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* PlayedForDrama in the {{backstory}} of ''Series/BabylonFive''. At FirstContact between the Earth Alliance and the Minbari Federation, a Minbari force approached an Earthforce flotilla with their ships' gunports open, which the Minbari warrior caste considers a gesture of respect.[[note]]By having their weapons visible but not powered, the intention is to approach the other party open-handed with nothing to hide. They didn't realize their ships' scanners were interfering with the Earth Alliance ships' own scanners, so the humans couldn't tell the Minbari weapons weren't prepared to fire.[[/note]] Dukhat, the Minbari head of state, realized what this could look like to someone unfamiliar with the gesture and ordered the gunports closed, mere seconds before the human ships opened fire in (they thought) self-defense. The result was the Earth-Minbari War.

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* PlayedForDrama in the {{backstory}} of ''Series/BabylonFive''. At FirstContact between the Earth Alliance and the Minbari Federation, a Minbari force approached an Earthforce flotilla with their ships' gunports open, which the Minbari warrior caste considers a gesture of respect.[[note]]By having their weapons visible but not powered, the intention is to approach the other party open-handed with nothing to hide. They didn't realize their ships' scanners were interfering with the Earth Alliance ships' own scanners, so the humans couldn't tell the Minbari weapons weren't prepared to fire. Nor could they have known that the fleet commander was an unpopular MilitaryMaverick infamous for mishandling first contact situations.[[/note]] Dukhat, the Minbari head of state, realized what this could look like to someone unfamiliar with the gesture and ordered the gunports closed, mere seconds before the human ships opened fire in (they thought) self-defense. The result was the Earth-Minbari War.
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* In ''Film/TommyBoy'', when the titular character (played by Chris Farley) meets [[spoiler: someone he believes to be]] his future stepbrother (played by Rob Lowe), Lowe holds out his hand to shake.

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* In ''Film/TommyBoy'', when the titular character (played by Chris Farley) meets [[spoiler: someone [[spoiler:someone he believes to be]] his future stepbrother (played by Rob Lowe), Lowe holds out his hand to shake.



* In 2012, Creator/DavidLetterman took to fist bumping some of his guests, specifically the "exploding" variety. Most of the time his guests are confused - often thinking he's going for a traditional handshake - but every once in a while someone (who has probably been prepped beforehand, or is a regular viewer) joins in on both the bump and the explosion, at which point Dave is both impressed and amused.

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* In 2012, Creator/DavidLetterman took to fist bumping some of his guests, specifically the "exploding" variety. Most of the time his guests are confused - -- often thinking he's going for a traditional handshake - -- but every once in a while someone (who has probably been prepped beforehand, or is a regular viewer) joins in on both the bump and the explosion, at which point Dave is both impressed and amused.
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* [[http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/webdr03/2013/3/1/6/anigif_enhanced-buzz-21457-1362138882-1.gif This gif]] of John Mayer meeting Music/KanyeWest (which is actually a deliberate joke about [[WhiteDudeBlackDude white guys awkwardly meeting black guys]]).

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* [[http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/webdr03/2013/3/1/6/anigif_enhanced-buzz-21457-1362138882-1.gif This gif]] of John Mayer Music/JohnMayer meeting Music/KanyeWest (which is actually a deliberate joke about [[WhiteDudeBlackDude white guys awkwardly meeting black guys]]).

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* In the "Malombo" scene of ''Film/{{Airplane!}}'', Striker shows the Malombo chief at least two handshake variations. The chief then holds out his hands, seemingly for a "low ten," and when Striker delivers, the chief promptly hauls off and decks him.

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* In the "Malombo" scene of ''Film/{{Airplane!}}'', ''Film/{{Airplane}}'', Striker shows the Malombo chief at least two handshake variations. The chief then holds out his hands, seemingly for a "low ten," and when Striker delivers, the chief promptly hauls off and decks him.


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* This also became rather common during the COVID pandemic, for understandable reasons.
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* In the "Malombo" scene of ''Film/{{Airplane!}}'', Striker shows the Malombo chief at least two handshake variations. The chief then holds out his hands, seemingly for a "low ten," and when Striker delivers, the chief promptly hauls off and decks him.
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* ''WesternAnimation/TheOwlHouse'': In “I was a Teenage Abomination”, Luz offers her new friend Gus a high-five. Gus, being from the demon realm, has no idea what the gesture means, but, also being a huge human enthusiast, eagerly adopts it, using it even when it isn’t called for.
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* ''Fanfic/TheBoltChronicles'': When first meeting, Mindy Parker and Penny twice offer each other a simultaneous hug and handshake before finally settling on a mutual hug, in "The Cameo".

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* ''Fanfic/TheBoltChronicles'': When first meeting, Mindy Parker and Penny twice offer each other a simultaneous hug and handshake before finally settling on a mutual hug, in "The Cameo".Cameo."
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* A lot of secret handshakes and signs of secret societies[[note]]Membership in a secret society is treason. Please report to Friend Computer for further steps.[[/note]] in ''{{TabletopGame/Paranoia}}'' do start in a similar way, but then diverge, leaving both parties with the realisation, that the other is not who they assumed. Thankfully, characters are sufficiently armed to the teeth to resolve any resulting awkwardness.
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* ''LightNovel/TheFamiliarOfZero'': Queen Henrietta offered her hand for Saito [[IKissYourHand to kiss]], but he gets confused and has no idea what she is doing. Annoyed, Louise tells him to kiss her, but instead of kissing her hand, he grabs her and kisses her on the lips. Though Henrietta enjoys it, Saito has no idea why everybody else is mad at him.
* ''LightNovel/FateApocrypha'': Kairi Sisigou offers Mordred a handshake, but she cheerfully hi-fives his hand instead, causing Kairi to look slightly annoyed.

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* ''LightNovel/TheFamiliarOfZero'': ''Literature/TheFamiliarOfZero'': Queen Henrietta offered her hand for Saito [[IKissYourHand to kiss]], but he gets confused and has no idea what she is doing. Annoyed, Louise tells him to kiss her, but instead of kissing her hand, he grabs her and kisses her on the lips. Though Henrietta enjoys it, Saito has no idea why everybody else is mad at him.
* ''LightNovel/FateApocrypha'': ''Literature/FateApocrypha'': Kairi Sisigou offers Mordred a handshake, but she cheerfully hi-fives his hand instead, causing Kairi to look slightly annoyed.
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** ''Series/StarTrekPicard'': "Bounty" has a CallBack to the example from "All Good Things..." during the scene when Geordi La Forge reunited with Beverly Crusher, as Geordi admits he was having difficulty deciding on hugging her or shaking hands before settling on a hug.
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* ''Roleplay/DestroyTheGodmodder'': In Project Thymium's second chapter, Chloe welcomes Omorika to the Spherebreakers' house by offering her hand for a handshake. Omorika is merely confused, and Taeda has to step in to explain that [[CrazyCulturalComparison handholding is considered intimate in Chairian culture]].
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* In ''Literature/MyEnemyMyAlly'', James T. Kirk tries to shake Ael t'Rllaillieu's hand on their first meeting and is informed that among the Romulans, holding hands is considered a display of affection on the level of TheBigDamnKiss. [[spoiler:Given a CallBack at the end of ''The Empty Chair'' when, before parting for the last time, Kirk and Ael first hold hands, then kiss.]]

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In ''Literature/MyEnemyMyAlly'', James T. Kirk tries to shake Ael t'Rllaillieu's hand on their first meeting and is informed that among the Romulans, holding hands is considered a display of affection on the level of TheBigDamnKiss. [[spoiler:Given a CallBack at the end of ''The Empty Chair'' when, before parting for the last time, Kirk and Ael first hold hands, then kiss.]] ]]
** In the ''Literature/StarTrekTheNextGenerationRelaunch'' novel ''Losing the Peace'', Chen (a half-Vulcan who relates more to her human side) is leading an away team visiting human colonists. When she starts to raise her hand to one of the colony representatives, the other woman respectfully makes "the live long and prosper" sign, forcing Chen to vaguely wave her hand in the air and hope nobody notices she can't actually do it. She then makes it clear she wants to shake the other representative's hand.
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* ''WesternAnimation/{{Lightyear}}'': Whenever Buzz is about to leave on a mission, he and his friend Alisha Hawthorne do a finger-bump while saying "To infinity, and beyond". When Buzz tries to do the same thing with her granddaughter Izzy, who is unfamiliar with the gesture, she asks if he's trying to get her to pull his finger.
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* ''LightNovel/TheFamiliarOfZero'': Queen Henrietta offered her hand for Saito [[IKissYourHand to kiss]], but he gets confused and has no idea what she is doing. Annoyed, Louise tells him to kiss her, but instead of kissing her hand, he grabs her and kisses her on the lips. Though Henrietta enjoys it, Saito has no idea why everybody else is mad at him.


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* ''[[https://www.fanfiction.net/s/14035814/1/Fate-Tainted-Sword Fate: Tainted Sword]]'': When Salem convinces Shirou Emiya to join her, she holds out her hand for him [[IKissYourHand to kiss]], but he obliviously gives her a handshake instead. She gets annoyed and indicates this is not the first time this happened, lamenting to herself that she is old and no one in the modern world has heard of kissing hands.
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* PlayedForDrama in the {{backstory}} of ''Series/BabylonFive''. At FirstContact between the Earth Alliance and the Minbari Federation, a Minbari force approached an [=EarthForce=] flotilla with their ships' gunports open, which the Minbari warrior caste considers a gesture of respect.[[note]]By having their weapons visible but not powered, the intention is to approach the other party open-handed with nothing to hide. They didn't realize their ships' scanners were interfering with the Earth Alliance ships' own scanners, so the humans couldn't tell the Minbari weapons weren't prepared to fire.[[/note]] Dukhat, the Minbari head of state, realized what this could look like to someone unfamiliar with the gesture and ordered the gunports closed, mere seconds before the human ships opened fire in (they thought) self-defense. The result was the Earth-Minbari War.

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* PlayedForDrama in the {{backstory}} of ''Series/BabylonFive''. At FirstContact between the Earth Alliance and the Minbari Federation, a Minbari force approached an [=EarthForce=] Earthforce flotilla with their ships' gunports open, which the Minbari warrior caste considers a gesture of respect.[[note]]By having their weapons visible but not powered, the intention is to approach the other party open-handed with nothing to hide. They didn't realize their ships' scanners were interfering with the Earth Alliance ships' own scanners, so the humans couldn't tell the Minbari weapons weren't prepared to fire.[[/note]] Dukhat, the Minbari head of state, realized what this could look like to someone unfamiliar with the gesture and ordered the gunports closed, mere seconds before the human ships opened fire in (they thought) self-defense. The result was the Earth-Minbari War.
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* In ''Webcomic/ScandinaviaAndTheWorld'', Turkey [[http://satwcomic.com/society-will-crumble is embarrassed]] when he tries to talk to France after she's kissed him on both cheeks, not realizing that a French greeting has three kisses, unlike a Turkish one. The Scandinavians don't see what the big deal is until Turkey compares it to one person attempting a handshake and the other a fist-bump, at which they're suitably horrified.
* Downplayed in ''Webcomic/LeftoverSoup'': when Jamie meets Wallace, he goes for a fistbump when Wallace initiates a handshake. Wallace points out that Jamie doesn't have to fistbump just because Wallace is black, but as Jamie points out, Wallace was trying to shake his ''right'' hand, which was still in a cast at the time.
* In ''Webcomic/{{Outsider}}'', the Loroi are natural telepaths whose telepathy significantly intensifies through touch, and as such consider most physical contact a cultural taboo. Not (yet) knowing this, the human Jardin offers a handshake to a pilot, only for her to express confusion and ask what he's doing.

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* In ''Webcomic/ScandinaviaAndTheWorld'', Turkey [[http://satwcomic.com/society-will-crumble is embarrassed]] when he tries to talk to France after she's kissed him on both cheeks, not realizing that a French greeting has three kisses, unlike a Turkish one. The Scandinavians don't see what the big deal is until Turkey compares it to one person attempting a handshake and the other a fist-bump, at which they're suitably horrified.
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''Webcomic/LeftoverSoup'': when Downplayed. When Jamie meets Wallace, he goes for a fistbump when Wallace initiates a handshake. Wallace points out that Jamie doesn't have to fistbump just because Wallace is black, but as Jamie points out, Wallace was trying to shake his ''right'' hand, which was still in a cast at the time.
* In ''Webcomic/{{Outsider}}'', the ''Webcomic/{{Outsider}}'': The Loroi are natural telepaths whose telepathy significantly intensifies through touch, and as such consider most physical contact a cultural taboo. Not (yet) knowing this, the human Jardin [[https://www.well-of-souls.com/outsider/outsider114.html offers a handshake to a pilot, pilot]], only for her to express confusion and ask what he's doing.doing. When Jardin explains that it's a human greeting custom, she quickly takes his hand, apparently pleased to make the connection and noting how warm Jardin's hand is.
* ''Webcomic/ScandinaviaAndTheWorld'': Turkey [[http://satwcomic.com/society-will-crumble is embarrassed]] when he tries to talk to France after she's kissed him on both cheeks, not realizing that a French greeting has three kisses, unlike a Turkish one. The Scandinavians don't see what the big deal is until Turkey compares it to one person attempting a handshake and the other a fist-bump, at which they're suitably horrified.
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* ''VideoGame/FinalFantasyVIIRemake'': Aerith offers Cloud a high-five, but he just stares at her confused due to his lack of social skills and knowledge of a normal life. It takes a while, but she manages to teach it to him.
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** "[[GrandFinale All Good Things...]]" shows Picard and Crusher as [[AmicableExes divorcees]] in the future. When reuniting, they have difficulty deciding whether to hug or shake hands, with Picard saying "Let's just pick one...", and they hug.

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** In the ''Series/StarTrekTheNextGeneration'' episode "[[GrandFinale All Good Things...]]" shows ]]", Picard and Crusher as [[AmicableExes divorcees]] in the future. When reuniting, they have difficulty deciding whether to hug or shake hands, with Picard saying "Let's just pick one...", and they hug.
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* ''Fanfic/TheBoltChronicles'': When first meeting, Mindy Parker and Penny twice offer each other a simultaneous hug and handshake before finally settling on a mutual hug, in “The Cameo.”
* In the ParodyFic ''Plan 7 of 9 from Outer Space'', Captain Proton messes up a FirstContact by offering to shake hands with the elder statesman of an ancient alien civilisation. As men HoldingHands is a sign of homosexuality, the statesman decides that [[MistakenForGay Proton must be gay]].
* In the ''Series/StarTrekEnterprise'' fic "Examination", Hoshi Sato offers her hand in greeting to Rajiin because she knows that Captain Archer always shakes hands, so she'd already be familiar with the gesture. Hoshi does however keep the palm angled to make it clear her hand is empty and therefore non-threatening.
* In the ''VideoGame/TheLegendOfSpyro'' fic ''FanFic/ThePortal'', Blizzard, who is actually a human turned into a dragon, holds his right front paw out to Storm the Wind dragoness to offer her a handshake, but when he sees her looking at his paw with a confused look, he lowers it thinking she's unfamiliar with the concept of handshakes.

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* ''Fanfic/TheBoltChronicles'': When first meeting, Mindy Parker and Penny twice offer each other a simultaneous hug and handshake before finally settling on a mutual hug, in “The Cameo.”
"The Cameo".
* In the ParodyFic ''Plan 7 of 9 from Outer Space'', ''Fanfic/Plan7Of9FromOuterSpace'': Captain Proton messes up a FirstContact by offering to shake hands with the elder statesman of an ancient alien civilisation. As men HoldingHands is a sign of homosexuality, the statesman decides that [[MistakenForGay Proton must be gay]].
* In the ''Series/StarTrekEnterprise'' fic "Examination", ''Examination'': Hoshi Sato offers her hand in greeting to Rajiin because she knows that Captain Archer always shakes hands, so she'd already be familiar with the gesture. Hoshi does however keep the palm angled to make it clear her hand is empty and therefore non-threatening.
* In the ''VideoGame/TheLegendOfSpyro'' fic ''FanFic/ThePortal'', ''Fanfic/ThePortal'': Blizzard, who is actually a human turned into a dragon, holds his right front paw out to Storm the Wind dragoness to offer her a handshake, but when he sees her looking at his paw with a confused look, he lowers it thinking she's unfamiliar with the concept of handshakes.
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* In season six of ''Series/{{Supernatural}}'', Castiel greets Sam for the first time since Sam [[spoiler:returned from Hell]]. Castiel goes for a hug, but Sam goes for a handshake, resulting in a bit of awkwardness while Castiel switches to accommodate. It's an [[OutOfCharacterMoment odd switch]] from their usual positions, as [[RealMenWearPink Sam]] is generally be expected to be more touchy-feely than the NoSocialSkills Castiel. It's later revealed about halfway through the season that [[spoiler:Sam [[SoullessShell has no soul]], and therefore no ability to understand emotional attachment]], and even later near the end of the season that [[spoiler:Castiel is the one who resurrected Sam, and while he didn't realize that Sam's soul was missing, he was confused when Sam didn't immediately move to reunite with Dean. Castiel probably felt guilty that ''something'' was off, and was likely especially relieved to see Sam back with Dean because he thought it meant that whatever the something was was fixed.]]
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The hug-handshake confusion is the most overt form of this gag, but it can be done with other confusions of the appropriate gesture to use (one character goes for a handshake and the other for a fist-bump or other HandshakeSubstitute; Bob kisses Alice on the cheek, to Alice's surprise; a French character goes to kiss an American character on each cheek; an American character goes for a handshake while an East Asian character bows; and so on and so forth). It's even possible to do this in sci-fi or fantasy works via the CrossCulturalHandshake.

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The hug-handshake confusion is the most overt form of this gag, but it can be done with other confusions of the appropriate gesture to use (one character goes for a handshake and the other for a fist-bump or other HandshakeSubstitute; Bob kisses Alice on the cheek, to Alice's surprise; a French character goes to kiss an American character on each cheek; an American character goes for a handshake while an East Asian character bows; and so on and so forth). A variation is when both parties instead try to use the ''other'' culture's greeting out of courtesy, meaning well but still ending up with similar awkwardness. It's even possible to do this in sci-fi or fantasy works via the CrossCulturalHandshake.
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* ''Series/{{Community}}'' has a {{UST}}-filled moment where Jeff and [[{{Adorkable}} Annie]] alternate trying to hug while the other goes for a handshake, until Jeff decides to [[AffectionateGestureToTheHead pat her head]].

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* ''Series/{{Community}}'' has a {{UST}}-filled moment where Jeff and [[{{Adorkable}} Annie]] Annie alternate trying to hug while the other goes for a handshake, until Jeff decides to [[AffectionateGestureToTheHead pat her head]].
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* In ''WesternAnimation/FernGullyTheLastRainforest'', Zac offers a handshake to Crysta. Unfamiliar with the concept of shaking hands, she just sticks her hand out at Zac's face.

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* In ''WesternAnimation/FernGullyTheLastRainforest'', Zac Zak offers a handshake to Crysta. Unfamiliar with the concept of shaking hands, she just sticks her hand out at Zac's Zak's face.
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* ''Fanfic/TheBoltChronicles'': When first meeting, Mindy Parker and Penny twice offer each other a hug and handshake before finally settling on a mutual hug, in “The Cameo.”

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* ''Fanfic/TheBoltChronicles'': When first meeting, Mindy Parker and Penny twice offer each other a simultaneous hug and handshake before finally settling on a mutual hug, in “The Cameo.”
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* ''Fanfic/TheBoltChronicles'': Occurs in “The Cameo” between Mindy Parker and Penny. They finally settle on a mutual hug after simultaneously offering a hug and handshake twice when first meeting.

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* ''Fanfic/TheBoltChronicles'': Occurs in “The Cameo” between When first meeting, Mindy Parker and Penny. They finally settle on a mutual hug after simultaneously offering Penny twice offer each other a hug and handshake twice when first meeting. before finally settling on a mutual hug, in “The Cameo.”
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* ''Fanfic/TheBoltChronicles'': Occurs in “The Cameo” between Mindy Parker and Penny. They finally settle on a mutual hug after simultaneously offering a hug and handshake twice when first meeting.
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