History Main / FuneralBanishment

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* In ''Film/PrinceOfTheCity'', Danny Ciello works as an undercover cop, exposing corrupt policemen, lawyers, and mobsters. Eventually, his cousin, who is in the mob, is killed for his association with Danny. Danny is not allowed in the funeral home. His father is sympathetic. His [[{{Jerkass}} brother... not so much.]]

* In ''Series/ColdCase'' episode "Honor", a 1970s former [=POW=] returns home after five years of imprisonment during the Vietnam War. Due to the circumstances of his detainment (where he was forced to disavow his country and his fellow troops to stop his torment and go home), he is shunned when he tries to attend the funeral of his best friend, another servicemen whose death several of his fellow soldiers and former friends blame him for. He winds up accidentally killed by the man's teenage son.

--> '''Augustín Magaldi:''' If you were rich or middle class...

** Creator/JerryLewis made pains to very unobtrusively visit [[Creator/DeanMartin Dean Martin's]] funeral and did not allow himself to be seen or photographed while attending so as to not have the services overshadowed by the legacy of Martin and Lewis;
** When Davy Jones died, the remaining members of Music/TheMonkees made a pact to stay away from the funeral so that the day would be focused on Davy and not on a Monkees reunion. They instead mourned their bandmate at a later private memorial service in Los Angeles.

** After Creator/ChrisFarley's death, his ''Series/SaturdayNightLive'' co-star and best friend Creator/DavidSpade notably did not attend his funeral, saying "I just couldn't have gone into a room where Chris was in a box.".
* Following her suicide in 2013, Tiffany Sedaris (sister of Creator/{{David|Sedaris}} and Creator/{{Amy|Sedaris}}) stipulated in her will that her entire family be banned from attending her funeral. (With the way she was treated by them as told by David's essays -- particularly "Put A Lid on It" -- you could hardly blame her.)

* After [[Music/{{Pantera}} Dimebag Darrell's]] 2004 murder, former bandmate Phil Anselmo, which whom he had a falling out with him and his older brother Vinnie Paul and said in a magazine months earlier that he should receive a beating, was barred from attending his funeral by Vinnie and Darrell's longtime girlfriend, Rita Haney. The latter even told him in a phone call that she would shoot him if he showed up.

* ''Film/KnivesOut'': Harlan Thrombey was extremely close to his nurse Marta, to the point that [[spoiler:[[UnexpectedInheritence he named her as his sole inheritor]]]]. Despite this, when Harlan dies his surviving family doesn't invite her to the funeral, only allowing family members to attend. Humorously, most of the family members Marta talks to claim that she's "basically part of the family" and that they wanted to invite her but got [[BlatantLies "outvoted"]].

->''"When I die, you stay away from my Funeral."''

-->-- '''Squidward''', to [=SpongeBob=], ''WesternAnimation/SpongeBobSquarePants, "Just One Bite"''

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Unfortunately, something may have been done during the deceased one's life by another person or persons that may have caused a falling out, and it may be so bad that they may not be allowed to attend their funeral due to either the loved ones barring them from attending or the decedent making some sort of declaration prior to their death about some not being allowed to come. It can also extend to those who may show up at the funeral and stay, but whose presence is clearly ''not'' welcome, be it those around them feel this and/or they feel this way themselves.

* Subverted on ''Series/CoronationStreet''. In 2004, shortly after the death of his newborn son Billy, Todd Grimshaw (and to a lesser extent, his mother Eileen and brother Jason) was expected to stay away from the funeral due to feuding with his former fiancée and the child's bereaved mother, Sarah Platt, and her angry family. While he does eventually show up and many of the guests are shocked or grimace in response, Sarah's kid brother David shouts at him [[GetOut to leave]] and blames him for the death (as he had just came out as gay and was carrying on an affair with another man, which severely stressed Sarah out, albeit the pregnancy was already risky). While his family members broke up the fight, the Grimshaw family was allowed to stay as the other mourners gave them their privacy to say goodbye.

** The trope is PlayedForDrama in "Ebbtide." Blanche gets a call from her father Big Daddy about coming to visit, but she's too interested in a festival she's organizing to go and blows him off--only to learn that Big Daddy was actually quite sick and wanted to see her before he died. When he does pass away, Blanche travels to Atlanta, where her sister Virginia [[TheReasonYouSuckSpeech calls her out]] for her [[ItsAllAboutMe selfishness]] and refusal to be there for her family, heavily insinuating that she shouldn't be at the funeral. Blanche angrily declares that she won't go, which leads to her having to say goodbye to Big Daddy in private and in turn realizing that she ''has'' been selfish.

* In ''Theatre/{{Evita}}'', Eva holds a grudge against the middle classes due to her working class family being hidden at the back of the mourners at her father's funeral by his middle class legal family -- Eva being an illegitimate daughter as Eva's mother was his mistress. This is based on a real event in the life of Eva Perón (then Eva Duarte) when her father died her family was only briefly allowed to pay respects on the day of the funeral but were escorted out of the actual church and not allowed at the ceremony.

* Discussed in the ''WesternAnimation/BobsBurgers'' episode “The Ring (But Not Scary)”. When his kids loose his anniversary present for Linda, the wedding ring he could not initially afford, Bob tells they’re not invited to his funeral, something the kids accept as even they know how badly they screwed up.
* ''WesternAnimation/JusticeLeague'': Downplayed in "[[Recap/JusticeLeagueS2E19And20Hereafter Hereafter]]". [[Characters/DCAULexLuthor Lex Luthor]] shows up to Superman’s funeral uninvited, which causes a furious Lois to confront him and slap him for having the gall. But he's not actually banned, nor asked to leave.

Related to LastDisrespects. This could possibly invoke a feeling of NeverGotToSayGoodbye. If plenty of people are ultimately barred from the event, then it could end up a LonelyFuneral. This is obviously TruthInTelevision.

* In ''Series/ColdCase'' episode "Honor", a 1970s former [=POW=] returns home after five years of imprisonment during the Vietnam War. Due to the circumstances of his detainment (where he was forced to disavow his country and his fellow troops to stop his torment and go home), he is shunned when he tries to attend the funeral of his best friend, another servicemen whose death several of his fellow soldiers and former friends him for. He winds up accidentally killed by the man's teenage son.

* In ''Series/ColdCase'' episode "Honor", a 1970s former [=POW=] returns home after five years of imprisonment during the Vietnam War. Due to the circumstances of his detainment (where he was forced to disavow his country and his fellow troops to stop his torment and go home), he is shunned when he tries to attend the funeral of his best friend, another servicemen who several of his fellow soldiers and former friends blame for his death. He winds up accidentally killed by the man's teenage son.

* Prior to losing his battle with brain cancer in 2018, UsefulNotes/JohnMCCain made sure to invite former presidents Clinton, Bush, and Obama to his funeral, but not his running mate on his failed 2008 presidential ticket, Sarah Palin, or then-current President Trump, who had publicly criticized him and his miliary career.

* In ''Theatre/{{Evita}}'', Eva holds a grudge against the middle lasses due to her working class family being hidden at the back of the mourners at her father's funeral by his middle class legal family -- Eva being an illegitimate daughter as Eva's mother was his mistress. This is based on a real event in the life of Eva Perón (then Eva Duarte) when her father died her family was only briefly allowed to pay respects on the day of the funeral but were escorted out of the actual church and not allowed at the ceremony.

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--->'''Virginia''': To tell you the truth, I'm surprised you even made it to the funeral at all.\\
'''Blanche''': Maybe you would be happier if I hadn't!\\
'''Virginia''': Maybe not happier—but at least this family would be able to grieve for Big Daddy without wondering ''what is in it for Blanche!''

* In ''Theatre/{{Evita}}'', Eva holds a grudge against the middle lasses due to her working class family being hidden at the back of the mourners at her father's funeral by his middle class legal family - Eva being an illegitimate daughter as Eva's mother was his mistress. This is based on a real event in the life of Eva Perón (then Eva Duarte) when her father died her family was only briefly allowed to pay respects on the day of the funeral but were escorted out of the actual church and not allowed at the ceremony.

* ''WesternAnimation/JusticeLeague'': Downplayed in "[[Recap/JusticeLeagueS2E19And20Hereafter Hereafter]]". Lex Luthor shows up to Superman’s funeral uninvited, which causes a furious Lois to confront him and slap him for having the gall. But he's not actually banned, nor asked to leave.

** PlayedForLaughs in the episode "The Heart Attack." Sophia (who believes that she is dying of a heart attack) requests to Dorothy nor to allow an aunt to attend her funeral, citing how she will make the whole thing about herself. Subverted as she neither was dying nor was having a heart attack, but rather a gallbladder attack from eating too much.

--->'''Virginia''': To tell you the truth, I'm surprised you even made it to the funeral at all.
--->'''Blanche''': Maybe you would be happier if I hadn't!
--->'''Virginia''': Maybe not happier--but at least this family would be able to grieve for Big Daddy without wondering ''what is in it for Blanche!''

* ''WesternAnimation/JusticeLeague'': Downplayed in "Hereafter". Lex Luthor shows up to Supermans funeral uninvited, which causes a furious Lois to confront him and slap him for having the gall. But he's not actually banned, nor asked to leave.

* PlayedForLaughs in two occurrences on ''Series/TheGoldenGirls'':
** In episode "The Heart Attack", Sophia (who believes that she is dying of a heart attack) requests to Dorothy nor to allow an Aunt to attend her funeral, citing how she will make the whole thing about herself. Subverted as she neither was dying nor was having a heart attack, but rather had an acid reflux attack from eating too much.
** Discussed in "An Accurate Conception" When Blanche's daughter Rebecca admits that she's going to be artificially inseminated to have a baby, Blanche orders her to wait for both her ''and'' her friends are all dead, claiming that "the last thing I need is whispering at my funeral!"

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* Defied by counter-protestors of the Westboro Baptist Church. While members of the church would picket the funerals of various people whom they disapproved of, from fallen soldiers to members of the [=LGBTQ=] community, those against the church would set up their own picket lines to "block out" them or anyone else hoping to disrupt the event or disturb the mourners.