Times where manipulators ask "Why Did You Make Me Hit You?" in Anime and Manga.
- Berserk: In the bit where Griffith meets Guts again, he calmly declares that he feels no remorse for anything he did during the Eclipse, and says it all so damn reasonably that it's almost as if he thinks Guts is the one being irrational, is truly horrifying. Even if you didn't know what he was capable of with his demonic powers, the sociopathic lack of remorse would be frightening enough on its own. This aspect of him rattles even Guts and considering how much he's been through without batting an eye, that says a lot. To recap:
- Canonically he develops a thing for Guts and tries to kill Guts when he tries to leave him, thinks of him when having sex with Princess Charlotte as a sort of rebound, and feels overwhelming hatred towards Guts in addition to love afterwards because he was tortured for having sex with Charlotte and he believes it’s Guts fault but it was also these feelings which kept him somewhat low key sane during everything. Following that he proceeds to rape Casca while having Guts pinned down and stares at him with a cold but psychotic gaze the whole time; wanting to make him feel just as much anguish as he did when Guts left him and the events following that. Guts himself is obsessed with killing Griffith following this and his betrayal of him and the Band of the Hawks.
- In Bitter Virgin when Hinako is discovered to have miscarried, her mother demands to know the name of the man she has been sleeping with. Hinako immediately replies it is her stepfather (as he has been repeatedly raping her), to which the mother slaps her across the face as she believes Hinako is lying to protect the real man. It isn't until Hinako is pregnant again and the doctor suggests from the bruises all over Hinako that she isn't a willing participant, does her mother believe her.
- Black Cat: Creed, Train's Stalker with a Crush, smashes Train into a wall and tells him the following:"This is all your fault, Train! It's your fault for making me mad! Time and time again, I come to get your cooperation so it wouldn't come to this. But despite that... all those attempts were futile. All of them!"
- Bleach: Giselle has a tendency to hit or otherwise abuse Bambietta and every time she tells Bambietta that it is her own fault.
- Elfen Lied: Mayu's stepfather sexually abuses her whenever Mayu's mother is not home. When Mayu tries to tell her mother what's been happening to her, she immediately gets a slap across the face. Her mother yells at her "It's you who isn't wanted! Because you're here, he doesn't...", which implies that her mother hit Mayu because she is jealous of her, and that she is trying to convince Mayu that she is the one who is in the wrong.
- Akito Sohma from Fruits Basket physically and psychologically abuses the members of the Zodiac to keep them in line, and will often convince them that the abuse towards them is really their fault and they deserve it. This is something Akito can easily make use of, since the Sohma clan's curse keeps the Zodiac members from ever hating Akito no matter how bad the abuse gets. A particularly vicious example is when Akito blinded Hatori in one eye after he asked for permission to marry his girlfriend Kana, and immediately accused Kana of being responsible for Hatori's pain. Kana ended up agreeing, and she fell into such a deep depression over it that Hatori was forced to erase her memories of their relationship so she could recover.
- Fushigi Yuugi: In the manga version, Mrs. Yuuki reads Miaka's diary and therefore learns of her crush on Tamahome. Miaka feels hurt and upset that, aside from her mother reading her diary, she is being forbidden from even thinking about him when Mrs. Yuuki is dating someone after having a divorce two years ago... and SLAP!
- Hayate the Combat Butler played with this in the 'End of the World Arc'. Hayate wants Athena to join his family outside the RG and she can't bring herself to ask him to risk himself to allow her to, they fight (lethally), and then Hayate unknowingly triggers her Berserk Button of her not having parents, to which she then 'slaps' him by ordering him to leave (so she doesn't kill him?), before she's able to break down, he does so, thinking he's failed her. Afterward, she breaks down crying for having to resort to ordering him away to protect him. He does try to return to apologise but finds he's unable to.
- Hetalia: Axis Powers: Bulgaria uses this as his reason to beat up and bully North Italy despite being allies.Bulgaria: I... I just got the sudden urge to hit him when I looked at his face.
- Hot Gimmick: This is often how Domestic Abuser Ryoki acts in regards to his girlfriend Hatsumi.
- This makes up most of Precia Testarossa's dialogue towards her daughter Fate in Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha, with her playing the disappointed parent card while committing horrific acts of child abuse.
- Outlaw Star: Harry hits Melfina quite a few times, angry at her for refusing to leave with him when he "came all this way just to pick you up."Harry: "I didn't mean to do that, Melfina! I'm sorry, I promise I'm not going to hurt you!" *backhands her to the floor roughly 40 seconds later* "Why can't I make you understand?!"
- In Paprika, the eponymous character's Stalker with a Crush slaps her across the face when she says something that offends him.Osanai: "Didn't I tell you, not to say anything that would make me get rough with you?"
- Peacemaker Kurogane: In episode 19, Susumu wraps his hands around Tetsunosuke's throat and makes an attempt to strangle him while saying, "Did you come to piss me off again? Do you think I like being pissed off? I wouldn't be feeling this way if you weren't here!" All this coupled with the fact that Tetsunosuke is crying and staring at him sadly, makes for a very Ho Yay-tastic scene between the two.
- Peach Girl: Sae tries to make people think that Momo is doing this to her and succeeds for a while when it's really the other way around.
- Shaman King: Jeanne. If you don't accept her Last-Second Chance, she WILL kill you, then weep Tender Tears for your sad fate.
- A Silent Voice: Naoka Ueno does this twice. She physically assaults Shouko twice in the film, and both times blames Shouko. Once on the Ferris wheel, when Ueno slaps Shouko for daring to say she hates herself due to Ueno's bullying. Then after Shouko's attempted suicide, Ueno blames Shouko for her "selfishness" in trying to end her own life, even though Shouko's suicide attempt was partly due to Ueno's continued bullying.
- Tokyo Ghoul:
- Kaneki's mother is shown beating him while he's curled up on the floor, sobbing... and, if you look closely, he's apologizing over and over and saying things like "I won't ask for anything" and "I don't need it".
- In chapter 73 of re: Torso brings Mutsuki a flower crown, but gets angry when Mutsuki glares at him and won't accept his compliments. He beats Mutsuki violently while screaming insults. As a child, Mutsuki's father abused him. He learned that if he played along, he wouldn't be hurt. We get a Big Madam & Juuzou parallel, with his father saying "Here's your reward" and it's implied he raped Mutsuki. Later, the two are lying together on a makeshift futon. Torso says that he only "scolds" Mutsuki because of how deep his love is, and Mutsuki cries while agreeing. He thinks that he is cursed and it's implied Torso raped him as well.
- Torso's dad abused him in the past. When Torso "betrayed" him by going to the village because he was hungry his father stuck his hand in Karao's mouth and tore apart his cheeks. Blood came out and Torso screamed. Torso's dad then asked, "Why would you betray me, who brings you food, by putting me in danger like this? If you wanna go to the village so much, you can be alone from now on!" He then left, cursing and muttering, "I even provided him with food, and this is how I was repaid."
- Tsukiyama tells Kaneki he should accept responsibility for making him so focused on eating him and tells him it's his fault because he's so delicious before attacking him.
- The Vision of Escaflowne: Dilandau torches half of Palas, and Van calls him out for it. Dilandau replies, "It's your fault. The city is burning because of you. My cheek is burning because of you! So now you must die!" Then again, it's Dilandau.
