History Main / CantActPervertedTowardALoveInterest

* One of the signs in ''[[LightNovel/HaruhiSuzumiya The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya]]'' that Haruhi and Kyon are getting closer has to do with Haruhi's habit of nonchalantly stripping down for gym while male classmates are still in the room. Kyon supposes this behavior reflects how little respect Haruhi has for men, essentially treating them like inanimate objects. When she demands Kyon leave the club room when she changes, it's significant.

* ''LightNovel/ShakuganNoShana'': Shana doesn't just strip in front of Yuji. This is significant because as a Torch, Yuji would be considered a mere "thing" and not a person.

* ''Manga/CaseClosed'', Kogoro Mouri will filrt with every cute girl and beauty except his wife, or anyone who looks like her, much to Sonoko's wonder. Mouri sometimes becomes cooler and more perceptive when he meets someone that reminds him of Eri.

* In ''Manga/HappyWorld'', the main character's best friend is a crude, violent, lecherous {{Jerkass}}... who falls in love with the local IllGirl, and proceeds to have near-panic attacks at the idea of kissing her, because "It's like a lion attacking a rabbit, you know?!" The main character thinks that it's more akin to "a lion being afraid of a rabbit". Although, the guy is still far cruder and more perverted than most others in the show, he's simply ''less'' perverted around the girl.

* In ''Manga/BlackClover,'' it's notable that [[ExtremeDoormat Finral]]'s interactions with [[IllGirl Finesse]] have all been much sweeter than his usual [[CasanovaWannabe bad flirting]]. He has a similar problem when he decides to actually try and win her affections, though: his instinctive response to any ''other'' girl is lechery, and that urge gets harder to fight when he discovers that acting aloof ''actually makes them interested.''

* In ''Manga/YuriIsMyJob'', after Hime [[spoiler:rejects her old friend Mitsuki's LoveConfession]], she claims that her feelings for Mitsuki are and always will be platonic, but while she can stare at her other friend Kanoko and her coworker Sumika in the bath, she becomes extremely uncomfortable bathing together with Mitsuki.

* Taki from ''Anime/YourName'' [[SubvertedTrope subverts this]]. During one of the later mornings he wakes up as Mitsuha, he abashedly comments to himself that he shouldn't [[ManIFeelLikeAWoman touch her breasts]] out of respect for her. When we cut to a few seconds later, though, we see that Yotsuha has found him feeling "himself" up again.[[/folder]]

* Chuck with Blair on ''Series/GossipGirl''. UpToEleven - he has no problem ''forcing'' other girls, but when it comes to Blair he asks "Are you sure?" the first time, wants to ''wait'' later on, and even refuses to have sex until they can admit they love each other.

* In ''Manga/ShonanJunaiGumi'' both his sister and his best friend Eikichi are amazed that Ryuji still hasn't "done it" with Nagisa, despite her sleeping in the same bed as him for several nights.

* ''FanFic/ImGivingYouANightCall'', this was reason Roy and Ed never had sex in their first relationship despite Roy being known to sleep around. Roy wanted his relationship with Edward to last so he put off sex so he wouldn’t drive him off. When they finally get back together Edward is rather miffed this out since it was the longest Edward had been celibate since he was virgin. They quickly work to rectify this.

* Ryoji from ''[[VideoGame/{{Persona 3}} Persona 3 Portable]]'' is a known womanizer, but feels uncomfortable using his usual flirting methods on his actual love-interest, the female Protagonist, stating, it wouldn't "feel right" to talk about her that way.
* Likewise, [[LovableSexManiac Teddie]] from ''VideoGame/{{Persona 4}}'' finds himself starting to stutter when trying to flirt with Labrys towards the end of his story path in ''VideoGame/Persona4Arena'', though he doesn't realize why that is. His friend Rise even comments on how unusual it is for a girl to actually make him embarrassed.

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* This is a common symptom of so-called "Nice Guy syndrome" (as described in the pop psychology book ''No More Mr. Nice Guy!'' and elsewhere) in which men feel ashamed of and suppress their own sexual desires, believing that no woman would want to be sexual with them. This becomes a SelfFulfillingProphecy when they either end up with women who really don't want to be sexual with them and choose them specifically because they don't display normal sexual feelings, or (best-case scenario) women who would love to be more sexual but believe it's the "Nice Guy" who doesn't want to.
* Freud described this as the MadonnaWhoreComplex, but it's mostly [[DoubleStandard applied to women]] (thus the name).
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* ''Manga/DetectiveConan'', Kogoro Mouri will filrt with every cute girl and beauty except his wife, or anyone who looks like her, much to Sonoko's wonder. Mouri sometimes becomes cooler and more perceptive when he meets someone that reminds him of Eri.

* In ''Manga/RosarioToVampire'', Ginei acts unusually polite around Sun Otonashi.

-> '''Kyōtarō (thinking):''' ''[[TooMuchInformation I didn't need to hear that...]]''

See also LadykillerInLove, MyGirlIsNotASlut, NatureAdoresAVirgin, ChivalrousPervert, and OOCIsSeriousBusiness. In extreme cases, may result from a MadonnaWhoreComplex.

See also LadykillerInLove, MyGirlIsNotASlut, NatureAdoresAVirgin, ChivalrousPervert, and OOCIsSeriousBusiness.

* In ''LightNovel/TheFamiliarOfZero'', Louise casually changes clothes in front of Saito because she sees him as a mere {{Familiar}} and less than human. When she eventually develops feelings for him, she changes in the closet instead.
* In the ''LightNovel/FullMetalPanic'' novels, Nami is perfectly willing to be harmlessly flirty towards men (like Lemon) to try to get her way, and is very open about teasing and making mock advances. However, there's one person she just can't do it with: Sōsuke. She turns extremely shy and nervous whenever she's around him, and has a ''very'' hard time acting open, flirty, and how she normally does whenever she interacts with him. So obviously, [[ForbiddenFruit the one guy she has a hard time with]] is the guy she's head over heels in love with. Especially noticeable when she feels so shy about the idea of rooming with him and sleeping [[ThereIsOnlyOneBed in the same bed with him]], and tells him they can't do that. They end up with the arrangement of Sōsuke sleeping on the floor under the bed, and she sees no problems with sleeping in the same bed as Lemon. Evidently, she can only feel modesty whenever Sousuke is involved.

* {{Defied|Trope}} in ''LightNovel/{{Konosuba}}'': even after Kazuma acknowledges that Megumin and Darkness are clearly love interests, he decides to stop hiding his true (perverted) nature, and continues to sexually harass them as he did before.
* One of the signs in ''[[LightNovel/HaruhiSuzumiya The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya]]'' that Haruhi and Kyon are getting closer has to do with Haruhi's habit of nonchalantly stripping down for gym while male classmates are still in the room. Kyon supposes this behavior reflects how little respect Haruhi has for men, essentially treating them like inanimate objects. When she demands Kyon leave the club room when she changes, it's significant.
** On the flip side, Kyon is so used to Haruhi's behavior by that point that he is quite indifferent to whether she strips in front of him or not. He knows her well enough to know that she ''could'' strip in the same room and he wouldn't even try to ogle her. Ironically, the two of them came to these separate understandings in the exact same scene.

* Jin towards Misaki in ''LightNovel/ThePetGirlOfSakurasou''. Even though it's pretty evident Misaki is willing to do anything with him, he always acts AboveTheInfluence towards her. [[spoiler: A huge example occurs during episode 14, when Misaki asks the Sakura Hall residents to leave the building during Christmas Eve. Both alone, she appears before Jin naked, embraces him and confesses to him again. He finally tells her he loves her, but doesn't want to do anything towards her, which once again breaks her heart.]]

* ''LightNovel/ShakuganNoShana'': Shana doesn't just strip in front of Yuji. This is significant because as a Torch, Yuji would be considered a mere "thing" and not a person.
* Somewhat similarly to the above example, in ''Anime/StrikeWitches'', Eila has comments in [[AudioAdaptation her himegoe tracks]] regarding the chest of every member in the 501st Joint Fighter Wing except for [[{{Protectorate}} Sanya]], who gets agitated {{Angrish}} instead. This is made even more humorous when one considers that Sanya knows Eila goes around feeling girls up and questions why she doesn't get the same treatment.

* In ''WesternAnimation/BigHero6'', Hiro and Karmi would constantly snarl at each other for any reason. After [[TheBusCameBack she returns after having left halfway through season 2]], the two of them [[TwiceShy can barely make eye contact]].

* The Franchise/MarvelCinematicUniverse version of ''Film/IronMan'' has this with Tony Stark towards his GirlFriday, Virginia "Pepper" Pots. He is a [[ThePornomancer Pornomancer par excellence]], but he just... isn't that way towards Pepper. After his harrowing ordeal being captive by the Ten Rings, he starts becoming conscious of this affection in himself, leading to some awkwardness with Pepper. By the end of the second in the Iron Man trilogy, he's steady with her officially.

* The main point of ''LightNovel/HighSchoolDxD'' is averting this almost entirely, as Issei's growing harem finds his perversity rather charming in its own unique way. In fact, when Issei doesn't act like a horndog, it's a sign that there's something very, very wrong (which has been PlayedForLaughs and PlayedForDrama in equal measure during the series' run). That's not to say he doesn't have limits, though; while he fantasizes out loud with great enthusiasm, when it comes to actually doing anything, informed consent is [[ChivalrousPervert something he will not compromise on]].

* Taki from ''Anime/YourName'' [[SubvertedTrope subverts this]]. During one of the later mornings he wakes up as Mitsuha, he abashedly comments to himself that he shouldn't touch her breasts out of respect for her. When we cut to a few seconds later, though, we see that Yotsuha has found him feeling "himself" up again.[[/folder]]

See also LadykillerInLove, MyGirlIsNotASlut, NatureAdoresAVirgin, ChivalrousPervert, and OutOfCharacterIsSeriousBusiness.

* Gender Reversed in ''Anime/AquarionEvol''. Zessica initially is very flirty around Amata mostly because it amuses her that doing so sets off his flight power, and thinks nothing of his or anyone's reaction to her usual skimpy attire, but as she starts to develop genuine feelings for him, stops flirting and begins to become more and more self conscious around him. Andy on the other hand is still perverted towards MIX and in fact never really acts perverted or interested in any other girl but MIX for that matter. He only stops and gets serious [[spoiler:when she's captured and brainwashed late in the series and he realizes he blew his chance with her earlier.]]

* The Marvel Cinematic Universe version of ''Film/IronMan'' has this with Tony Stark towards his GirlFriday, Virginia "Pepper" Pots. He is a [[ThePornomancer Pornomancer par excellence]], but he just... isn't that way towards Pepper. After his harrowing ordeal being captive by the Ten Rings, he starts becoming conscious of this affection in himself, leading to some awkwardness with Pepper. By the end of the second in the Iron Man trilogy, he's steady with her officially.

* ''WesternAnimation/JusticeLeagueUnlimited'':