually believing he's gay]]. This comes in sharp contrast to Junior's boyfriend [[Franchise/{{Digimon}} Giancarlo Rosato]], who is ''[[StraightGay not]]'' [[StraightGay that conspicuously gay]], but ends up noticed by deeply homophobic Olly and Mondo for the "gay" ear piercing on his right ear. As they start to beat Gian up for it, Junior comes to his rescue, announcing that the piercing was a gift from him as [[SorryImGay Gian's boyfriend]]. [[IdiotBall They are genuinely shocked that Junior actually is -- and has always been -- gay]]. [[spoiler:Then Olly and Mondo go home, discuss what happened earlier, and then [[ArmoredClosetGay have sex]]. Twice.]]

* In VideoGame/Persona5, you can play [[TheProtagonist Joker]] as having any orientation—you can even go so far as to explicitly say you’re attracted to men—but none of your male Confidants are actually romanceable (Atlus’ trademark HoYay notwithstanding).

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* A ''Creator/TomSka'' sketch called "[[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H0WynQgUlWo Coming Out]]" is based around the premise that their new friend Jack has a condition that compels him to tell people that he's gay every time he enters a room out of nervousness. Usually with {{rhym|esOnADime}}ing.[[note]]Though he comes outright and says "What's up? I'm a homosexual."[[/note]] Oddly enough, he also goes through the [[HaveIMentionedIAmHeterosexualToday opposite trope]] due to the same nervous tick. They try having him enter backward, but he then just says "I hate gay people!" They try having him not say anything, but when they look back, he's making out with their gay friend, Tim. Their final ploy to circumvent this is by having him enter through the window. Everyone watches with bated breath, and it seems to work... [[spoiler: only to smash cut to Jack and ''Tom'' getting married]].

* Both parodied and subverted in ''ComicBook/ScottPilgrim'' via Scott's roommate Wallace. We initially learn that Wallace is gay not because of his actions, but rather because no-one will shut up about it to the point where it becomes blatantly superfluous. Later we do actually see Wallace in relationships with men, however it's often intentionally exaggerated to draw attention to itself (especially so in TheMovie).
* The only reason anyone knows that Northstar from ''ComicBook/AlphaFlight'' and the ''ComicBook/XMen'' is gay is because he can't seem to go five minutes without referencing that fact. Less so that now he actually has a steady boyfriend and in fact married him in a high profile event, but in the days right after he came out, it seemed like he couldn't ''stop'' coming out.
* Wiccan and Hulkling of the ComicBook/YoungAvengers tend to go out of their way to remind people of the fact that they're dating. Averted in Gillen's run -- we actually get to see more of their relationship and what they're like by themselves, so they're not just paying lipservice to it anymore.

* The only reason why we know that Troy, Eve's male BFF in ''Film/BlastFromThePast'', is gay at all is because Eve tells us.

* JD from ''Film/SavingSilverman'' mentions he's gay a few times. It's an unusual example in that neither he nor anyone who knows him has ever considered him gay, and he got the idea into his head only because [[VillainsNeverLie the film's villain brainwashed him into believing it]]. But then at the end of the film it turns out he ''is'' gay -- but we still don't know whether it always was so and he was in denial about it, or if he ''completely'' internalized the brainwashing.

* Early in ''Film/InBruges'', when Ray and Ken toast each other with a pint, Ray says matter-of-factly that Ken is gay, in a way that doesn't suggest he's insulting him. However, while part of the plot later involves Ray dating a local woman, Ken shows no sign of being sexually interested in ''anyone'' for the rest of the movie. His interest in Bruges' historic architecture and art, not something you'd expect of a hit man, ''could'' be taken as another indication he's gay. But we also do learn he was married to a woman in the distant past.

* In the first book of ''Literature/TheEchoCaseFiles'', Tycho drops into conversation that it’s not that another character is too young for her, but too male.

** Not to mention Jack, most of the time. Sure, he's sometimes seen with a date, but mostly he's seen ''talking'' about being on or going on a date.

* Eric Van Der Woodsen from ''Series/GossipGirl'' might also fit this. One episode featured his "outing" in its A-story, yet to date he never seems to be closer than 8 inches to his "boyfriend". If you were to watch the show muted, you would probably just guess they were just friends.

* Jodie, Billy Crystal's character in ''Series/{{Soap}}'', verbally informed the audience of his sexual preference pretty much every episode, yet you saw him going out with women far more often than with other guys. This was because the show's producers and ABC's standards and practices department had to walk on eggshells with regards to their treatment of Jodie. A few years earlier, NBC had canceled the sitcom ''Snip'' less than a month '''''before''''' its pilot episode's scheduled debut -- it didn't even get the chance to be a OneEpisodeWonder -- because of the public backlash over what would have been the first open gay character on an American TV series.[[note]] The first openly gay recurring character on American TV was Peter Panama from the series ''The Corner Bar'' (1972).[[/note]]

* ''Series/QueerAsFolk'', strangely enough. Vic is undoubtedly gay, but is portrayed as almost asexual for a ''long'' time. Partly TruthInTelevision, as it can sometimes be much harder for older gay men -- especially ones who are HIV+, as Vic was -- to find the same sort of sexual and romantic opportunities that their younger counterparts have.
* ''Series/BritanniaHigh'' had Jez, in which his father mentions him being gay and Jez confirms it later on. There's also when a guy who likes Jez tells Lola, one of Jez's friends to ask him out for him, in which she does, but Jez thinks she's pointing to an ugly guy stood next to the other guy, who both have similar shirts. HilarityEnsues. However, this is never mentioned again and Jez does not get a boyfriend/kiss/hug/love interest at all. Instead, he gets a kiss ''from a girl''.
* ''Series/{{Glee}}'': The first few episodes spend time reinforcing the fact that Kurt Hummel is gay - his crush on classmate Finn is a plot point during the first season - and yet the boy doesn't get a kiss until season two. After that, he gets boyfriend Blaine and they share varying degrees of physical affection throughout the rest of the series. This is of course TruthInTelevision seeing as they lived in homophobic small town Ohio and the odds of finding love when you're the only out gay kid at your school is pretty slim.

* Kay from ''Series/MarryMe''. Other than mentioning that she's gay and a token "boy, I sure do love women" comment every episode, her romantic life is rarely shown. It's not until the eighth episode that any specifics are given and she talks about an ex and apparently hooks up with her, but their interactions past eye-contact occur almost entirely off-screen. It's not until the twelfth episode that she's actually shown interacting with a romantic interest.

** In Season 4, there's the new character Mason, who also fits this role. Even worse, he ends up [[SuspiciouslySimilarSubstitute replacing]] Danny, who makes no appearances the whole season. Like Danny, he too subverts this in later seasons by getting an on-screen relationship with [[spoiler: Corey]], one which also forwards the overall plot in several instances.

* Tara, the first openly gay character on ''Series/TheWalkingDead'', suffers from this a bit. In her first appearance she manages to drop her sexuality into a casual conversation, seemingly so that Lily and "Brian" can start up their romance without the worry of a SiblingTriangle developing between the only three adults in their group. The next episode introduces Alicia as a love interest for Tara, but though we're told repeatedly that they're in as much of a committed relationship as Lily and Brian, we only see a couple of snippets of conversation between them and Alicia coming to Tara's aid during a confrontation. [[spoiler:[[BuryYourGays Then Alicia dies in the next episode]], though Tara is the only member of the group to make it through alive.]]

* Averted/inverted in ''Podcast/WelcomeToNightVale''. Local radio host Cecil has a massive crush on Carlos the Scientist, and frequently gushes about him on the radio. Eventually [[spoiler:the two of them enter a relationship, go on a date, kiss, and move in together]]. Despite this, the word "gay" is never actually used to describe either of them. It can be assumed that in a town as strange as [[EldritchLocation Night Vale]], sexual orientation isn't something worth making a fuss over.

* ''Webcomic/{{Roommates|2009}}'' takes this to amusing lengths. One of the two main characters, [[Franchise/SuperMarioBros Bowser Koopa, Jr.]], is blatantly openly gay, and makes no secret of it. But most of the people he knows in college (like track teammates [[Franchise/{{Pokemon}} Olly]] and [[Franchise/{{Digimon}} Mondo]]) continually presume that all his flirtations and homoerotic innuendo are GayBravado, [[CassandraTruth never actually believing he's gay]]. This comes in sharp contrast to Junior's boyfriend [[Franchise/{{Digimon}} Giancarlo Rosato]], who is ''[[StraightGay not]]'' [[StraightGay that conspicuously gay]], but ends up noticed by deeply homophobic Olly and Mondo for the "gay" ear piercing on his right ear. As they start to beat Gian up for it, Junior comes to his rescue, announcing that the piercing was a gift from him as [[SorryImGay Gian's boyfriend]]. [[IdiotBall They are genuinely shocked that Junior actually is -- and has always been -- gay]]. [[spoiler:Then Olly and Mondo go home, discuss what happened earlier, and then [[ArmoredClosetGay have sex]]. Twice.]]

* There was a VerySpecialEpisode of ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'' guest starring Creator/JohnWaters that revolved around homosexuality. Though the Waters character was undeniably flamboyant, one awkward conversation with Smithers aside, he never actually shows his sexual preference.

* Stewie Griffin of ''WesternAnimation/FamilyGuy'' is constantly [[TransparentCloset hinted as]] being gay but it's never amounted to anything, which is a bit suspicious considering the amount of girls he's been with or crushed on.

* French movie critic Timothée Fontaine, aka Creator/{{Durendal}}, will not let you forget that he's gay and will frequently joke about it or fawn over a particularly attractive male actor or character.

* In VideoGame/Persona5, you can play [[TheProtagonist Joker]] as any number of orientations—you can even go so far as to explicitly say you’re attracted to men—but none of your male Confidants are actually romanceable (Atlus’ trademark HoYay notwithstanding).

* In ‘’VideoGame/Persona5’’, you can play [[TheProtagonist Joker]] as any number of orientations—you can even go so far as to ‘’explicitly say’’ you’re attracted to men—but none of your male Confidants are actually romanceable (Atlus’ trademark HoYay notwithstanding).

* Serena Southerlyn from ''Series/LawAndOrder''. Less so than most in that the show doesn't really show ''any'' of the main characters romances.

* ''Series/InLivingColor'' had the Overly Confident Gay Man, played by Creator/JimCarrey, who would often introduce himself as "Hi. [[{{Beat}} (beat)]] I'm gay." In his first sketch, he incessantly hits on every man within his field of vision, [[spoiler:but when one actually reciprocates to any degree he goes directly to feeling harassed and makes a big deal of it, much to the other guy's embarrassment]]. In his second sketch, his sexuality briefly comes into question when he, [[ItMakesSenseInContext lying unconscious on the floor,]] gets really into the CPR a hot woman gives him, [[spoiler:but then it turns out she's a post-op transgender man, and the Overly Confident Gay Man is in fact ''happy'' to discover this. They immediately leave for a gay club together]].

* French movie critic Timothée Fontaine, aka Durendal, will not let you forget that he's gay and will frequently joke about it or fawn over a particularly attractive male actor or character.

Have I Mentioned I Am Gay is when we know that a particular character is gay because we are told so, often repeatedly, and not because we actually see them display any sort of romantic feeling or sexual attraction toward characters of the same sex. The character is out of the closet, and may even proudly talk about past relationships, but we, the audience, never see them going on dates with the same gender, let alone actually having sex. You might notice that on United States TV, [[DoubleStandard you'll see girl-on-girl kissing, but never boy-on-boy]] unless it's a huge punchline, because MostWritersAreMale and GirlOnGirlIsHot.

* Jodie, Billy Crystal's character in ''Series/{{Soap}}'', verbally informed the audience of his sexual preference pretty much every episode, yet you saw him going out with women far more often than with other guys. This was because the show's producers and ABC's standards and practices department had to walk on eggshells with regards to their treatment of Jodie. A few years earlier, NBC had canceled the sitcom ''Snip'' less than a month '''''before''''' its pilot episode's scheduled debut -- it didn't even get the chance to be a OneEpisodeWonder -- because of the public backlash over what would have been the first open gay character on an American TV series.
** The first openly gay recurring character on American TV was Peter Panama from the series ''The Corner Bar'' (1972).

* The MTV series of ''Series/TeenWolf'' features Danny, who so far has had his [[StraightGay not otherwise apparent]] sexuality referenced [[TokenMinority as many times as he has spoken lines]].
** They make good on his sexuality in season two, with an episode taking place at a gay club, and showing Danny lamenting his breakup as his ex dances nearby. And of course, there's a funny bit where Scott, using SuperSenses to try and find a werewolf, sniffs Danny who helpfully pipes up he's wearing Armani.
** Season 3 features a fairly explicit scene with Danny and [[spoiler:Ethan]] in a motel room. There are also two boys making out in the background at Lydia's party in season two, and one of them appears to be Danny at first glance but isn't.
** In Season 4, there's the new character Mason, who also fits this role. Even worse, he seems to have [[TokenMinority replaced]] Danny, who made no appearances the whole season.
** Mason, too, averts this in later season by getting an on-screen relationship with [[spoiler: Corey]], one which also forwards the overall plot in several instances.
* ''Series/{{Warehouse 13}}'' has Steve Jinks, who mentions that he is gay while Claudia is going on about how they can't have an OfficeRomance. He is StraightGay so it would be hard to figure out. He never had any romantic relationships in the season, but neither did any of the straight characters.
** After this revelation, references to Steve's sexuality pop up significantly more often, nearly reaching critical mass in the final season. Examples include Pete mistaking a romantic kiss from [[spoiler:Myka]] as Steve using a transformation artifact to trick him, as well as Steve himself uttering the phrase "okay, no more Mister Nice Gay".

* ''Podcast/Wolf359'': [[spoiler: Daniel Jacobi]] comes out as gay to Lovelace during a stressful moment as a way to diffuse some of the tension. It plays a very small plot point later on in regards to another minor character, but otherwise there is no hint of his sexual orientation during the series, making this somewhat an [[InformedAttribute informed attribute]]. To be fair, there is virtually no romance at all in the series and little is known of the other characters' love lives.

* The only reason why we know that Troy, Eve's male BFF in ''Film/BlastFromThePast'' is gay at all is because Eve tells us.

** George Huang from [[Series/LawAndOrderSpecialVictimsUnit SVU]] as well. He's mentioned twice that he is gay and has never had even a mention of a relationship.

* JD from ''Film/SavingSilverman'' mentions he's gay a few times. It's an unusual example in that neither he nor anyone who knows him has ever considered him gay, and he got the idea into his head only because [[VillainsNeverLie the film's villain brainwashed him into believing it]]. But then at the end of the film it turns out he ''is'' gay - but we still don't know whether it always was so and he was in denial about it, or if he ''completely'' internalized the brainwashing.

* In ''Literature/{{Cell}}'', one of the characters randomly reveals he is gay for one line. It is never brought up again.

* Eric Van Der Woodsen from ''Series/GossipGirl'' might also fit this. One episode featured his "outing" in it's A-story, yet to date he never seems to be closer than 8 inches to his "boyfriend". If you were to watch the show muted, you would probably just guess they were just friends.

** The first openly gay recurring character on Americn TV was Peter Panama from the series ''The Corner Bar'' (1972).

** Season 3 features a fairly explicit scene with Danny and [[spoiler: Ethan]] in a motel room. There are also two boys making out in the background at Lydia's party in season two, and one of them appears to be Danny at first glance but isn't.
** In Season 4, there's new character Mason, who also fits this role. Even worse, he seems to have [[TokenMinority replaced]] Danny, who made no appearances the whole season.

->'''Greg''': Why are we always holding hands?\\
'''Terry''': How else would people know we're gay?\\
'''Greg''': Oh. Yeah, you're right.

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%% * Bryan Hand from the ''MsTree'' comics.

* Wiccan and Hulkling of the ComicBook/YoungAvengers tend to go out of their way to remind people of the fact that they're dating
** Averted in Gillen's run - we actually get to see more of their relationship and what they're like by themselves, so they're not just paying lipservice to it anymore.

* [[ComicBook/ThePunisher Punisher]]: War Zone issue 5 brings us this lovely gem of dialogue:

[[folder: Film]]

-->'''Eve:''' (to Adam, about Troy) "He's gay, by the way."
-->'''Adam:''' (to Troy, thinking Eve means that Troy is [[HaveAGayOldTime happy]]) "Well, good for you!"
-->'''Troy:''' (confused) "Well, I do try..."

* Early in ''Film/InBruges'', when Ray and Ken toast each other with a pint, Ray says matter-of-factly that Ken is gay, in a way that doesn't suggest he's insulting him. However, while part of the plot later involves Ray dating a local woman, Ken shows no sign of being sexually interested in ''anyone'' for the rest of the movie.
** His interest in Bruges' historic architecture and art, not something you'd expect of a hit man, ''could'' be taken as another indication he's gay. But we also do learn he was married to a woman in the distant past.

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[[folder: Live Action TV]]
* ''Series/WillAndGrace'' spent a while getting Will a boyfriend while securing Grace as his soul mate. A prominent episode in the first season being one where Grace has a boring romance in the typical manner with some guy in Story A, with Story B focusing on Will talking on the phone to some guy that he liked, in an unnecessary, one-episode version of HeWhoMustNotBeSeen.

* ''BritanniaHigh'' had Jez, in which his father mentions him being gay and Jez confirms it later on. There's also when a guy who likes Jez tells Lola, one of Jez's friends to ask him out for him, in which she does, but Jez thinks she's pointing to an ugly guy stood next to the other guy, who both have similar shirts. HilarityEnsues. However, this is never mentioned again and Jez does not get a boyfriend/kiss/hug/love interest at all. Instead, he gets a kiss ''from a girl''.

* Creator/Channel4's reality contest ''Four In A Bed'' featuring battling small hotels competing for the accolade of best B&B of the week pits teams of owners against each other. Generally small boarding houses run by husband-and-wife couples are featured. But in any given week, there is ''always'' one very obvious husband-and-husband or wife-and-wife among the teams. Their sexuality is never an issue and is never explicitly mentioned. But this is so obvious to viewers that a subtext of the show is "spot the gay couple".

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* ''[[Webcomic/{{Roommates 2009}} Roommates]]'' takes this to amusing lengths. One of the two main characters, [[SuperMarioBros Bowser Koopa, Jr.]], is blatantly openly gay, and makes no secret of it. But most of the people he knows in college (like track teammates [[Franchise/{{Pokemon}} Olly]] and [[Franchise/{{Digimon}} Mondo]]) continually presume that all his flirtations and homoerotic innuendo are GayBravado, [[CassandraTruth never actually believing he's gay]]. This comes in sharp contrast to Junior's boyfriend [[Franchise/{{Digimon}} Giancarlo Rosato]], who is ''[[StraightGay not]]'' [[StraightGay that conspicuously gay]], but ends up noticed by deeply homophobic Olly and Mondo for the "gay" ear piercing on his right ear. As they start to beat Gian up for it, Junior comes to his rescue, announcing that the piercing was a gift from him as [[SorryImGay Gian's boyfriend]]. [[IdiotBall They are genuinely shocked that Junior actually is -- and has always been -- gay]]. [[spoiler:Then Olly and Mondo go home, discuss what happened earlier, and then [[ArmoredClosetGay have sex]]. Twice.]]

* ''Webcomic/DumbingOfAge'' has Becky, a girl who comes from a ''very'' repressive home and was gleefully shouting "I'm a lesbian!" in public.
-->'''Joyce''': I just wish everyone could leave the closet with as much ''joy'' as Becky did.\\
'''Ethan''': She didn't just leave it. Becky [[Film/{{Aliens}} nuked the closet from orbit, just to be sure]].
** Consequently, Book 5, which features the story arc where she comes out, is called "Hey, Guess What, I'm a Lesbian!".

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* Averted/inverted in ''Podcast/WelcomeToNightVale''. Local radio host Cecil has a massive crush on Carlos the Scientist, and frequently gushes about him on the radio. Eventually [[spoiler:the two of them enter a relationship, go on a date, kiss, and move in together]]. Despite this, the word "gay" is never actually used to describe either of them. It can be assumed that in a town as strange as [[EldritchLocation Night Vale]], sexual orientation isn't something worth making a fuss over.
* [[spoiler: Daniel Jacobi]] comes out as gay to Lovelace during a stressful moment as a way to diffuse some of the tension. It plays a very small plot point later on in regards to another minor character, but otherwise there is no hint of his sexual orientation during the series, making this somewhat an [[InformedAttribute informed attribute]]. To be fair, there is virtually no romance at all in the series and little is known of the other characters' love lives.

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* Terry and Greg from ''WesternAnimation/AmericanDad'' apply to this; though their relationship has driven the plot several times and they are common characters, the most intimate they get is holding hands and the occasional innuendo. Even [[LampshadeHanging lampshaded]] in "Don't Look a Smith Horse in the Mouth", which supplies the quote at the top of the article.
** Subverted in "A Jones for a Smith", where Greg and Terry are actually shown sleeping in the spooning position wearing only underwear. Granted, it's very brief and [[DoubleStandard nowhere near as intimate as Stan and Francine are shown]], but [[DiscreditedTrope tropes aren't discredited overnight]].

* [[Spoiler: Daniel Jacobi]] comes out as gay to Lovelace during a stressful moment as a way to diffuse some of the tension. It plays a very small plot point later on in regards to another minor character, but otherwise there is no hint of his sexual orientation during the series, making this somewhat an [[InformedAttribute informed attribute]]. To be fair, there is virtually no romance at all in the series and little is known of the other characters' love lives.