Auties, Aspies, and other CloudCuckooLanders!

EDIT: Wow, page-topper. For clarity's sake, the following is in response to this post.

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The general view among the autistic community is that Autism Awareness Day is part of Autism Speaks' patronizing-at-best depiction of autism; as a result, the community instead pushes Autism Acceptance Day, in order to make it clear that autistic people should be accepted and accommodated for instead of treated as tragically diseased.

(Also hi, I'm an autistic they who's been lurking here for a while but never posted until now.)

Edited by bowserbros on Apr 2nd 2023 at 10:15:58 AM

Be kind.

Greetings, folks. I have ADHD and autism (possibly) and I'm surprised that I haven't posted in this thread yet. Within these past few months, as I allow myself to consume more content about neurodivergence, I have been doing more things to accommodate my needs (gotta relieve the stress of life, somehow).

I feel like I'm syphoned to my earbuds. Maybe I could be subconciously keeping them in all the time as a means of countering the volume of the constant streams of noise that help me focus. Maybe I just like the feeling of earbuds in my ears. Since the current pair I have are wired, it causes me to have my phone near me at all times even if I'm not using it, which means that one of my biggest distractions is not only in my face most of the time, but also practically dead weight since I need my earbuds to be connected to my phone (even when I'm not using it) so that the earphone jack isn't touching the grimy, stinky school floors. Also, the earbuds are easily yanked out of the phone jack, which can lead to damage. I don't trust bluetooth buds because their charge can be drained even when I'm not actually listening to anything.

TLDR: I like how earbuds feel in my ears and how they block out loud noises, but I'm starting to get tired of wired earbuds because I feel kinda guilty for having them plugged into my phone even when I'm not using my phone for anything. Should I cave and buy a pair of wireless ones? I've heard a lot of ND people online hyping up these Loop earplugs that work to filter out sounds without muffling them. This might be able to satisfy my urge to have my earbuds in without me needing to take them out constantly to hear people speak. Do any of you guys have experience with these Loop earbuds? What do they feel like?

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You absolutely should get wireless headphones. I use headphones to listen to music, which keeps me sane and focused. Not only that, there's no wire to get in the way of anything and restrict where you can place your phone (granted you still need to be at least several feet within your phone when using wireless headphones or else they'll disconnect but you can put your phone on say a counter while you go do chores with wireless headphones on). Plus, wireless headphones don't break as easily as wired headphones.

EDIT: Didn't noticed that you asked if I had any experience with Loop Headphones. I don't have any experience with that but I did had experience with wireless headphones in general, so apologies for that.

Edited by Cutegirl920fire on Apr 26th 2023 at 10:04:59 AM

Victor of HGS S320 | "There's rosemary, that's for remembrance. Pray you, love, remember."

Hello there. A year ago, I got diagnosed with autism. This helped me realise that my quirks (because of which I got laughed at in middle school) are not part of my personality, but actually because of my disorder. I wear wireless headphones and listen to music almost all time to block out the noise, I have a hard time socializing and making friends with my peers, I am constantly lost in my thoughts and I literally have hyperfixations (i. e. my current hyperfixation is a french cartoon called Wakfu, I could talk about it for HOURS!). Currently, I go to special supports group that helps teens and young adults with autism and other disorders, we play games and film short videos there. I also take medication to help me with emotional swings. Anything else to help me cope?

Who has lost his tail?

I had a job interview earlier this week for a company that is… I guess certain people would call it ”woke”, because they try to be as inclusive, environmentally friendly and understanding as possible. They’d apparenly had a seminar about neurodivergency a day or two earlier, so I felt comfortable telling the interviewer that I might be on the spectrum.

Over all, it felt good to have an interview where the questions allowed me to just be open about such things, like adding that I work best when people give me either clear guidelines or a clear end goal and I get frustrated and stressed out when I’m expected to read minds. I hope I move on to the next step of the hiring process - It seems like such a nice place to work at.

Edited by MagmaTeaMerry on May 13th 2023 at 8:39:42 PM

My AO3 profile. Let sleeping cats lie and be cute and calming.

I wish my job interview today went like that.

It's one thing to make a spectacle. It's another to make a difference.

Don’t we all? You have my sympathies.

One reason (amongst others) I’m looking out for a new job is that I wish to be in a work environment where I feel at least somewhat understood. My former boss just never seemed to get my needs, despite me explicitly telling him that I need to know what he wants, if only somewhat, in order to do the best job I can. Every time, it fell on deaf ears, sadly.

And that’s not even going into the fact that the work position I’m in right now is one that I was effectively forced into - It’s not what I want to work with at all.

Edited by MagmaTeaMerry on May 13th 2023 at 9:43:35 PM

My AO3 profile. Let sleeping cats lie and be cute and calming.

This being Mother's Day, I'm thinking once again of that autistic person who resembles me who did perhaps the worst thing a human being can do.

(And I would say I'm self-diagnosed, but there's also everyone who has ever met me.)

Edited by TwinBird on May 15th 2023 at 6:07:27 AM

My posts make considerably more sense read in the voice of John Ratzenberger.

It's been a while since I've posted on this thread, huh? Anyways, Loop earplug update: holy shit

I haven't been wearing them consistently, but man, does it feel good to be able to feel the sensation of having earbuds in my ears without having to constantly take them out to hear things. It's great!

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I started my third job recently. It's my first full-time job and as a grocery store cashier. I have ADHD, so I'm surprised by how much I can focus on customers (I'm unmedicated). However, I definitely have my moments of "zoning out", especially when there's not customers coming through. I'll turn around and suddenly find there's a customer standing there. I also tend to scan things twice on accident and will absent-mindedly scan something that another customer in line is purchasing, so I have to write a lot of void checks. Thus far I haven't gone one day without having to write one.

Outside of work, I'll often get distracted by other things when in a conversation, and I impulsively interrupt people sometimes. I dropped out of college last year mainly due to financial instability, but I also think I got too distracted with schoolwork and procrastinated too much.

I know most people here are on the spectrum (hence the title), but as a still-neurodivergent individual, I wanted to share how my ADHD affects my (young) adult life.

She/they. Hirrus Clutumnus is my comfort character

tfw I join a forum full of hyper-nerds(this site) and I'm still paranoid about coming across as cringe and being ostracized for how I type and what I like :|

Anyone got some advice on how to overcome this??

Edited by MP-Lily on May 18th 2023 at 9:31:56 AM

Just do what I do: stress eat and sleep to distract yourself from the everlasting crippling loneliness that is having all the wrong opinions on the internet.

It's one thing to make a spectacle. It's another to make a difference.

here!

my grades dropped horribly because most of my exams were groupwork, and for some reason a part of me is stopping myself from talking to other people.

texting and forums is alright for me, but when i have to actually talk out loud, i just freeze up and nothing comes out. also apparently, later on in life, i have to do a lot of groupwork and i am totally NOT prepared for that. what do i do

Edited by riptideRuptur on Jul 19th 2023 at 3:52:52 AM

Bayonetta, you bury your loneliness deep down in your eyes [note: at all times, the steel eel pilot is a salmon] (they/them)

I think TVT is the kind of place where people can be into anything and still be accepted. Other people may not share your fandoms, but they don't mind that you have them.

As for group work, I really have no idea what could help with that. It's something autistic people are typically bad at, and it's also a needed skill in life. All I can say is good luck, and you might just have to push yourself through.

Edited by BonsaiForest on Jul 25th 2023 at 9:17:00 AM

IK people get hyperfixated on fictional characters and such (it sure happened to me before), but has anyone been hyperfixated on their own creations?

I believe that I'm currently hyperfixated on my AU version of Mina Harker from Dracula where she becomes a monster hunter post canon and I can't stop thinking about her and I love her so much like ohmygod.

Interesting, I'm not fixated on the original canon character, just my specific version of her

Victor of HGS S320 | "There's rosemary, that's for remembrance. Pray you, love, remember."

You can be hyperfixated on pretty much anything.

I do some cleanup and then I enjoy shows you probably think are cringe.

Yeah, when I was about 6 or 7, my hyperfixation was a cat food commercial for some reason.

Though it was probably connected to my general hyperfixation on cats.

My AO3 profile. Let sleeping cats lie and be cute and calming.

My shadow teacher said that I'm autistic! She's also accompanying other children with neurodivergence as well.

I genuinely have no idea if this belongs in this thread or not (Maybe it fits better in the psychology thread in OTP), but anyway;

Does anyone else here, upon getting angry at someone regardless of the reason, then start to at least try to think ”logically” about the situation only to then just feel sad and self-loathing afterwards?

Because I feel like that’s how I handle it most of the time; I tend to bottle negative feelings up. But I don’t know if it can be attributed to neurodivergency or not.

Edited by MagmaTeaMerry on Aug 18th 2023 at 8:45:11 PM

My AO3 profile. Let sleeping cats lie and be cute and calming.

Well, sometimes, I overthink things too, and I wonder if people are being honest or not about whether or not they like me. Though that may be a general anxiety issue.

On the subject of overthinking, when people ask me questions about rather difficult topics, I have trouble articulating my feelings, so I word it in a rather basic way (though other people may perceive it as vague).

Oh, I believe in yesterday

this is Heyitsgalaxycreeper's new account, and on that account i said i was autistic... and i mean. autism can't be changed, so yeah i still am

tell me of the flowers and their smells / anytime you're sick of waking up as someone else

Does anyone have these "happy stims" they do whenever they're excited or well, happy?

Jay Gatsby revealing himself and doing the toast in the 2013 Gatsby film adaptation does that to me where I smile, softly clap my hands and sometimes giggle.

Victor of HGS S320 | "There's rosemary, that's for remembrance. Pray you, love, remember."

Me :D

Ocean | He/They

I sometimes have an excited specific stim that I've noticed - a sort of slight flapping followed by some quick clapping.

I have a stim where I hum alot.

Cosmic human watches over a certain Meme universe.