History Main / BigotWithACrush

** Jondalar was raised to believe that Neanderthals are merely animals rather than humans; [[HalfBreedDiscrimination half-Neanderthal children]] and sex with "flatheads" are considered especially repulsive. So when Jondalar finds out his love interest Ayla was raised by Neanderthals (the Clan) and has a hybrid son, his first response is disgust, which greatly upsets and offends Ayla. However, Jondalar realises he still loves Ayla and could never think of her as tainted. He also realises that the proof "flatheads" are actually human is now irrefutable; he'd already begun to suspect this after a close encounter with some Neanderthals and Ayla's account of them only cinches that. Consequently, Jondalar feels ashamed of his reaction and apologizes to Ayla; she forgives Jondalar, as she accepts that it's a culture-wide issue rather than specific to Jondalar (his views are actually comparatively tame; e.g. he doesn't understand why some people get so hostile about "flatheads" and dislikes that some people deliberately bait and attack them for 'sport') and he makes an effort to educate himself about the Clan.

* [[RoboticPsychopath Bender]] from ''{{WesternAnimation/Futurama}}'' is a [[RidiculouslyHumanRobots robot]] who openly hates humans to the point that his famous {{catchphrase}} is "KillAllHumans!". However he's also a [[TheCasanova big pervert and womanizer]], and while he usually dates female robots, he has also been seen [[InterspeciesRomance chasing after human women]] as well, including a bodiless Creator/LucyLiu.; there was even one episode ("Proposition Infinity") where he briefly became [[ReallyGetsAround Amy Wong]]'s boyfriend, and they both were given grief for it (as {{robosexual}} relationships were taboo at the time).

** Inverted in ''Red Skull: Incarnate''. In his younger days, he fell in love with a Jewish girl, whom he then [[NotGoodWithRejection murdered when she rejected him]], and became a Nazi afterwards.

Maybe not. Despite all odds, whether it's the target's [[YouGotSpunk attitude]], spirit, or just appearance, a character with this trope can't help but become fixated on them, often with disastrous results. Often leads to cognitive dissonance or {{doublethink}} for the bigot trying to reconcile their beliefs with their romantic or sexual interest, or otherwise attempt to rationalize it by deeming the person an "obvious" [[BigotryException exception to the group that they despise]]. On the other hand, it could also lead to LoveRedeems with the character [[FormerBigot abandoning their old prejudices]], with some possible UnfortunateImplications. If the entire society is in on the discrimination, it may result in a ForbiddenLove relationship. In RealLife and more realistic works, however, there is usually no redemption for the bigot. Indeed, many people are interested in a certain group precisely ''because'' they consider those people inferior and/or {{Squick}}y: which usually leads to a DestructiveRomance, if it is pursued.

* {{Dracula}} from ''WesternAnimation/Castlevania2017'' is a very big offender of this trope. Despite being an [[VampireMonarch evil vampire lord]] with an [[MisanthropeSupreme extreme hatred for humans in general]], he deeply fell in love with a human woman named Lisa, even marrying her and having a son together. When Lisa was eventually [[BurnTheWitch executed on trumped-up charges of witchcraft]], Dracula [[LoveMakesYouEvil became so enraged and vengeful]] that he declared a [[KillAllHumans genocidal war to exterminate all other humans]].
* ''WesternAnimation/DrawnTogether'': Clara is extremely homophobic and racist yet enjoys making out with Foxxy who is African-American.
* [[RoboticPsychopath Bender]] from ''{{WesternAnimation/Futurama}}'' is a [[RidiculouslyHumanRobots robot]] who openly hates humans to the point that his famous {{catchphrase}} is "KillAllHumans!". However he's also a [[TheCasanova big pervert and womanizer]], and while he usually dates female robots, he has also been seen [[InterspeciesRomance chasing after human women]] as well; there was even one episode ("Proposition Infinity") where he briefly became [[ReallyGetsAround Amy Wong]]'s boyfriend, and they both were given grief for it (as {{robosexual}} relationships were taboo at the time).

* [[BoomerangBigot Uncle Ruckus]] from ''WesternAnimation/TheBoondocks'' is a black man who loves white people and hates anyone who's not white, including other black people. Not surprisingly, Ruckus is [[WhereDaWhiteWomenAt very attracted to white women]] and looks down on black women. However in "The Lovely Ebony Brown", Ruckus begrudgingly develops a big crush on the titular character, who is an [[WorldsMostBeautifulWoman extremely beautiful, smart, witty, and successful black woman]]. Though it's all part of the episode's running joke about how [[ParodySue Ebony Brown]] is just so charming and perfect that [[LovedByAll every single one of the main characters on the show seems to utterly ''adore'' her]].

* [[BoomerangBigot Uncle Ruckus]] from ''WesternAnimation/TheBoondocks'' is a black man who loves white people and hates anyone who's not white, including other black people. Not surprisingly, Ruckus is [[WhereDaWhiteWomenAt very attracted to white women]] and looks down on black women. However in "The Lovely Ebony Brown", Ruckus begrudgingly develops a big crush on the titular character, who is an [[WorldsMostBeautifulWoman extremely beautiful black woman]]. Though it's all part of the episode's running joke about how [[ParodySue Ebony Brown]] is just so charming and perfect that [[LovedByAll every single one of the main characters on the show seem to like her]].

* This is actually the situation in the darkest of ways with the BigBad Edwin Epps towards his slave Patsey in ''Film/TwelveYearsASlave''. Edwin is a deeply vicious racist and bigoted slave owner who becomes infatuated with and constantly rapes his high-breadwinning slave Patsey, but WordOfGod is that he actually does love Patsey but his mindset only allows him to express it in violent ways. It's even worse in the book it's based on, where Patsey is [[WouldHurtAChild only a ''teenager''.]]

* This is actually the situation in the darkest of ways with the BigBad Edwin Epps towards his slave Patsey in ''Film/TwelveYearsASlave''. Edwin is a deeply vicious racist and bigoted slave owner who becomes infatuated with and constantly rapes his high-breadwinning slave Patsey, but WordOfGod is that he actually does love Patsey but his mindset only allows him to express it in violent ways. It's even worse in the book it's based on, where Patsey is a teenager.

* ComicBook/{{Magneto}} is a mutant supremacist who has some very unflattering ideas about humanity in general. And yet most of the women he's been romantically and/or sexually involved with have been humans.

* [[BoomerangBigot Uncle Ruckus]] from ''WesternAnimation/TheBoondocks'' is a black man who loves white people and hates anyone who's not white, including other black people. Not surprisingly, Ruckus is [[WhereDaWhiteWomenAt very attracted to white women]] and looks down on black women. However in "The Lovely Ebony Brown", Ruckus begrudgingly develops a big crush on the titular character, who is an [[WorldsMostBeautifulWoman extremely beautiful black woman]]. Though it's all part of the episode's running joke about how [[ParodySue Ebony Brown]] is just so charming and perfect that [[HundredPercentAdorationRating every single one of the main characters on the show seem to like her]].

Maybe not. Despite all odds, whether it's the target's [[YouGotSpunk attitude]], spirit, or just appearance, a character with this trope can't help but become fixated on them, often with disastrous results. Often leads to cognitive dissonance or {{doublethink}} for the bigot trying to reconcile their beliefs with their romantic or sexual interest, or otherwise attempt to rationalize it by deeming the person an "obvious" [[BigotryException exception to the group that they despise]]. On the other hand, it could also lead to LoveRedeems with the character [[FormerBigot abandoning their old prejudices]], with some possible UnfortunateImplications. If the entire society is in on the discrimination, it may result in a ForbiddenLove relationship. In RealLife and more realistic works however, there is usually no redemption for the bigot. Indeed, many people are interested in a certain group precisely ''because'' they consider those people inferior and/or {{Squick}}y: which usually leads to a DestructiveRomance, if it is pursued.

* Risa Takabane from ''Manga/SeeMeAfterClass'' is a non-villainous example. She's noted to be a [[DoesNotLikeMen misandrist]];however, Yuuki Kagami, a boy, is her love interest and an exception to her bigotry.

* ''Manga/TokyoGhoul'': Kaneki is a half ghoul and sides with his ghoul friends and allies. His former subordinate Mutsuki works for the CCG which is a organization against ghouls, and they become more so to a genocidal point when Numura becomes the leader and vows to exterminate all ghouls while sadistically showcasing the dismembered bodies of ghouls to the public. Mutsuki knows having ties to Kaneki is risky and they are technically against each other but he cannot help but feel romantically and sexually attracted towards his former beloved mentor.
* ''Manga/BokuraNoHentai'' features the minor character Shirakawa, who is like this. Previously, he was one of Marika's biggest bullies, but after she transitions and starts presenting feminine the bully makes his distaste of her new appearance known. It's still heavily implied that he finds her attractive, as he showed signs of this when Marika was still in the closet and simply looked like a very pretty "boy".

* ZigzaggedTrope in ''ComicBook/RequiemVampireKnight''. Heinrich is a Nazi soldier during World War II who discovers that his girlfriend Rebecca is Jewish. This leaves him angry and conflicted at first as he still passionately loves her, but once they both ascend to the hellworld ''Resurection'' after their deaths on Earth, they rekindle their romance. Heinrich [[FormerBigot abandons his Nazi beliefs]] after becoming a vampire, although his "friend" Otto (a former SS officer who killed Rebecca on Earth) most certainly hasn't and tries to kill both of them again for being "degenerates".

** Inverted in ''Red Skull: Incarnate''. In his younger days he fell in love with a Jewish girl, whom he then [[NotGoodWithRejection murdered when she rejected him]], and became a Nazi afterwards.

* Throughout the whole story of ''WesternAnimation/{{The Hunchback of Notre Dame|Disney}}'', [[BigBad Claude Frollo]] expresses nothing but distaste for the Romani population of Paris, hunting them down for the flimsiest of reasons and eventually planning to kill them all. But this doesn't stop him from lusting after [[HotGypsyWoman Esmeralda]]. He's honestly conflicted by his feelings, but eventually decides to just [[IfICantHaveYou burn her at the stake if she won't be with him]].

** Deconstructed with "Him", who forces Veronica to live with him despite being horrifically racist and abusive to black people. Although “crush” might be giving him too much credit, since he rapes Veronica and values her solely as an object. [[spoiler: In fact, he actually jeopardized his full-scale re-enactment of slavery by specifically choosing to kidnap Veronica.]]

* The main protagonist of ''Film/JojoRabbit'' is a young child in Nazi Germany that dreams of becoming a member of Hitler's personal guard. However, he later finds out his mother was hiding a Jewish girl in their house. As the film goes on Jojo's distaste for Jews and obsession with Nazis starts to waver as he slowly falls in love with her.

** Early in the film, one high-ranked Nazi officer can be seen attending a party with his Polish mistress, in an occupied country which the Nazis intended to depopulate for German expansion.

* Gridlestone from ''Film/WithinOurGates'' is highly racist towards black people, however he was once married to a black woman and had a child by her. His daughter, [[spoiler: the protagonist Sylvia]], only learns about her parentage after [[spoiler:Gridlestone [[SurpriseIncest almost rapes her]].]] This character point isn't explained and contradicts most of Gridlestone's character, so historians believe that it was added in by censors to hide that [[spoiler:Sylvia's]] a ChildByRape.

* In ''Literature/{{Ivanhoe}}'', Sir Brian de Bois-Guilbert, who despises Jews, (in)famously develops feelings for the Jewess Rebecca. These feelings start as mere lust, but grow into more than that as he starts to see her character beyond her beauty. He never reaches a full HeelRealization, however, and ends up [[spoiler:dying of a heart attack brought on by "his conflicting passions"]].

** Played for squick in regards to Assef's character. He professes a strong hatred for Hazara people, but he [[spoiler: rapes Hassan and harasses him afterward. When Hassan is killed, Assef takes in his prepubescent son Sohrab in as his "companion."]]

* In ''Literature/OctoberDaye'', Tybalt dislikes changelings (Hybrids of Fae and humans) [[spoiler:due to his beloved human wife having died in an attempt to give birth to their changeling son]]. It's why he he initially didn't like [[spoiler:Toby]] due to her being a changeling as well. Over time though he genuinely falls in love with her and even evntually lets go off his prejudice to be with her.

* In ''Literature/WingsOfFire'', Winter is very prejudiced against [=NightWings=] even more than the average [=IceWing=] is (because of an ItsPersonal backstory in addition to the general hared the two tribes have for each other). He also has a crush on Moonwatcher, a [=NightWing=], which he feels guilty about. The bigotry part gets better after a lot of CharacterDevelopment, though.

* ''Series/AFrenchVillage'': Jean is a French policeman who helped round up Jews and holds antisemitic views. He falls in love though with a Jewish woman named Rita, getting into a relationship and saving her from deportation to the East. They conceive a child and discuss marrying. After this, he grows more sympathetic to Jews, and helped a Jewish family to escape. This doesn't mean he entirely becomes a better person though. Rita leaves him in anger when she learns he let her mother be shipped away to Poland, and when she's back from Switzerland (where Jean sent them for safety) doesn't want him to have any part of their son's life. However, he still saves them from being sent to a death camp, this time even shooting a German officer in doing so.

* ''Series/StarTrekDeepSpaceNine'': Despite being prejudiced against Bajorans and once heading the occupation of their planet, Gul Dukat has slept with several Bajoran women including Major Kira's mother Kira Meru and Tora Naprem, the mother of his half-Bajoran daughter Tora Ziyal. Then he sired another half-Bajoran child ''again'' when he formed a cult where Bajorans would worship him. He was also an AbhorrentAdmirer for Kira herself for awhile. He seemed to have a (creepy) RaceFetish for Bajoran women as a whole. Of course, all the ones taken during the Occupation were actually {{Sex Slave}}s, which his detractors seem to think was his ''real'' fetish.

* In ''Series/ToKafeTisHaras'', a Greek sitcom which takes place in the fictional village of Kolokotronitsi, Periander Popotas, mayor of said village, who is extremely misogynistic, sexist, bigoted and against modern ideas, falls in love with Hara, a single mother from UsefulNotes/{{Athens}} who stands for whatever Periander is against of. Hara herself also starts to develop feelings for him.

* In ''VideoGame/DragonAgeOrigins:'', a number of human characters seem to have a RaceFetish for elven women (and some men). The StarterVillain in the City Elf Origin is a serial rapist and murderer of elves, and is also ''very'' racist towards them. It's possible however that rather than a true fetish for elves, he simply saw them as easy targets.

* [[RoboticPsychopath Bender]] from ''{{WesternAnimation/Futurama}}'' is a [[RidiculouslyHumanRobots robot]] who openly hates humans, to the point that his famous {{catchphrase}} is "KillAllHumans!". However he's also a [[TheCasanova big pervert and womanizer]], and while he usually dates female robots, he has also been seen [[InterspeciesRomance chasing after human women]] as well; there was even one episode ("Proposition Infinity") where he briefly became [[ReallyGetsAround Amy Wong]]'s boyfriend, and they both were given grief for it (as {{robosexual}} relationships were taboo at the time).

* Queen Miraj from ''WesternAnimation/StarWarsTheCloneWars'' thinks of every non-Zygerrian as a potential slave, but starts a cordial business relationship with the human Anakin before falling for him and blackmailing him into becoming her bodyguard.

Maybe not. Despite all odds, whether it's the target's [[YouGotSpunk attitude]], spirit, or just appearance, a character with this trope can't help but become fixated on them, often with disastrous results. Often leads to cognitive dissonance or {{Doublethink}} for the bigot trying to reconcile their beliefs with their romantic or sexual interest, or otherwise attempt to rationalize it by deeming the person an "obvious" [[BigotryException exception to the group that they despise]]. On the other hand, it could also lead to LoveRedeems with the character [[FormerBigot abandoning their old prejudices]], with some possible UnfortunateImplications. If the entire society is in on the discrimination, it may result in a ForbiddenLove relationship. In RealLife and more realistic works however, there is usually no redemption for the bigot. Indeed, many people are interested in a certain group precisely ''because'' they consider those people inferior and/or {{Squick}}y: which usually leads to a DestructiveRomance, if it is pursued.

* The main protagonist of ''Film/JojoRabbit'' is a young child in Nazi Germany that dreams of becoming a member of Hitler's personal guard. However, he later finds out his mother was hiding a Jewish girl in their house. As the film goes on Jojo's distaste for Jews and obsession with Nazis starts to waver as he slowly falls in love with her.
* ''Film/{{Antebellum}}'':
** Deconstructed with "Him", who forces Veronica to live with him despite being horrifically racist and abusive to black people. Although “crush” might be giving him too much credit, since he rapes Veronica and values her solely as an object. [[spoiler: In fact, he actually jeopardized his full-scale re-enactment of slavery by specifically choosing to kidnap Veronica.]]
** Daniel is a subversion. He is, at first, implied to be one of these, as he [[spoiler:chooses to act out the role of a Confederate soldier]] but is also bashful and tongue-tied around Julia. [[spoiler:When she later actively tries to appeal to this part of his personality, though, he brutally beats her.]]
* ''Film/OperationFinale'': Played realistically. Klaus Eichmann becomes attracted to Sylvia Hermann, a German Jew whose father immigrated to Argentina after living through the Holocaust but raised her Catholic. Klaus even takes her to a meeting of ex-Nazi fugitives. Sylvia is horrified by the rampant anti-Semitism and abruptly leaves, is only convinced to visit Klaus one more time by her father to gather intelligence on Klaus's father Adolf Eichmann, and Klaus immediately rejects her when she admits that she's a Jew.

* ''WebComic/HomeStuck'': Equius Zahhak looks down on those lower on the hemospectrum. However, he has a massive crush on Aradia Megido, of the lowest blood color. He is fond of both how she behaves ideally for her caste, yet is also suited to have indigo blood so he can feel more right loving her. Thus he puts indigo blood in the robot he built to house her soul.
* ''WebComic/TheOrderOfTheStick'': In [[https://www.giantitp.com/comics/oots1208.html a debate with]] Durkon, Redcloak states that he would be killed on sight in any town or city because he's [[OurGoblinsAreDifferent green and has fangs]]. He adds that orcs would get the same treatment if humans weren't always having babies with them.

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* The writer Creator/HPLovecraft, who was a notorious anti-Semite, was married to the Jewish fellow writer Sonia Greene. Sometimes, when he launched into an anti-Semitic rant, Sonia had to remind him who she was.
* The Croatian fascist dictator Ante Pavelić, whose regime implemented genocidal policies against the Jews [[HorrifyingTheHorror that shocked even the Nazis]], was also maried to a Jewish woman, Maria Lovrenčević.
* Hermina Braunsteiner, the Ravensbrück and Majdanek concentration camp guard who became known as "Stomping Mare" because she was known to beat prisoners to death with her jackboots, evaded justice after 1945 and relocated to the US, where she married a Jewish refugee. When she was eventually found by the NaziHunter Simon Wiesenthal, her husband was shocked by the accusations against her, and testified that they had a genuinely loving relationship.
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* In ''Literature/{{Evernight}}'', Lucas Ross is a sympathetic example. He's a vampire hunter raised since birth to think of vampires as soulless, cold-hearted murderers...then he finds out Bianca, his kind, EndearinglyDorky girlfriend, is in fact a vampire. He decides he doesn't care because he loves Bianca and ge slowly starts to realize his views on vampires aren't entirely accurate, though his prejudice against them does cause issues with the couple's relationship (Bianca's overly-idealistic view of vampires doesn't help either).

* ''ComicBook/{{Blacksad}}'': Inverted in Hans Karup's backstory. In the present, he runs a white supremacist organization responsible for lynching black animals, but [[UsedToBeASweetKid he was once an incredibly sweet man]] married to a black-furred woman. The Arctic Nation poisoned his mind, leading him to start [[DomesticAbuse abusing his wife]] while they were still together until he finally dragged her out of their house in the middle of winter and left her for dead. In the present, his current wife does tell his equally racist underling Huk that Karup likes to screw their black maid behind her back. This isn't true, but Huk ([[TheStarscream who was looking to get rid of him]]) believes it.

* ''ComicBook/{{Blacksad}}'': Inverted in Hans Karup's backstory. In the present, he runs a white supremacist organization responsible for lynching black animals, but [[UsedToBeASweetKid he was once an incredibly sweet man]] married to a black-furred woman. The Arctic Nation poisoned his mind, leading him to start [[DomesticAbuse abusing his wife]] while they were still together until he finally dragged her out of their house in the middle of winter and left her for dead.

* In ''Series/ToKafeTisHaras'', a greek sitcom which takes place in the fictional village of Kolokotronitsi, Periander Popotas, mayor of said village, who is extremely misogynistic, sexist, bigoted and against modern ideas, falls in love with Hara, a single mother from UsefulNotes/{{Athens}} who stands for whatever Periander is against of. Hara herself also starts to develop feelings for him.

A possible SubTrope of VillainousCrush, and a definite subtrope of BigotryException and InconvenientAttraction. A supertrope to ArmoredClosetGay and IfItsYouItsOkay. Compare BoomerangBigot and YouAreWhatYouHate for when they ''are'' a member of the group they are prejudiced against. Also compare NotLikeOtherGirls (specifically when a misogynistic man says that to a woman he likes) and YouAreACreditToYourRace. See also RaceFetish. Contrast StarCrossedLovers, where the lovers aren't bigoted themselves but can't be together because they are from bigoted groups.

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* ''Film/EuropaEuropa'': Leni, a German girl from the BDL (Bund Deutscher Mädel) becomes attracted to Solly, unaware that he's a Jew who's HiddenInPlainSight. She's quite committed to the Nazi cause, partly because her father (a Wehrmacht soldier) was killed in the war. Because of this, Solly cannot take things further, especially because he would be found out if she saw his circumcised penis. We're later told that Leni has become pregnant by a different boy.

* In ''Manga/AttackOnTitan'', [[spoiler: Reiner]] is indicated a couple of times to have a crush on Historia, despite being raised from birth believing that the "Eldian" inhabitants of the Walls are AlwaysChaoticEvil. It is later revealed that [[spoiler: Reiner himself is the son of an Eldian woman and a Marleyan father. He learns that apart from being extremely racist towards Eldians, his father is absolutely terrified of what will happen to him if they Marleyan higher-ups find out about his secret.]]