History Main / FetishizedAbuser

* As much as it was shown to be an abusive relationship, ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer'''s relationship with Spike had definite elements of this. Spike's frequent [[ShirtlessScene semi-nude scenes]] certainly weren't there to cause disgust in the audience.
** In "[[Recap/BuffyTheVampireSlayerS7E9NeverLeaveMe Never Leave Me]]", Spike suggests that Buffy deliberately seeks out such men. "We both know it's not love. You like men who hurt you. You need the pain we cause you. [[ThePowerOfHate You need the hate.]] You need it to do your job, to be the Slayer."

** In season one, he rejects Bloom in disgust when they both discover she's a descendant of the Ancestral Witches ([[spoiler: it's a trick set up by the villains, but still]]). Then it's revealed he's two-timing Diaspro, his ArrangedMarriage fiancé, with Bloom -- and not only that, but he lies to Bloom about his true identity as the Crown Prince of Eraklyon (he was pretending to be his own squire). Yeah, he's got a huge target on his back because of his status so it can be argued that, with enough time in the relationship, he ''might'' have told Bloom. But the two-timing part is inexcusable.

* Bruno from ''VisualNovel/AnimamundiDarkAlchemist''.

* Morinaga from ''Manga/TheTyrantFallsInLove'' starts out as a pretty straightforward DoggedNiceGuy with a five-year crush on his homophobic boss, Tatsumi. Then he decides to prove how much he loves Tatsumi by [[RomanticizedAbuse raping him]] while he was drunk and drugged, then blackmailing him into regular sex even though Tatsumi's made it abundantly clear that he's straight, uninterested and not enjoying himself ''at all''. What makes it worse is that Tatsumi's homophobia was occasioned by a AttempedRape at the hands of a college professor - which Morinaga knows all about because ''he'' was the one who stepped in.

* Juri Han from ''Franchise/StreetFighter''. [[EvilIsSexy Sexy]], [[DarkActionGirl fearless, powerful]], AxCrazy, [[MagnificentBitch ambitious, smart]], and very domineering [[DepravedBisexual towards people of both genders]]. [[http://youtu.be/rKwDMXGgOJQ One of her ultras]] even has her briefly stopping the brutal CurbStompBattle she's giving to her victim, to sensually caress his/her face (while ''upside down''), before finishing them off.

* Louise Vallière in ''Literature/TheFamiliarOfZero''; even if Saito is lecherous and dimwitted, she's extremely abusive to him, referring to him as being some sort of animal during the early parts of the story (which she never does entirely grow out of), and her usual methodology for punishing him involves either blowing him up, [[GroinAttack kicking him in the balls]], or thrashing him with a riding crop -- in one [[NeverLiveItDown particularly infamous]] {{Light Novel|s}} exclusive incident, she thrashes him to a bloody mess with a ''horse whip''. Their relationship is made worse with TheReveal that Saito's growing romantic feelings for Louise are genuinely a form of Stockholm Syndrome; part of his status as her {{Familiar}} means he is being ''{{Mind Rape}}d'' into wanting to be with her, no matter how shoddily she treats him.

* ''Naked Butler'' takes [[ExaggeratedTrope this trope to extremes]]. In a nutshell, the game revels in this trope so much that it goes so far as to invert VideoGameCrueltyPunishment by punishing the player with a Bad End if they have Tomoaki act ''too nice'' to his love interests. Yes, in order to get the "Good/True Ends" in this game, you have to have Tomoaki [[CrueltyIsTheOnlyOption act like a complete asshole and inflict truly horrible abuse on his preferred butler]] until said butler essentially becomes a StockholmSyndrome-induced LoveMartyr to him. Oh, and it's implied that the bastard has a SplitPersonality.

* Music/{{Eminem}} often portrays Slim as one in later career songs imagining him as a romantic lead, particularly on ''Recovery''. A few obvious examples are "So Bad", "Seduction" and "Won't Back Down", all of which present him as an abusive boyfriend to [[AllegoricalCharacter the rap game or to his audience]].

Fetishized Abusers can be readily distinguished from being a {{Jerkass}} because their abuse is [[{{Fanservice}} eroticized]], and their beloved's conflict and unhappiness will be played for titillation. As such, they are all-but-guaranteed to be MrFanservice or MsFanservice, and the consequences of their behavior are almost never [[DeconstructedTrope handled realistically]]. The Fetishized Abuser ''almost always'' [[OfficialCouple gets together with whoever they're abusing]], even in cases where they [[StrangledByTheRedString don't seem particularly compatible]], although a few are doomed to merely be [[RomanticFalseLead the rival]].

* Creator/{{Rumiko Takahashi}}'s earliest rom-com series, ''Manga/UruseiYatsura'', can be best described as "pairing a Bastard Girlfriend with a Bastard Boyfriend". Ataru might be a poor catch, given he's chronically unfaithful... but, on the other hand, Lum not only declared herself as Ataru's fianceé by force, refusing to annul the decision even after the matter was clarified, but is a PsychoElectro who zaps Ataru when she's ''giving him a happy embrace'' as well as to punish him for chasing girls, and a LethalChef who refuses to accept that her culinary creations are dangerous to humans.

In many cases, this overlaps with DoubleStandardAbuseFemaleOnMale. Compare ''and'' contrast PowerDynamicsKink, CasualKink, and SafeSaneAndConsensual, for characters who live out BDSM or more generic "sexualized power dynamics" fantasies ''and'' show the kind of ethical restraint needed in RealLife. Fictional characters who do not show such restraint are usually not intended to send a message that BondageIsBad.

In Japan, these characters are called ''{{kichiku}}'' ("brutal" or "demonic") and are usually male, though female examples do also exist.

Wait, he's the main character? He has ''how'' many fans? People ''cosplay'' as the chained up, bruised woman he's currently manhandling?!

This person is a rapist, {{torture|Technician}}r, and/or {{Domestic Abuse}}r who treats their significant other like a slave. Surely, such a character must be a horrible villain who suffers a humiliating defeat by the end of the story?

Unless they are the Fetishized Abuser. Then their abusiveness [[RomanticizedAbuse makes them sexy]], and relies on RuleOfSexy.

* Ichinose Takumi from ''Manga/{{Nana}}''.

* ''Manga/AhMyGoddess'': Toshiyuki Aoshima.

* Both Osamu and Shibuya from ''Manga/BokuraNoHentai'' are deconstructions of this trope. They're handsome glasses-wearing middle school boys. Marika is infatuated with Osamu and Osamu has a crush on his senpai Shibuya, but neither relationships turn out well. Shibuya is a homophobic jerk who bullies Osamu and only wants to interact with him when he's {{crossdress|er}}ing and he wants sex. [[spoiler:Osamu eventually gets fed up with him and leaves him, not before breaking his glasses and calling him out]]. Osamu himself has ''a lot'' of baggage due to his DarkAndTroubledPast. His relationships with Marika (and several of the male characters) are unhealthy and he is too sexual for Marika's comfort. [[spoiler:Marika eventually gives up on him and has a MaybeEverAfter with the NiceGuy Satoshi]].

* Director Domoto in ''Manga/ButterfliesFlowers'' (but only when in dictatorial-boss mode).

%%* ''Anime/RevolutionaryGirlUtena'':
%%** Saionji commits typical DomesticAbuse and ''very'' much the Conflicted Type.
%%** Touga is a ManipulativeBastard version and Unconflicted case,
%%** [[spoiler: Ruka]] tries to be the Conflicted Type and mix it with [[spoiler: ThanatosGambit]], and finally
%%** [[spoiler: Akio is what happens when a FallenHero completely loses it and becomes the Unconflicted type]].

* The ''VisualNovel/SchoolDays'' anime is a vicious {{Deconstruction}} of this trope and the HaremGenre in general, with the Bastard Boyfriend [[SurprisinglyRealisticOutcome suffering the sort of realistic consequences]] of this behavior that most examples gloss over; he drives away most of his friends with his repulsive behavior, accidentally knocks up one of his girlfriends, and [[spoiler:pushes both of said girlfriends into [[SanitySlippage mental breakdowns]] that end with one murdering him in a fit of rage and the other killing her romantic rival in revenge.]]

%%* Yuki from ''Manga/{{Gravitation}}'' is a PG Conflicted type example.
* Kanou from ''Manga/OkaneGaNai'' is surprisingly a Conflicted type.

* Sou Mizuhashi from ''Manga/AfterSchoolNightmare''.

* Some suspect Honma of ''Boku No Sexual Harassment'' as being this.

* Light Yagami from ''Manga/DeathNote'' definitely qualifies:
** The only reason he enters any sort of relationship with Misa is that she has her own Death Note and is wildly, cultishly in love with him. He really doesn't seem to give a crap about her other than that, and, in fact, is as willing to cruelly use her as a pawn as he is any stranger on the street. The only time he (pretends to) show any affection for her is when she's angry at him, or he wants her to do something. If Misa hadn't started with the infatuation, there's ''no way'' he would have treated her as anything more than a good lieutenant.
** His treatment of his ''other'' girlfriend/lieutenant, Kiyomi Takada. It's more or less canon that they ''have'' had sex at least once, he manipulates her almost as much as he uses Misa as well, and ''unlike'' in Misa's case, [[spoiler:he callously disposes of her by using a piece of the Death Note to force Takada to burn herself to death as a part of his plan. Right after the girl had not only killed Mello for him but was naked and frightened and trapped inside a truck, actually ''begging him to help her'' since she genuinely believes in him, in a [[MoralEventHorizon horrifyingly cruel move]] from Light.]]

* DepravedBisexual Head from ''Anime/StarDriver'' is basically a Bastard Boyfriend to everyone he's ever involved with, including ([[AnythingThatMoves but probably not limited to]]) [[StockholmSyndrome Sakana-chan]], [[LongHairedPrettyBoy Shingo]], [[{{Ojou}} Sora]] [[spoiler: (who he ends up impregnating and fathering Takuto with)]] and even a bunch of characters he isn't romantically involved with (although in some cases, it's debatable). Of course, being the ManipulativeBastard he is, most of his relationships were just part of his plans. It doesn't help that pretty much everyone mentioned above becomes a LoveMartyr for him sooner or later.

* Hideaki Nakajima in ''VisualNovel/GakuenHeaven''. Although this was seriously toned down in the anime, the manga version followed the spirit of the original game more closely.

* Klaus von Wolfstadt of ''Manga/MaidenRose'' is a Conflicted type variety: very rough when he sexes up his secret boyfriend [[BrokenMessiah Taki Reizen]], and completely screwed up due to his past and his currently ''very'' difficult position in Taki's land.

There may be some differences between male and female Fetishized Abusers. A female Fetishized Abuser is usually a temporary sexual encounter whereas a male one is usually a long-term significant other. A male Fetishized Abuser's victims usually come across as [[TheWoobie sympathetic]], whereas a female one's victims usually come across as [[DoubleStandardAbuseFemaleOnMale deserving of their abuse]], due to the naive attitude that [[AllAbusersAreMale real-life abusers can never be female]] since [[AManIsAlwaysEager all men want sex all the time]], but in many cases, male Fetishized Abusers are also enforced by AllGirlsWantBadBoys ideology.

There may be some differences between male and female Fetishized Abusers. A female Fetishized Abuser is usually a temporary sexual encounter whereas a male one is usually a long-term significant other. A male Fetishized Abuser's victims usually come across as [[TheWoobie sympathetic]], whereas a female one's victims usually come across as [[DoubleStandardAbuseFemaleOnMale deserving of their abuse]], due to the naive attitude that [[AllAbusersAreMale real-life abusers can never be female]] since [[AManIsAlwaysEager all men want sex all the time]].