Line #95 Main/TurningIntoYourParent


1	->''"Oh my God. I’ve become my father. I’ve been trying so hard not to become my mother, I didn’t see this coming."''
2	-->-- '''Rachel Green''', ''Series/{{Friends}}''
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4	It doesn't matter how much a child rolled their eyes at AmazinglyEmbarrassingParents, or insisted that they would ''never'' [[FormerTeenRebel outgrow their rebellious phase]] and become a boring adult like their old man. There is ''always'' a risk that a child will act like their parent -- and when the child realizes this, they're going to ''hate'' it.
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6	The fear of turning into your parents can be played several ways, for comedy's sake or for drama. Maybe the parent has some embarrassing quirk or strange hobby that the children always mocks, only for the children to start [[SharedFamilyQuirks picking up on those quirks and hobbies]] themselves as an adult. In a more dramatic sense, the child may have AbusiveParents, and [[TheChainOfHarm is terrified that they will grow up to act awful to their own child]] [[FreudianExcuse because of it]].
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8	Subtrope of LikeFatherLikeSon. Often an example of {{Irony}}. Compare GenerationXerox when a child and parent undergo very similar situations (and usually compares the ''child'' selves of the characters rather than their ''adult'' selves). Compare/contrast TurnOutLikeHisFather, where it's the ''other parent'' trying to ''keep'' the kid growing up to be like their worse parent. Contrast LikeFatherUnlikeSon, EvilParentsWantGoodKids for an example of parents trying to defy this, and BreakingTheCycleOfBadParenting, when someone vows to ''not'' be a bad parent just because their own parents were bad.
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10	[[JustForFun/IThoughtItMeant Not to be confused with]] children {{shapeshifting}} into their parents, though some works may actually portray such a thing as a literal representation of the children's fears.
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13	!!Examples:
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16	[[folder:Advertising]]
17	* A Advertising/{{Progressive}} campaign has new homeowners "become their parents" in various ways, such as by acting grumpy, making lame puns, and watching golf on television. The campaign even introduced a life coach who helps people avoid becoming their parents.
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21	* One of Fate Testarossa's greatest fears in ''Franchise/LyricalNanoha'' is becoming similar to her mother (who ended up as an insane and abusive EvilMatriarch). In ''Anime/MagicalGirlLyricalNanohaStrikers'', the BigBad almost successfully exploits this fear against her in a BreakingSpeech, but is interrupted, fortunately for her.
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25	* ''ComicBook/SpiderMan2099'': Miguel O'Hara is terrified of turning into his father, a CorruptCorporateExecutive and the BigBad of the comic. This has caused a number of problems in the family, such as Miguel being TheUnfavorite and having near panic attacks at the mere thought of acting like his father.
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29	* ''Fanfic/IReincarnatedAsAMinorVillainessAndSurvivedPastMyDeathScene'': Odin Lowe, Duke of Yuy, loved Aoi Clarke and wanted to protect her, so he put her in a luxurious house in which she was left isolated and lonely until she died. Years later, their son Heero falls in love with Duo Maxwell, marries him and showers him with gifts but struggles to understand his spouse wants to be treated as a human being instead of a fragile bauble.
30	-->'''Duo:''' I know what your father considered love. And you are so much your father's son.
31	-->'''Heero:''' Duo, I would never... Do that to you.
32	-->'''Duo:''' And yet you still managed to accomplish it! In the end, I still would have died alone, in an empty building that may as well have been my casket!
33	* ''Fanfic/UsAndThem'': In the sequel and side stories, [[VideoGame/FinalFantasyVII Aeris]] laments at times that she's becoming like her father, "the AbsentMindedProfessor's absent-minded daughter." Her mother also notes it: "My husband, the ManChild, and my first-born daughter, following in her father's footsteps."
34	* ''Fanfic/WhoWeAreInTheDark'': As said when a daughter criticizes her mother, and mentions her grandfather, who also had a habit of embarrassing {{Affectionate Nickname}}s:
35	--> "You are ''really'' channeling Poppy Firelight right now."
36	--> Luster could almost see the gears turn in Starlight's head. "Oh. Shoot." Starlight released her daughter fully and brought a forehoof to her head. "Dad told me I'd understand after you moved out, but I didn't think..." She shook her head. "Never mind. Sorry, Luster, I think empty nest syndrome hit me harder than I realized."
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38	--> Luster nodded and initiated a much more reasonable hug. "Thanks, Mom."
39	--> "Anytime, Dawny-dearest."
40	--> "''Mom''."
41	--> Starlight winked at her. "I'm only doing it where none of your friends can hear me, Luster. It's a lot more than your Poppy ever did for me."
42	* ''Fanfic/LightLost'': Nico demands that nobody enter Karolina's old room after she dies and screams at Molly when she enters to the room to look for a hair clip, eerily reminiscent of her mother's reaction after her sister Amy died. Tina screamed at Nico after she went into Amy's room to borrow some leggings and ''trapped her husband'' inside after an argument. Difference is, Nico apologizes to Molly after she cools off.
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46	* In ''Film/{{Jumanji}}'', when Alan notices that Peter, having been turned into a monkey as punishment for trying to cheat at the game, is crying, he chastises him for doing so and says, "You have a problem, you face it like a man," the same words his father had used on him when Alan hides in his father's shoe factory from Billy Jessup and his gang. But when Peter doesn't stop crying, Alan apologizes for being so harsh and remarks, "Twenty-six years in the jungle, and I ''still'' became my father."
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50	* ''WesternAnimation/AGoofyMovie'': Max's character arc is that he initially fears that he is growing up into the spitting image of his father, Goofy, and is especially embarrassed that he's inherited Goofy's SignatureLaugh. This is best shown in the film's [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THhfOqYqX5s&feature=youtu.be opening]] {{nightmare sequence}}, where Max dreams that he's on a date with his crush Roxanne, and everything is going just fine until he begins [[TransformationHorror transforming in hideous fashion]] into Goofy and it scares Roxanne away. [[spoiler:The real Roxanne turns out to be attracted to Max ''because'' of the laugh.]]
51	* In ''WesternAnimation/TurningRed'', when Mei meets a younger version of her mother, Ming, in the astral realm, Ming is crying about how her own mother put too much pressure on her to be perfect. Mei realizes Ming's excessive pressure on her to be perfect means Ming inadvertently turned into Mei's maternal grandmother with regard to parenting styles.
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55	* In Creator/HenryKuttner's short story "Absalom", there is a BizarreBabyBoom of smarter and smarter genius kids. The protagonist was dominated heavily by his genius father out of envy, now dominates his own son, the titular character... and when the son manages to turn the tables and hypnotize the father into inaction, father can only think with glee that one day, Absalom will have his own son.
56	* WordOfGod regarding ''Literature/TheDresdenFiles'' is that its protagonist, a rebellious and edgy young wizard at first, will become more and more like his authoritarian and by-the-book mentor and father figure, Ebenezar [=McCoy=] ([[spoiler:who is actually his maternal grandfather]]), as his CharacterArc progresses.
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60	* The ''Series/DoctorWho'' ChristmasSpecial [[Recap/DoctorWho2010CSAChristmasCarol "A Christmas Carol"]] is centered around Kazran Sardick, a miserly, abusive man who is just as bad as his father ([[SignificantDoubleCasting indeed, both are played]] by Michael Gambon). The Doctor decides to save him by [[YetAnotherChristmasCarol reenacting]] ''Literature/AChristmasCarol'', with himself as the Ghosts. But Kazran himself is the Ghost of Christmas Yet to Come, as he faces his younger self, who stutteringly calls him "Dad?", triggering a massive MyGodWhatHaveIDone moment and subsequent HeelFaceTurn.
61	* ''Series/{{Friends}}'':
62	** [[Recap/FriendsS7E3TheOneWithPhoebesCookies "The One With Phoebe's Cookies"]]
63	*** When Joey briefly has a boat, Rachel offers to teach him how to sail. However, Joey is a predictably terrible pupil. Rachel becomes more and more irritated until she finally starts shouting at him and becoming outright abusive. She then apologises, shocked to realise:
64	---->'''Rachel:''' Oh, God, Joey. I'm my father. Oh, my God. This is horrible. I've been trying so hard not to be my mother, I did not see this coming.
65	*** Later, in TheStinger of the same episode, Rachel and Joey make up and share some sandwiches. Joey keeps badgering Rachel, telling her she's holding her sandwich wrong and "wasting good pastrami!" He then gasps and declares: "Oh my god! I'M MY DAD!"
66	** Played with and averted in the finale to Season Seven, when Ross and Phoebe find Chandler after he runs away from marrying Monica. He tells them he's afraid that their marriage will become a disaster like his parents'. To reassure him, Ross asks Chandler if he's ever put on a cocktail dress and come to Ross' hotel room, to which Chandler answers no.
67	--->'''Ross:''' Then you are ''neither'' of your parents!
68	* In an episode of ''Series/HomeImprovement'', while Tim and Jill go to an awards ceremony, and a costume party afterwards, Brad's friend convinces him to throw [[WildTeenParty a party while they're gone]]. The day after they shut the party down, they ground Brad and as they look at him through the window raking tree leaves, Tim comments that his mother always told him he would have a son like him when he got busted and grounded for doing something like what Brad did. Jill responds that her parents would always say something like that when she got grounded for doing something that wild. The episode ends with Jill and Tim agreeing that one day after he got a job and got married, Brad would end up having a kid just like him.
69	* ''Series/SabrinaTheTeenageWitch'': An episode where Sabrina is acting brattier than usual has Zelda shut her down with "You live under our roof, you live under our rules." Zelda then slumps down in shock because "Oh Lord, I've swallowed mother."
70	%%* ''Series/YoungSheldon'': In "A Clogged Pore, a Little Spanish and the Future", Sheldon dreams about turning into George, Mary, Connie, and Georgie.
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74	* In the Music/HarryChapin song "Cat's in the Cradle," a man is too busy to be with his son, who keeps saying "I'm gonna be like you, Dad." At the end, the son is all grown up and too busy to be with his dad, who then realizes that his son has become just like him.
75	* In Music/{{Trisha Yearwood}}'s song "She's in Love with the Boy," a teenage girl's father has a pretty low opinion of his daughter's boyfriend, viewing him as dumb and lazy. His wife points out that her own father said similar things about him when they were teenagers.
76	-->''Mama breaks in, says "Don't lose your temper!''\
77	''It wasn't very long ago''\
78	''When you yourself was just a hayseed plow-boy''\
79	''Who didn't have a row to hoe!"''
80	* Music/{{Eminem}}'s infamous hatred of his mother (and his father, who walked out on the family) leads to his fear of turning into them to be a major theme of his body of work. The ''Relapse'' song "My Mom" is dedicated to the fact that his mother was a Valium addict, and he also ended up as one.
81	* Music/GreenDay's song "[[Music/{{Nimrod}} The Grouch]]" includes a line where the singer realizes he's turning out like his dad.
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85	* Zig-zagged in ''Theatre/TheImportanceOfBeingEarnest,'' which states that whether a child will become like their parent depends on their gender.
86	-->'''Jack:''' You don't think there is any chance of Gwendolen becoming like her mother in about a hundred and fifty years, do you, Algy?
87	-->'''Algernon:''' All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That's his.
88	* In ''Theatre/JasperInDeadland'', Jasper thinks he and Agnes are BetterAsFriends because he's afraid that a relationship between them would fall apart the same way his parents' relationship failed.
89	* In ''Theatre/NextToNormal'', one of Natalie's fears is that she's going to end up developing bipolar disorder just like her mother did.
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93	* ''VideoGame/AnotherCode'': In the ''Recollection'' version of ''Two Memories'', some of Richard's hidden notes concern his feelings about his father, and how he was a workaholic who was [[WhenYouComingHomeDad never present in his life]], meaning he never got to know him before he died a premature death when Richard was 18. He realizes he's come to do just the same to his daughter Ashley, having faked his death in order to continue work on ANOTHER for over a decade rather than abandon his research to raise her. However, he comes to have a somewhat positive outlook on this, as he realizes his father probably thought about him and his sister all the time while working, just as he now does with Ashley.
94	* ''VideoGame/BioShockInfinite'': In the ''Burial at Sea'' DLC, Elizabeth pursues revenge upon [[spoiler:Comstock with such ferocity, she fails to notice when she herself becomes very much like him. Since Comstock is just an alternate version of her own father, she is appalled by her apparent adoption of Comstock's ways over Booker's and resolves to sacrifice herself to right some of the wrongs she did -- just like Booker did in the original game in order to redeem himself before her.]]
95	* ''Franchise/MassEffect'': Liara T'Soni's character arc ends up very much like her mother, Matriarch Benezia. Like Benezia, she starts off as a rather naive and idealistic individual, but is swept into the entourage of a larger-than-life SPECTRE agent (Saren in Benezia's case, Shepard in Liara's) who does whatever it takes to win the impending RobotWar, and eventually becomes a ruthless and calculating crime lord utterly devoted to her leader's cause. Of course, Liara's case is much milder, since it involves far less Reaper indoctrination and it is clear as day that she fights alongside with [[TheHero Shepard]], so she ends up better off than her mom.
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99	* The title character of ''VisualNovel/{{Melody}}'' learns to appreciate dressing up, like her mother did. Since she doesn’t really have any dressy clothes of her own, Melody even borrows her mother’s own clothes to wear when the occasion demands it.
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103	* In [[http://deep-dark-fears.tumblr.com/post/149348187262/echoes-of-laughter-a-fear-submitted-by-lisa-to this]] ''Deep Dark Fears'' comic, a woman realizes she's become her mother while complaining about her.
104	* ''Webcomic/SleeplessDomain'': Rue is a MagicalGirl who operates solo. Her mom [[https://www.sleeplessdomain.com/comic/chapter-13-page-1 is concerned]] about her getting hurt on duty and wants her to find a team, with the implication this is a recurring disagreement between them. Later that night, Rue meets Zoe on the latter's first night fighting as a magical girl and is surprised and concerned that Zoe was out alone. Then she [[https://www.sleeplessdomain.com/comic/chapter-13-page-20 remembers]] her mom worrying over her and thinks "''Oh no''," realizing that she's acting like her.
105	-->'''AltText:''' There is no escape from momification
106	* ''Webcomic/GirlGenius'': Gilgamesh Wulfenbach has a moment like this after he [[http://www.girlgeniusonline.com/comic.php?date=20080305 rants]] that every time he tries to show kindness, it's [[VirtueIsWeakness interpreted as weakness]].
107	-->'''Gil:''' ...Oh. Oh, ''no''. This must be how my ''father'' feels -- ''all the time!''
108	* ''Webcomic/DominicDeegan'': Miranda has [[https://www.dominic-deegan.com/comic/2835-20111206/ a brief moment]] of this when she realizes she's mimicking her mother's own words regarding wedding preparations to Dominic and Luna.
109	-->'''Miranda:''' Excuse me. I have to go hide in another dimension. '''Forever.'''
110	* ''Webcomic/SaturdayMorningBreakfastCereal'': One comic had a woman realize this...while she was planning to burn her family alive and make the youngest watch.
111	* In ''Webcomic/TheInexplicableAdventuresOfBob'' artificial life form Golly's deepest fear is becoming like the uncaring scientist who raised her. Having given rise to two more [[ArtificialFamilyMember artificial offspring]] herself -- her clone-daughter Jolly and the MechanicalAbomination Gosh -- she's keenly aware that she hasn't been a proper parent to either of them and it bothers her intensely. When she realizes she's accidentally injured Jolly, she suffers a major FreakOut from sheer guilt. When Gosh leaves the solar system, Golly mutters quietly, "I love you," realizing she never told him and really only ever shouted at him when she had the chance.
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115	* ''WesternAnimation/BigCityGreens'': In "Rat Tail", Nancy is the only one of the Greens who hated Cricket's new rat tail hairdo, but she keeps shut about it. When Bill asks why, Nancy says she is afraid to tell Cricket she hates it because she fears she'll become like her father, who always criticized her as a child. In the end when she is caught and finally admits her hatred, Cricket reveals he will always love her no matter what she thinks of him.
116	* ''WesternAnimation/DannyPhantom'': When Jazz starts dating Johnny 13, Danny takes exception and starts spying on them and trying to sabotage Johnny. While his parents claim they don't approve in front of Jazz, they're secretly very proud of Danny for doing this, commenting that he's acting like [[BoyfriendBlockingDad Jack]]. Danny is more disturbed by this than anything else in this episode.
117	-->'''Maddie:''' Aww, Jack, he's like a little you!
118	* On ''WesternAnimation/GravityFalls'', Dipper captures a Gremloblin, who will show you [[IKnowWhatYouFear your worst nightmare]] if you stare into its eyes, by showing it its reflection. The Gremloblin then sees himself looking at a mirror wearing glasses, and realizing "I've become my father."
119	* ''WesternAnimation/KingOfTheHill'': More father figure than father but, in the episode ''Movin' On Up'', when Luanne, sick of Hank's rules, moves out, she manages to acquire three horrendous roommates. When the Hills come over for a housewarming, the trio of loafers manages to drive Luanne to the boiling point. While reading them the riot act, she's horrified to find herself using the exact same things Hank told her when she lived in his house, turning to the man and saying "Oh no, I've become... YOU!" before running off crying.
120	* In the ''WesternAnimation/MyGymPartnersAMonkey'' episode "Ain't Too Proud To Egg", the students have to care for eggs. As part of this, Windsor Gorilla tries to put his egg on Ingrid Giraffe's back, the idea being that the egg will cling to its mother's back like a gorilla, but the egg won't stay on. Ingrid suggests putting the egg in her backpack, but Windsor insists that it will not be treated as a marsupial and yells, "Windsor Jr. will cling to your back, and THAT'S FINAL!" He then gives himself a FacePalm and says, "Oh, no, I've become my father."
121	* In the ''WesternAnimation/SouthPark'' episode "Super Hard [=PCNess=]," [[Characters/SouthParkKyleBroflovski Kyle Broflovski]] begins to see ''Terrence and Philip'' as an offensive show, leading his classmates to mock him by comparing him to [[MoralGuardians his mother.]] Over the course of the episode, Kyle begins lashing out at Canada in a way that parallels his mother's behavior in [[WesternAnimation/SouthParkBiggerLongerAndUncut the movie.]]
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